Do you have a "type?" Have most of the people you've been with shared a common trait?
I dated a lot of "class clowns," most were creative types (minus my husband), and the majority were tall. Also, as I was a headstrong personality when I was younger, I tended towards more laid back people.
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I haven't done a lot of conventional dating. I was in a 10 year relationship (5 of which were married), then I met my second wife in an AOL chatroom (before online dating was a "thing" ), and that turned into a 20 year relationship. So now I find myself in the dating pool for the first time in a very long time. I am attracted to intelligent women with sarcastic senses of humor. My first wife didn't match that type which has more to do with me than with her. In my 20s, I wasn't thinking. No, really, just not. LOL!
@Akfishlady Yep!
In the past I have been attracted to guys with big personalities, having long hair, tall and slim, blue eyes, and work in the trades-physical hard work.
Most recently intelligence, political activism,anti-trump, agnostic/atheist, sexually active, loving animals and music and travel are most important to me now.
Yes. It actually annoys me. I tend to be attracted to musicians or chefs, creative and traditionally non committal types, and then get irritated by their flaky dispositions or hesitancy to open up. I'm not monogamous, and don't have a ton of expectations, but I do need to truly connect or I am not just satisfied.
Well, you get good food and music! I write books, make apple trees, and have been involved in civic action.
@lucydaniels. its called a connection.
My dating patern is mostly not dating.
Not any more but in my younger days indeed. I always had to pursue the one that everyone wanted but was afraid to approach, So I just paid attention to the ones that others spoke of.
If I wanted a short time relationship or one nighters I looked for the ones looking. Mainly superficial relationships. I never really pursued those I had a connection with because I didn't want to lose that. Sometimes I lost that because I didn't.
Intelligence and depth. That's my type. Those two things can overcome a lot with me.
I have stopped falling in lust, I hope. I have found that giving her a real chance we grow a lot closer. Sadly, nothing has worked due to them not being able to accept that i don't believe in their gods.
About all I can say is that they were all female. That’s about the only quality they all share.
Can a nonexistent thing have a pattern? Maybe void. Or far-off stars. I dunno. I dated an astrophysics student for ten years.
Sparse. Living near the Bible-crotch (Oklahoma is called the buckle of the Bible belt, so Dallas/Fort Worth must be near the crotch), plus being very picky because I have made bad decisions regarding who I have dated in the past leads me to be cautious about who I spend time with.
In the past, seeking strong, independent women I have ended up with a few strongly narcissist choices who did a number on my trust, as well as some who were surprisingly insecure. I am working on better choices.
Moving forward, I can only be with someone who is very secure (emotionally, at least), strong, independent, creative, intelligent, and has a wicked sense of humor to match mine. That should be easy enough, right?