Grief - Ball in a Box Theory
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I love this. What a beautifully simple way to describe what's going on inside me. And like your stepdad said, the ball was pretty big today.
Mythbuster
Level 5
Sep 4, 2019
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We can do nothing about the size of the ball but we can make the box bigger.
NoIdea
Level 6
Aug 26, 2019
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Make a bigger box; now thats something I know how to do.
This is a perfect description of how it seems to be with grief.
Redheadedgammy
Level 9
Aug 23, 2019
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That's not a bad way to put it.
The metaphor works better if you imagine the ball pulsing, getting larger and smaller, with a gradual trend to shrinking.
The initial size of the ball is a function of how much a part of your daily life the person you lost was. The trend toward getting smaller is a function of time and willingness to fill your daily life with other things / people / experiences. This willingness doesn't imply a desire to forget, either.
mordant
Level 8
Aug 22, 2019
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Absolutely! I just really thought this was one of the better metaphors I've seen. I like your added descriptors.
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