Is wrong to try to find love again. I want to fill the void that I feel. What's too soon?
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@john369 nothing is too soon unless it's out of desperation to fill the void which could end up like a rebound relationship. If you are lucky to find someone who is amazing then go for it there's no rules on grieving.
psycheworks
Level 8
Sep 24, 2018
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No it's not wrong. I would love to meet someone but the area I live in they're in church. I don't know an atheist my age. Or a single man close to my age.
freeofgod
Level 8
Sep 24, 2018
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My husband was the atheist and I was the church goer. He nicely reasoned and taught me that I was believing the unbelievable. So date a church goer and show them the error of there beliefs.
That's too bad. I live near Palm Springs which is a big gay friendly town. All the high schools have gay clubs. We call it Diversity. Most of the gays have moved here because of persecution and resentment from their previous town. Most are well educated and have money, including my cousin. Nov. 4 is the yearly gay parade, the largest in the nation. I go and it's so fun and all the businesses and community come out.
If it feels right for you, that is the only thing that can tell you if it is too soon or not. No two people experience the same emotions....only you can make this decision for yourself. I wish you luck in your quest and hope some lucky lady comes into your life at the right time,
Marionville
Level 10
Sep 24, 2018
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I can tell you that this time last year I couldn't even fathom being with anyone else after my husband died. After the year mark of his death I began to feel 'open' to the idea of meeting someone else, although I wasn't making any real effort to find anyone. Then two weeks after I posted on here that I was interesting in dating I hit it off with someone from this website and we have fallen in love. He is exactly was I hoping to find in someone who could deal with my past, my continued love for my husband as well as my enthusiasm for the future. There is no right time and no formula for grief. We do what we can when we can mentally adjust to the reality that transpired. I wish you well and best wishes.
Hazydays
Level 7
Sep 24, 2018
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Glancing at your story, gives me hope. I'd at least like to try dating. June, my late wife didn't want to go to her grave with me without a lover to help me through the rest of my life, but that isn't who I was. Now almost three years along and not being ready to be truly alone, time to move on. I'll never forget her, and perhaps the hardest part will be the comparative of her to whomever I may meet.
@Sofabeast You'll know when your heart accepts there is a future love and the time is right. My husband wanted me to be happy again and encouraged me to join match to meet someone new after he was gone. Finding someone that can understand that we will always carry the love we had for your spouse (forever) is possible, I never thought it really would be, but I am proof. Find someone with a ton of empathy and someone who try's desperately to appreciate all that we went through. They will never be able to totally grasp what we endured, but finding love again has been a beautiful thing and having someone to talk to about what happened and who will help me through this next step is wonderful. Good luck to you.
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