Hell no! Having kids is a big red flag for me, personally

Nope. I'm also single and have never had kids.

No right or wrong. Just her thing.

It's not information that would immediately result in a disqualification as my potential future partner, but it would inspire some follow-up questions. There's a story there, I'm sure. I have a story about why I never had children of my own. I'd hate to be penalized before having an opportunity to expound.

I would not think it is a ‘big red’ flag! This person was most likely thinking about all the scenarios, surrounding families and I must admit that they never end, no matter how old or how far away each of them are! Maybe, this person was not ‘up-to’ learning a ‘new game in town!’ You could be overwhelmed and then maybe not...with a ready made family! Just keep looking, the right person, at the right time will take your heart...

She is a closed person and not worthy of you.

I hope not. I’m in the same boat as you not haveing been married or having kids.

I think you are smart not to have kids. So what if you haven't married, I wish I never had the 1 time I did. I don't count it. ?

Seeing that as a red flag with nothing to back it up is idiotic thinking. Judge the person and their character and whether you want to be in a relationship with them AFTER you get to know them. Simply not having ever been married or having kids doesn't mean there is something "wrong" with the person.

I never married and I don't have kids because I decided to do some serious and not-so-serious dating, finish college, get a career, and buy a house instead of marrying the first person I seriously dated, pop out a few kids, go through a messy divorce, and wind up at the same spot I am now but with a lot more baggage and resentment

Seems like I dodged a bullet

Obviously, she isnt for you ?

Turn around, walk away.

it wouldn't be a red flag for me, but I'd wonder about compatibility. like, did you just not want kids? because i love kids and couldn't have married a man who didn't, even if I was done having kids at the time we met.

Man child ....lol sorry just kidding plus talking about myself until I was 39

I, too, would probably stay away from any woman who hasn't a "normal" life life experience. That would be for me a red flag about something being wrong. On the other hand, I've met some women who have lived an extraordinary life, to whom "normal" simply don't apply..

has anyone thought that the greatest difference that two people could have is that one is a male and one is a female

No it isn't. That woman is being unfair to judge you for that.

IMHO, don't think it is negative. To me it means you don't have baby mama drama. No child support and no alimony. All good things. It also means you might not understand my involvement with my kids, but I'm not going to assume the worst at the get go. I think you definitely dodged a bullet, that judgement was kinda harsh. It's not like you have inhabited another planet and you were a kid once and had parents. You know how those relationships work.

My mom avoided dating guys that didn’t have kids because it could mean that they want some later. Now she married to someone younger that’s used to the bachelor life and it’s a huge change for him but she’s willing work on it. He’s got a LONG way to go though.
I don’t care either way but I’m on the younger side and so is my kid. I don’t have any experience dating with kids though.

I had a conversation on another site with a man who had never been married or been a parent (he was 61) who said that he expected any woman with whom he had a relationship to put him first -- she needed to stop putting her kids first. I should add that he had dogs that he expected to become a priority for any woman he dated. He was angry and offended when I told him that I thought that was an unrealistic expectation. My daughter is an adult, but she will always be my first priority. He told me he thought that was selfish. Needless to say we didn't communicate further.
That said, I have a friend in a great relationship with a man in his 50;s who had never had a relationship before because of his father's death and the need to assume the family business and take care of his mother. It was finally time that he could think of himself.
So I have opened my mind to more types of men. There are a lot of reasons for all sorts of status. Divorce I get -- I've been there -- and there is some bias on my part to find someone with a similar history to mine. But i'm more open minded than in the past.

To some maybe. Families do get together for holidays and there are bound to be grandchildren around.

I think she may have been too close minded. Cultural differences? I think of that as one person having grown up entirely different, like a different country.

Personally I would be interested to know how or why you were never married and didn’t have kids. Curious but not judgy. I pretty much did was expected of me so I admire someone who is strong enough to do what is right for them

It just may be difficult for you to understand that her kids will always come before you.

Next.

Oh yeah bro... your lack of commitment to a train wreck means you are not "trainable".