Wow, Kathleen you certainly seem to be attracting the nutters. Maybe time for a break by not dating anyone for a while.

If I don't over talk then I have to listen to someone else's bullshit. I prefer my own.

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When our daughter was six, Claire began steering the grocery cart into another aisle when she spotted one of Terry's friends. She didn't want to stand endlessly while Terry talked on-and-on with his friends.

I never heard that phrase...thanks for naming "it" for me. I call it "droning"...it is not a very satisfying way to have a social conversation when it is mostly one-way...

I love the scenarios where there are two monologues happening simultaneously. A great spectator sport.

Thanks for posting this. I’m an over talker at times and I’m trying to change. I wish the art of conversation was taught in middle school!

I have found that a great number of men here (and perhaps in general) don't know how to talk to women. I've had the same conversation with several men. I said something along the lines of "There is nothing open ended about what you say. It's tedious and not enjoyable to do all the work, trying to keep this going." THIS was AFTER trying to say it 5 times in 5 different ways that all were a lot nicer. He claimed that he "didn't get it" ... I explained that he may want to ask questions in order to give the other person something to go on since it was obvious he didn't want communication to end. ... I'm certainly not the best at conversation, but jeepers, if you have any interest at all in who you're talking to questions should come naturally.

I tend to be relatively quiet until I feel comfortable, or I know someone well, but once I feel safe to do so I can really open up. But I've also learned over time that good conversation requires discernment, lots of give-and-take, talking to be understood and not just to talk, and active listening to the each other. It comes with a combination of practice, awareness, and confidence in yourself, something that's not always easy to attain or even maintain.

I can be a chatterbox, and I need to look out for this because I can't afford any more screw-ups. Thanks.

I have always been told I was a quiet and kind of a shy man. Probably true, but I am aware of that when I meet someone and make sure I speak up, listen, and ask questions. Be involved in the conversation. Not long ago I met someone who later told me, "you are a nice guy, but you are very quiet and a little shy."
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Oh... I thought this was about people who talk too much. Carry on....

When I have a conversation with people I always make it a point to ask them questions and show interest in them because I am genuinely the inquisitive type.It is definitely a turn off when people constantly talk or brag about themselves .On the other hand I have been on first dates where the woman gave one word answers and would barely utter a word and I had no choice in that I had to do most of the talking and in doing this I was extremely uncomfortable because the last thing I want to do is dominate the conversation.

Wow, that sucks. I find myself doing that at times. I wish we were taught communication etiquette in grade school.

It occured to me after reading this that "Tales of the Literate Hiker" is this era's version of the old "Seinfeld " comedy show.

I'm just going to agree with thinktwice.
And I thought I had bad luck.

That is all good advice in the article. Being self aware is key.
I usually talk in bunches....too much followed by much silence. Over Talk to me is usually nervousness.

It's always so odd, that people think I don't listen to them.....until I remind them of the conversation, what was said, etc. That's probably due to my unused active listening skills, and also them not getting the response they want......

Talk too much. Over Talk. What about Door Talk ??

It drives me "Nuts "

..again, points for trying Met with a group of my county’s best today, and had a second conversation with a guy ..who I could tell was as much ‘performing’ as disseminating information. Felt as if, if ‘my turn’ wasn’t equally polished, he didn’t have time for it … so back to his performance, at least 90% of the ‘exchange’.. Waste of time? Felt like it.

Later, different setting, get motioned over to listen to the concerns of a woman I know through work. Wow, an equal exchange - what a difference! Now if she didn’t smoke…

Seems there’s those who feel the constant need to sell themselves ...so into their ‘greatest hits’ they dive. And, there are those comfortable with themselves, thus interested in others.. Keep searching ~

Word.

When i talk too much, its usually because i really don't want to hear the other person talk. Its not because i think they want to hear my opinion, its because i simply will do anything to shut them up. But these people you secribe, seem to want to spend time with you, voluntarily. Oddly different. Ill have to consider the fact that not everyone is like me.

I always overtalk but along the way if you have a better idea of how to do it for what I am explaining please jump right in there with it. I am sometimes wrong and if you point it out to me then you have impressed me.

With some of us it is contagious. I once listened to my oldest daughter talk for 15 minutes about how my granddaughter secretly climbed out her bedroom window and walked up the road. Why did it take so long?

Can you title your imminent next post, "People Who Overpost?"