Do you have a "type?" Have most of the people you've been with shared a common trait?
I dated a lot of "class clowns," most were creative types (minus my husband), and the majority were tall. Also, as I was a headstrong personality when I was younger, I tended towards more laid back people.
I haven't done a lot of conventional dating. I was in a 10 year relationship (5 of which were married), then I met my second wife in an AOL chatroom (before online dating was a "thing" ), and that turned into a 20 year relationship. So now I find myself in the dating pool for the first time in a very long time. I am attracted to intelligent women with sarcastic senses of humor. My first wife didn't match that type which has more to do with me than with her. In my 20s, I wasn't thinking. No, really, just not. LOL!
In the past I have been attracted to guys with big personalities, having long hair, tall and slim, blue eyes, and work in the trades-physical hard work.
Most recently intelligence, political activism,anti-trump, agnostic/atheist, sexually active, loving animals and music and travel are most important to me now.
Not any more but in my younger days indeed. I always had to pursue the one that everyone wanted but was afraid to approach, So I just paid attention to the ones that others spoke of.
If I wanted a short time relationship or one nighters I looked for the ones looking. Mainly superficial relationships. I never really pursued those I had a connection with because I didn't want to lose that. Sometimes I lost that because I didn't.
I like intelligent women who can carry on a good conversation. I've never liked bimbos at all, and I tend to like younger women these days but have had both. 38 to 55 is a good age range for me, but I've seen a lot of great women 65 plus. I have a FB girlfriend who is 54 and we talk 4 hours on the phone sometimes but I doubt anything serious will become of it. You never know.