The subtext of texting definitely exists. It seems that texting while convenient, has removed true intimacy and connection with other humans. What are you feelings?
I think texting is fine for quick things and for flirting. But for anything important or complicated I find it frustrating. When trying to convey emotions or details, I find it cumbersome, I start making typos and feel like I can't convey my message. This is frustrating for me, especially if I am trying to quell a misunderstanding (which could've been avoided by an actual conversation) or if my message is time sensitive.
I can see how texting can be appealing when initially meeting and flirting with potential date(s) as it adds a "safe" buffer. But after establishing a relationship (platonic or romantic), I think it can cause confusion and misunderstandings.
I think social media and SmartPhones have made us less social. And it seems Millennials do everything with their phones BUT talk (a.k.a. "Face-Time" ) -- I find that sad.
Texting is fine for quick messages. I find it preferable to a phone call where you just need to impart some info. But it SUCKS for sustained communication, partly because I just can't do it fast with my thumbs. LOL! But beyond that, it's difficult to express emotion and tone and EASY to be misunderstood. This goes for email as well.
I enjoy texting/typing/messaging formats specifically because they allow me to get all of my ideas out and to convey them in a way that is articulate. Talking face to face can be difficult because sometimes people will try to speak over you, ignore you, or interrupt you.
I agree with you 100%. A text is words on a screen. It might be a bot or anything. You cannot be intimate with a text. I need to hear your voice to know you are real. Then, if you do not text me to death, we can have a text off and on during the day.
Some people are so addicted to texting that they would do a job interview that way if possible.
It allows an opportunity to hesitate before responding and reflecting before delivering the response... It's not utilized effectively perhaps but there is that opportunity. It is more difficult to reconsider your Initial reaction - complete with body language, tone of voice and volume modifiers, via face to face or even video chatting versus texting.
I see the advantages when there is only one, maybe two, statement or questions. When a conversation would be better, texting is not the way to do it. Texting is too close to pagers, so to me, it's like we're moving backwards...What next, smoke signals?
Also, I feel it does not promote any real sense of feeling in a message, and does not help couples to stay connected.
You can't beat the convenience. I can keep a conversation going at work by ignoring it when I'm busy and replying when I have a chance. Couldn't do that by phone.
The neat thing is when you both send essentially the same text to each other at the same time, and they cross out in cyberland somewhere.
And then of course there is sexting.
i like to use email for work and DON"T hardly answer my phone.. if i talk to somebody on the phone and they tell me what they want and i tell them a price, i forget it right when i hang up. i like written words because i can read and reference it as i need to. i wouldn't mind my g/f - if i had one- to text me nice little messages. my x used to text me from the bedroom as i was working in the other room. but to talk i would much rather talk in person..and never had phone sex but i'm going to go out on a limb and say i also like that much better in person...well much better in her.
I don't "text" as such, but use Facebook messenger on my laptop so I can use a full-sized keyboard. I prefer using this over phone calls or Skyping. I find face to face encounters draining since there is so much protocol required..correct facial expressions, being well-groomed, responding to body language, etc. My daughter keeps trying to "talk" to me with the voice messenger, but I try to decline.
When she's on voice or video feed, she is often rude, ignores me while talking to her boyfriend or looking at her phone to laugh about other messages, etc. Plus I'm often forced to see her in bed with her boyfriend and watch him snoring (gross) and see her many bored signals, as though she were doing me a favor.
I prefer to just message..say what we're going to say, move on. But if she actually is in a chatty mood, such as when she's not getting along with her boyfriend, she is more fun to chat with on the voice messenger.
I'm almost completely deaf so the opposite is true for me. Without text and social media I would be cut off from the rest of the world. I know sign language but it's no good unless I m talking to someone else who knows it. I can't hear a phone call. I can barely hear face to face