It has been my experience with online dating that men immediately begin using a pet name like sweetie, cutie, or even sexy. Why is that? I don't know about other women but I really like it when a guy uses my name. That makes me feel acknowledged and special. A pet name can come later when we really get to know each other.
Using pet names is a way to infer intimacy. I don't appreciate it when a relative stranger starts calling me honey, or dear. Lets get to know each other first. Usually I get that from scammers, I think they may have trouble keeping names straight, much easier to be non specific.
That being said if someone messages me and tells me something really nice I am likely to call them sweetie.
When I first met my partner he used my name in every sentance and I realised its normal from Northern Ireland as where he is from Peoples names are very important - I am used to being called all sorts; love ,darlin, etc so found it quite weird to be addressed so much by my own name
Ive been with my husband for ten years now, but back when I was dating my concerning pet names was this : If they didn't put in any effort and attempt at creativity in a pet name and called me something generic, I would put in just as much effort, that being very little.
If it was creative I would flip it (find a male equivalent)and use it for him. If he didn't like it I made my point and knew he wasn't going to get my sense of humor so a relationship was out of the question.
That being said pet names can be fun once you know someone well enough and respect has been established.
" man tits" is what I my husband and it cracks us up everytime. Considering women getting called " tits" is pretty common here where we live, even now in 2018! That pet name always made a little bile come up my throat whenever I hear it. With a male version we've turned it into an inside joke between us.
I find it condescending, as if I don't know it is a line. Sort of puts me in mind of a used car salesman. A little smarmy, who thinks I'm desperate enough or gullible enough to fall for it. Pet names are for when you are a couple, in a relationship, or for my kids and pets.
I'm with you. Mind you I hate it when the 20 yr old sales assistant say "thankyou love". I like pet names when we are intimate, especially if they're original. But I don't like being called baby and I don't understand why a grown man would want to be called 'baby' or 'babe'. But I'm probably reading too much into it.
It all depends which corner of this country you live in. In Texas sweetie, hun, and darlin' are used by both genders when adressing each other, even by people they don't know well or at all. Just because you might be insulted by it doesn't mean it is a sign of disrespect. ☺
I don't think I mind either way as long as I like the name - I have changed my own name quite a few times so its quite nice for me but when youre in a long term relationship somehow I find that I don't get called by name very much at all whereas when we were dating umpty nine million years ago he always called me by my name.