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Grief - Ball in a Box Theory

RavenCT 9 Aug 22
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I love this. What a beautifully simple way to describe what's going on inside me. And like your stepdad said, the ball was pretty big today.


We can do nothing about the size of the ball but we can make the box bigger.

NoIdea Level 6 Aug 26, 2019

Make a bigger box; now thats something I know how to do.


This is a perfect description of how it seems to be with grief.


Lovely and clear metaphor.

BajaSusana Level 5 Aug 23, 2019

That's not a bad way to put it.

The metaphor works better if you imagine the ball pulsing, getting larger and smaller, with a gradual trend to shrinking.

The initial size of the ball is a function of how much a part of your daily life the person you lost was. The trend toward getting smaller is a function of time and willingness to fill your daily life with other things / people / experiences. This willingness doesn't imply a desire to forget, either.

mordant Level 8 Aug 22, 2019

Absolutely! I just really thought this was one of the better metaphors I've seen. I like your added descriptors.

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