How important is touch for you?
Don't even try it. I don't know where you've been.
It's very important. I miss touch in a relationship, but I don't enjoy touch from people I don't feel an affection for. However, love foot rubs!
I am not certain but I think that touch is probably a sense that we use second only to sight in frequency. We touch a chair, a table the hand of someone close to us and there are numerous ways in which we use our sense of touch. Yes, it is very important and not being able to hug someone close to you because of the global coronavirus pandemic has served to focus our attention on the lack of touch in our daily lives.
Yes, by any woman that I am romantically involved with. Aside from that, this introvert keeps to himself. Touch does not automatically mean sex either, and the simple pleasures in life are laying wrapped-up in the arms of that special someone.
Can tell I'm getting older. In my twenties it was all about the screwing part, and now I look more forward to the after sex cuddling. As the rock band U2 once put it... to touch is to heal, to hurt is to steal.
of course it is important, like our other senses it is a value aid to survival.
Also like our other senses it can be a source for the perception of great beauty and comfort.
Yes!! The down side of touch is alot of people think touch means sex. I have always been a touch kind of person but since I moved into this 55 and older low income apartment complex I DO NOT hug hardly at all. Christ I use to just talk to this one guy and next thing I know he's asking me if I want to be friend with benefits. Yikes. THEN because I am so tomboyish a few wondered which aisle I shopped in. I always wondered if I may be bi but explored it. Touch is very improtant and I just get frustrated so many want to equate it with sex. If I sound frustrated it's I am a bit touch starved, very different from sex starved.
More important than smell, sound or image. It took me a while to understand that, but I got there in the end.
Most of the time, I hate people touching me without asking. If I touch someone first, then I feel okay. IDK I have always felt that way?
Extremely. How I connect to people. Lots of hugs.
From "The Rhythm of Love: 40 Beats per Minute" by Natalie Angier in her fascinating book, “Women- An Intimate Geography.”
"Oxytocin has been called the love hormone and the bonding hormone. It’s a dopy, wishful phrase, and a bit reductionist. Still, Oxytocin may be a player in the sensation of love.
“Think of a breastfeeding woman,” Kirsten Uvnas-Moberg of the- Karolinska Institute in Sweden said. She studies nursing mothers, in whom oxytocin is high. “Oxytocin is stimulating her milk letdown- that much is familiar. But milk ejection is only part of the story. Oxytocin, in concert with other peptides, expands blood flow to the breast. The engorgement turns the breast warm, warmer than it’s ever been. Heat radiates from the nursing woman. She feeds the baby fluids and bathes the baby in warmth."
“A mother does more than nurse and warm the baby. As she holds the baby, she strokes the infant to soothe it. ‘You know the right way to stroke somebody,” Uvnas-Moberg says. ‘You know what works and what doesn’t. If you do it like this, too fast, that doesn’t work either. But now, if you do this, if you stroke steadily and calmly, you know this is right, this is good and true.’ She strokes her arm rhythmically and as I watch, I feel vicariously stroked and soothed. ‘This rate is about forty strokes per minute. It is the same rate at which we stroke our pets.’ Oxytocin again enters the picture."
“A steady caress inveigles oxytocin secretion. The gentle rhythmic stroke is like the pulsing of a milk duct, like the rate at which the infant reflexively, rhythmically suckles at the breast. This is the rhythm of love: 40 beats a minute.”
“The rhythm of love. Orgasm is another rhythmic sensation, and it too clocks in at about forty to fifty throbs a minute, and the uterus contracts during orgasm as it does in giving birth. Oxytocin’s frequency; oxytocin’s handiwork.
“In one study, women were asked to masturbate to climax; and their blood levels of oxytocin were measured before and after orgasm. The concentration of oxytocin climbed slightly but measurably with climax, and the greater the increase, the more pleasurable the women reported their climax to be. While breastfeeding, some women say they feel almost orgasmic, their uterus pulsing along with their milk ducts, with the baby’s suckling mouth.”
When giving a massage, my hands are slow and rhythmic, 40 to 50 strokes per minute. People groan with pleasure. During my divorce, I wanted one piece of furniture: the rocking chair in which I nursed Claire. The rhythm of love.
I'm not a natural hugger meaning I don't initiate except in a romantic context. I go to some art workshops where the men hug each other and I'm like, OK, that's nice, let's move on. Ha ha. But I'm not offended or creeped out. They're huggers and I'm not so I don't get weird. Caught off guard maybe, but so what!
To me touching is needed for connecting to other people. super important in personal rerlationship.