Looking for some advice. I'm currently going through a divorce and she has already moved on to someone else. Most of it was my fault. I'm working on myself and getting better everyday. Religion was probably a big part of it. She is now a believer. How did some of you guys find your secular partner? Wish I could find someone with some of the same beliefs and things in common. Thanks
Join groups with the same interests with you. But find out and ignore religious types. You know how they speak, and be prepared for maybe going single for a while. And when you meet someone special, just come right out and say it. I am Atheist, I can't deal with religion. Be polite and non judgemental. My other half is religious but has heard my diatribes many times in 40 years. I do not stop her, but I won't be pulled into religious sillyness at some points. Like when I would not "Do" or "Say Grace at Thanksgiving. I never stopped it even if they did it in my home.
During the Pledge of Allegiance at Scouts I never ever say Under God. I did at first then grew a pair and stopped that. I was quizzed a few times. I said, it was never in the original and I am not a religious person....I am an Atheist.
A few people walked away, most said "oh" .
If there is a local college/school system, that has evening classes in cool stuff, join one or two per semester.
I suggest Social Dancing, and a non religious choir.
I found my partner here on this site, we started out as friends and it went on from there.
I think the best thing to do is get over your divorce. So what if she already moved on, she might take issues she had from the marriage on to the next relationship. Just work on yourself and everything will come in time.
Shortcut route, then visit a Unitarian church. Longer route, try online dating and designate yourself as atheist, agnostic, or spiritual, but not religious, depending on your preference for a label and on what the site allows for labels to choose. Plan on it taking a while unless you get very lucky with the Unitarian church route and find one with a lot of single women your age. The odds are against that because, in my experience, most of the single women at those churches tend to be middle aged or older than that. The women your age at those churches are almost always coupled and with young kids. In other words, most young adults at those churches are part of a young family with kids.
My method probably won't work so well for you...
I got on a senior dating website and stated that I'm atheist. On other dating sites such information was kryptonite, but on the senior site it was met with enthusiasm.
I'm not saying that atheism is more popular with the older crowd (it isn't), but there seemed to be more willingness to state beliefs openly and unapologetically.
Yes, we all want someone who will have the same beliefs and values, but it is not always possible. Compromise and letting the other person be themselves is important. You looking at yourself is a great start. Take your time enjoy what you have now. No hurry. Take good care of yourself, appreciate your friends and family.