I would say it doesn't have to be there for everyone. However i am very physical & need healthy mutual stimulation .. sex is important personally.

Sexual compatibility is critical unless both parties are about 85 years old. I mean really, if I live to be that old who in the hell would want to have sex with my monkey-ass looking face? I'm thinking probably no one and I can't blame them. I will be all shriveled up and funky- that includes my dick- and if I make it to 85 the only thing I want to do in bed is to be smothered with a pillow.

Sexual compatibility is really important. If you have to hide or deny your impulses to make it work with someone, it never will. Be open, be yourself, be positive. Perceive and achieve I always say.

Very. And if their sex drive couldn't keep up with mine, or their sexual interests didn't scratch my itches, then it would need to be a sexually open relationship, where I could have my needs met elsewhere.

I spent over 15 years in a relationship. For at least 10 of them, sex was something that my partner demanded happen roughly the 3 or 4 times a year that they felt horny, but wasn't permitted outside of those times.

No matter how much affection I have for someone, I won't let that stand in the way of my sexual needs being met, in future. Life's too short. The freedom to find sex with a consenting adult should be considered a basic human need and right.

None of the guys I've been with couldn't get it up. Compatibility is important.

For things to work well, sex needs to be of equal importance to both partners. For some, that means now and then. For others, it means often. The intensity needs to be largely aligned, too. Is sex a tender, lights off deal or anytime, any place, any way experiment fest?

Fortunately, my partners have aligned well with me. A few did not. I was taken aback by how angry that made me. I'll hold out for compatability from here on.

Be patient with them , perhaps it's just stress!

I think it's understandable. We all have physical needs and if they're not met, it can be disappointing. That can cause friction in other areas, especially if the people can't talk about it openly. I think these problems are more prevalent than we want to admit. Each person's ability to handle it, and each situation is different. If you're wondering if you're wrong for feeling like it's a very important part of your happiness, no I don't think you're wrong at all.

It’s critical.

I suppose it depends on who has the higher libido. For me, sexual compatibility is really important. It's part of how I communicate. Sometimes I mess up ordinary conversations and I'm not as emotionally saavy as my partner would like but the physical communication makes up for it.

Also, there's plenty of sex toys out there that can help if you like the person you are with otherwise, that you can use together that still help you get your needs met. It can be a really sweet way of getting close to your partner, too. Of course you both need to be open and not feel shame about using them (because there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of).

In my opinion a nympho and a prude will find it hard to stay together

This is year seven that I haven't had sex (masturbation not included). My last partner ripped my heart to shreds and I discovered that there's no such thing as an open minded Christian.I severely avoided the drama that is woman. (No offense ladies) We were VERY compatible in the bedroom but a health problem put a damper on my performance and it led to us breaking up. Now my time is getting shorter. I had a problem that surgery seemed to help a little and I don't have a clue as to how sexually compatible I'd be these days. lol. Maybe this site will help with that. I realized that I didn't answer the question. Yes it's important. Hail orgasm!

I would say it’s very important. For me anyways....I think some people don’t necessarily need it but I need and crave that physical connection.

For me, VERY important, with that said, I am 52, 20+ surgeries, so sex doesn't have to be all the time, like when I was younger, but when we make love, yes I like quality.

Sex is only one component of overall compatibility. When everything else is great, the sex can and should be amazing, however, sex seldom makes everything else great. It all comes down to what's most important for each couple.

I think you just inadvertantly made a case for "open relationships".

My experience is that it is much easier to find sexully compatible persons than it is to find someoen who is compatible in a way tht I coudl stand liming with them day after day.

I know a coupel who have had sex with each other for years, but they are compatible in virtually every other way. Both are aware that they both satisfy their sexual needs outside the relationship. I woudl nto choose tht for myself, but it works for them and they are happy.

Sometimes, the "ideal" of compatibility in all areas just doesn't happen and peopel seek alternativbes which work for them.

For myself, I have chosen to remain single unless I find full compatibility with someone.. although at soem point, I may choose differently.

If I loved a woman, but something happened and her vag stopped working, I'd flip her over.

If intercourse became impossible, she would need to take on the cheerleader and helper role.

My point being that effort and attitude can make a bleak situation better.

Sexual compatability is high on my list because I've had relationships that were pretty much dryspells. Ideally I would like a partner that doesn't have an issue starting things herself if she wants it. I don't know why it's become such a stereotype that men have to be the ones to start it.

You know, I don't know that I ever really thought about this, in depth. I'm fairly romantic by inclination, and the physical intimacy has always seemed to flow from that. But were it not so, well-I think I would mind it very much.

Also, the women I have known seem to divide themselves into friends or lovers fairly quickly after meeting them. I only know of one instance of someone making the leap from one group to another (from lover to friend) and that took 30 years.

I won't accept any thing less ever again. I've dumped at least two guys that were bad in bed just for that reason. I figure by the time you're 50 you really, really should have some idea of how to give a woman an orgasm.

Sensual attraction is number one for me, besides good hygeine and man's ability to dress himself and wear good shoes. Attention to his personal knowledge of who he believes he is important. If you're a cowboy, be Gary Cooper, or James Dean...find your inner self! Find your style, be a rogue, or Clark Gable.

There is no need for profound philosophical statements on this topic, is there? Keep it simple; "Never mind the cries of passion do it doggy fashion."....LOL

Some of you may have heard this before : Sex is like air. When it's there, and you're breathing in and out, you don't think about it. But if it's not there, (or not satisfactory to you) , it becomes a major issue very quickly !

Perhaps I've been spoiled thus far. But if me and any prosepctive partner are not compatible sexually, it may eat away at the other good stuff. Sex is simply too pleasurable !

Very important for me; I enjoy it and am not shy about it but I have to be attracted to him. If Im not satisfied, I share with him my concerns with solutions and give him time to decide if he is okay with it. If not, then I move on. Thats a dealbreaker.

To me it is very important, right up there with shared values. Much more important than sharing hobbies and interests. If my partner doesn't like hiking, I can go hiking with friends, if my partner does not want the same kind or quantity of sex as me I can't go having sex with friends. (at least not for those who want monogamous relationships) A very important thing is to be able to talk with your partner about sex and what each other want/need and how you can or cannot meet each other’s needs and desires. It’s great if the two of you just “magically” have perfect harmony in your sexual desires, but far more likely there will be differences and you have to be able to understand each other. You have to understand the obstacles your partner might face to wanting or having sex. Lack of sexual interest is often a symptom of other problems in the relationship.