I want to be a tree. Cremated then my ashes mixed with seed and soil. As for the funeral, I’d rather my loved ones have a big party on my behalf where they share stories about all the dumb shit I did while alive. I want laughter and celebration.

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Observations on Funeral post
This contains some generalisation but it may well not be a representative sample of Americans and the UK population. It is not meant as a judgement on anyone’s views of their own funeral. It is more about what can happen when religions do disappear.

1. It is amazing how the template of religious funerals has straightjacketed so many people’s thoughts. Are we not Freethinkers?
2. Although many people say “Don’t want a funeral” others rightly say “It is not for the dead but the living." I did ask about the people who would attend your funeral but very sadly not much mention there. This same effect many years ago led to the establishment of the job “professional mourners” Very sad.
3. It is usually a civic duty to dispose of your body hygienically and with respect. Although some cities will give paupers funerals to those in appropriate circumstances.
4. Funerals can and are becoming completely in your controls [subject to bye-laws]. And with of course the help of someone that is not you. Just keep asking funeral directors for a personal service. Planning now IS a possibility. Start a readily accessible book . Why keep it secret?
5. Making sure it is enjoyable( through learning) for everyone there IS an aim.

I don't really care -- funerals are for the survivors. I'll be dead. Stuff me, stand me in a corner, have a party, don't have a party, bury me, burn me -- I'll still be dead.I leave it to the survivors to decide what to do.

No funeral at all and MOST IMPORTANTLY, no embalming. My body was nurtured by mother nature. She provided me with animals to eat, air to breath and the environment within which to survive. Her system simply ask that when you die you allow her to have your body back,
To ebalm the body, seal it in a coffin, then seal in a vault is just too obscene for me to even envision. All this just so people can come see my shell days after I pass. Hell no. give me to nature. I have decided to donate my body to science allowing me to be sliced and diced and then researched all over the place.

Zero fucks, I'm dead.

My mom wanted a party with food and music when she died, and that's exactly what we did for her. I would like to have something like that for myself.

I want it to be a party. Kind of like a wedding reception but just people hanging out and having a good beer and meal on my final tab. I want to leave a list of topics to talk about so they don't have to talk about me if its uncomfortable and a decent music playlist for people to listen to. I'll make sure it's stocked with jenga and other games for people to play and maybe get to know each other.

As far as my disposal I'm fine with being donated to science. I want to go to a good medical program though where they will be used. When I was a neuroscience student, the department just had a guy's preserved head hanging out in a bucket of formaldehyde. I wan't to make sure my parts go to use and aren't just hanging out in a jar somewhere.

Could not care less, I will be dead, it won't matter to me, but when asked I have just said put me in a bin bag and throw me in the furnace, then go and have a party and bitch about what a bastard I was.

When I die, I'll be cremated and my ashes are to be scattered in the ocean.
My nephew is going to throw a "roast", not a funeral, not a wake, not any kind of service.
Who shows up, or how many do, really doesn't matter to me. I'll be dead.
The party is for them, not me. They get to eat, drink, and tell stories about what a monumental
pain in the ass I was. However they wish to conduct themselves is entirely up to them.
Again, I'll be dead, so it won't matter to me one whit. Luckily, I have a good feeling that it will
be completely irreverent, and a good time will be had by all.
How I "value" my life is my business, and I honestly feel no need to explain that to anyone.
What anyone else thinks of how I've chosen to live my life doesn't mean anything to me.

I'll be dead, so I don't really care. Toss me through a woodchipper, put me in a garbage bag and toss me downriver.

Personally, I don't want a 'funeral.' Once I die, just cremate me and be done with it.

not having one or any reminders. If people remember me, fine, if not, fine.

I'm not having a funeral. I just want my ashes sprinkled under a weeping willow I planted near the river I used to play as a child to directly help nature. death is life over so has no reflection on how you live. I'm not paying loads of money so some stranger who doesn't know me can talk a load of shit to a load of people who have better things to do. the trees are doing beautifully and have been where they are for at least 10 years. I don't want anyone but the person sprinkling the ashes to know my ashes are there either.

I plan on being cremated then shipped to Alaska so my son can spread my ashes. I hate wakes and funerals and am not going to have either. The only person that benefits from a funeral is the undertaker.

No funeral for me. Who wants a buch of sobbing people telling huge lies about how wonderful you were to people who really think you were an asshole?

Told my family that I want a wake. booze must be paid for out my inheritence. My body has been donated to University of Stellbosch medical faculty.

Naw. I could care less. But if someone wants some place to say I where was buried, they could spread my ashes around the roots of a tree sapling, to nourish it.

@Gwendolyn2018 From Wikipedia A "living funeral" is usually done by someone who knows that he or she does not have much time left to live. Whether the reason is that the person is terminally ill or is at an old age, the person knows death is near and could use it as closure. It is used to celebrate the happy times, and forgive the body for "failing".[1]

I hope it's a quick fire and very few people. A brisk wind afterward would be nice though.

Not one word of God or he is in a better place... Other than that. I don’t care.

Don't want one.
My nephew told me he's going to have a "roast" for me instead. I like that idea better.
Whoever shows up, shows up. They can swap stories about what a pain in the ass I was.
Have a few drinks, eat some food, enjoy themselves. No tears.
My "value" for the life I have is irrelevant upon my death.
How I choose to live it now is the ONLY thing that's important. Whatever anyone
has to say after I'm gone doesn't really matter to me, I'm not going to know anyway.
All that matters is now.

Still want to be buried in my back yard than a family plot with my dysfunctional family. Small and informal.

There is a lot that this site can do to get people to trust other people. Not to destroy your privacy - just to trust. If you have planned to have others at your funeral you have been trying to see the value in all people. Good luck with yours.

@Gwendolyn2018 I would like to join you in your pursuit of accuracy over “Your Funerals’. Is it not obvious from the context of the site that I am asking a lot of people about their own particular funeral ? What should I have said to make it clearer ? Only just passed all my English exams here in UK. Anyway I hope that I have convinced you that any single person can have more than one funeral . It has been known for relatives to hold a ceremony on each subsequent anniversary of death but maybe those person’s relatives do not move on from the death so is a bit obsessive

I applied for my body to be given to medical science @ Queens university they wrote back and on every page they had a disclaimer that when it came to them they might not want it and would send it back to be buried - is a bit of a no brainer to just get cremated and forget about Queens