Why do so many people visit my profile and not say hello? Can you imagine that in real life. Someone sat in your front room. Looks round your house then goes without a word?? Say hi..I generally don't bite, well unless yer an absolute git.
Hello and welcome to the madhouse. ? I actually don't like that we're told who visited our profiles. I sometimes want to visit a profile to get a better understanding of where someone is coming from in the public discussions, or to jog my memory about other things they've commented on, but I'm hesitant to visit because I don't want to make it seem that I "rejected" anyone based on something I saw on their profile. In reality I just don't contact many people directly but, because there's a public component to the site, I think the profile visit log confuses things a little if anyone is here primarily for the public forum and isn't looking to do a lot of private messaging.
@AmiSue Absolutely. I'm hesitant to look at a profile for any reason because I feel like I'm going to appear as a stalker, especially if I forget who someone is and I visit their profile multiple times without realizing I've visited them before. It just feels so awkward. I know the developers are trying to keep the "dating site" aspect, and I'm guessing that's what made them inclined toward the prominent view log, but I really feel like it hinders activity overall because people feel more self-conscious.
I agree with you. I don't want people mistaking my reading their profile for my "checking them out" and wanting to connect romantically, so I often hesitate before clicking on their name/bio/profile.
I can't speak for anyone else, but sometimes I visit a profile to find out more about a person - usually after they've posted something - and for a variety of reasons. I may just want to read some of their other posts, find out where they're from, or get a better look at that tattoo. I may find out they're a troll, not looking for the same thing as me, into something weird or have written no profile at all. I don't always think a greeting is appropriate and you are anyway asked not to simply say "hi". Since you are UK-based, I expect a lot of visitors are American, see that, and decide not to pursue matters. Don't take it personally, I may even have been one of your visitors as I remember you commented on my TYT thread.
And a warm, and very British, "Hello".
Yup! I especially agree with your first few thoughts.
Say hi to them. Works both ways lol.
Very true.
It's not possible (yet) to leave a note on a profile that would be publicly visible so those "hi" greetings would all come in the form of private messages. I think a lot of folks feel they are violating some ettiquette by initiating a PM without permission. So my guess is this may be part of the reason. I've had 157 visitors peek at mine and only one person has messaged me as a result. I know this because she specifically mentioned the profile. All of my other PMs were the result of post/response engagement. Hope this helps.
I have addressed this issue in a post. There is no way to say "hello" without initiating a private coversation. I asked @admin to give us a way to "like" or a "hello" button when we look at a profile....or comment on the profile even with the poster retaining control of being able to delete comments if they want.
In fact Admin is developing a group of Greeter/mentors, i have been asked to be one & accepted (WTH are they thinking, right?) So, soon...
Did not know that! Ty
Ok, I don't have the compliments button disabled, so is it on my profile? I can't see it if it is.
(hint hint - hahaha)
I also went to a considerable number of other member's profiles just now and did not see any compliments buttons. Am I missing it somehow?
Hi Jayne.
Yes I confess I visited your profile. I spotted a comment from you about being plain and ginger. I went to form my own opinion. You're not plain, and what's wrong with a passionate redhead?
Dave.
The visiting is kind of saying 'hello.' Looking at people's profiles is the human digital equivalent of dogs sniffing each other's bottoms.
Hahahaha thats hilarious! I have had my bottom sniffed quite a lot it seems
Online communications are different than real life ones. If I message you online it's immediately a private conversation. As others have said there's no friendly greeting option, but even if there were it would be seen as a less committal intro to said private conversation.
Unless there's a chat room option where everything is real time it doesn't seems like a friendly "hi there" will really ever be common
After reading / answering your post I went to my profile and I found out that 278 members visited it since I joined. Guess what? No one said "Hello" to me. Should I cry and get depressed?
I look at many people's profile pages to get a feel for where they are coming from -- what their bio says, where they live, how old they are, and when they joined the site.
I might also click on somebody's profile to find posts or comments I remember them making.
My looking at a profile page/bio is not indicative of my interest in having a private conversation or wanting to date that person.
For some people, they are checking out profiles for that reason -- and that's great! But, I'm sure that's not the case for everbody.
That said, there are times I'd like to say "Hi" or "Welcome" just based on somebody's profile/joining. I see above that Admin is working on that.
So, Hi! And, Welcome!
Hiya xx
Hello!
Glad you have joined us!
I visit profiles after I read peoples comments on the posts. It doesn't mean I'm necessarily interested in them as potential partners. I usually want to put their comments in context, or see where they are from, etc,.. I'm nosey about our community thing.
Enjoy! Keep posting!
Oh ok
I don't look at profiles or could care less about age, height, color, creed or nation of Origin. I don't talk to Profiles if that makes more sense.
You look a very nice lady here is my greeting im new here still finding how this works. Im in New Zealand the land of the long white cloud.
My sister used to live in New Zealand but came back to UK. I live in the land of the constant grey cloud!
Hello!!! How are you? Hope you're haveing a good Monday!
My monday was reasonably good. Onwards to tuesday