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Do you have a dating pattern?

Do you have a "type?" Have most of the people you've been with shared a common trait?

I dated a lot of "class clowns," most were creative types (minus my husband), and the majority were tall. Also, as I was a headstrong personality when I was younger, I tended towards more laid back people.


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Loud, brash, funny bears. Toss in a brain and a smidgen of nerd and I'm smitten.


My dating history is too sparse to extrapolate patterns from.

resserts Level 8 Mar 25, 2018

Hahaha. This!


No established pattern due to lack of relevant data.

Nebroxah Level 6 Mar 25, 2018

Yes they went with me I was serious with only two ladies and i married thesecond one 58 years ago and we are still going strong.

Marine Level 8 Mar 25, 2018

Intelligence and depth. That's my type. Those two things can overcome a lot with me.


I haven't done a lot of conventional dating. I was in a 10 year relationship (5 of which were married), then I met my second wife in an AOL chatroom (before online dating was a "thing" ), and that turned into a 20 year relationship. So now I find myself in the dating pool for the first time in a very long time. I am attracted to intelligent women with sarcastic senses of humor. My first wife didn't match that type which has more to do with me than with her. In my 20s, I wasn't thinking. No, really, just not. LOL!

IAMGROOT Level 7 Mar 25, 2018

@Akfishlady Yep!


Surprisingly, no. I might be physically attracted to a type, initially. That seems to be quite fleeting and fickle, though.

I tend to really "fall" for quiet, aloof men.

Hey...aloof is my middle

@Hutch Yeah, but we can't even be friends, let alone anything more. We've never met.

@Donotbelieve ahhh...touche'. Truly, my loss...

@Hutch You could always ammend your opinions.

@Donotbelieve amending my options...yes! Deviating from truth....hmm, what say you?

@Hutch It's always an option, but why would one search for love online, if friendship via that forum were not possible?

@Donotbelieve One searches for "love" anywhere it can be found.

@jlynn37 I agree.



Absolutely. I haven't dated in many years and do not anticipate the pattern changing.

jlynn37 Level 8 Mar 25, 2018

In the past I have been attracted to guys with big personalities, having long hair, tall and slim, blue eyes, and work in the trades-physical hard work.

Most recently intelligence, political activism,anti-trump, agnostic/atheist, sexually active, loving animals and music and travel are most important to me now.

Wheew. I still fit.


I have stopped falling in lust, I hope. I have found that giving her a real chance we grow a lot closer. Sadly, nothing has worked due to them not being able to accept that i don't believe in their gods.


Not any more but in my younger days indeed. I always had to pursue the one that everyone wanted but was afraid to approach, So I just paid attention to the ones that others spoke of.
If I wanted a short time relationship or one nighters I looked for the ones looking. Mainly superficial relationships. I never really pursued those I had a connection with because I didn't want to lose that. Sometimes I lost that because I didn't.

MartinG Level 6 Mar 25, 2018

What a coincidence that you should ask the above question, which, I once asked a friend. His reply: "If it has two arms two legs and a pulse that will do.".......

ASTRALMAX Level 7 Mar 25, 2018

Women that think I'm not their type ....

Simon1 Level 7 Mar 25, 2018

Yeah. I don't...


About all I can say is that they were all female. That’s about the only quality they all share.


Far too many!


Yeah lunatics!

ipdg77 Level 8 Mar 29, 2018

Yes...fkn losers

Hutch Level 7 Mar 25, 2018

I haven't been on a date since the late 90s....I don't know if I would know what to do in today's dating scene....

twitch Level 6 Mar 30, 2018

These days, my dating life is like my religious life. It doesn't exist.

davyjones Level 6 Mar 27, 2018

I am attracted to women who are wicked smart, funny, open-minded and compassionate.

Now... whether or not they are attracted to me is a whole other story. smile001.gif


the creative type appeals to me; i just have to let go of the idea that there is anything cute about cowards.


I guess the closest thing I have to a type is strong,independent women..I'm a very independent fella..Ive got a job, my own place and a vehicle..I prefer a woman to be on the same footing.

josh23452 Level 7 Mar 29, 2018

Dating my current girlfriend for the past 22 years, but my old pattern was if they do not laugh easily and often goodbye.

michaelj Level 7 Mar 27, 2018

It doesnt seem like it to me. I suppose theyve all been fairly smart. Not sexist. Heterosexual. Some sort of sense of humour that I enjoyed. Thats about all they shared xD

Neraven Level 6 Mar 27, 2018

I like intelligent women who can carry on a good conversation. I've never liked bimbos at all, and I tend to like younger women these days but have had both. 38 to 55 is a good age range for me, but I've seen a lot of great women 65 plus. I have a FB girlfriend who is 54 and we talk 4 hours on the phone sometimes but I doubt anything serious will become of it. You never know.

DenoPenno Level 8 Mar 26, 2018
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