I keep running across this, and I would love your thoughts. Someone says, either in word or song, "I got her pregnant." Maybe I grew up in a different era or on a different planet, but don't people take precautions anymore? I grew up in the 60s and 70s and the first thing I did upon turning 18 and going to college was go on birth control. What has changed? How does someone NOT think about consequences? Important note: This topic does not include non-consensual sex!
Unintended pregnancy has actually fallen. Especially teen pregnancy is more rare.
I think people are probably more open about it more. People are actually better about using birth control than ever before (still not good enough but at least the right direction)
The current statistics show that teens are actually more likely to use protection than in the past. Unfortunately, however, almost every method fails some of the time -- sometimes from misuse (only taking a pill when they go on a date), sometimes from failure (the condom breaking" and sometimes the strangest misconceptions (pun intended). When I counseled college women I heard, "I can't be pregnant because ....it was our first time. ...we were standing up.....i douched with Coke after. There is still a staggering amount of ignorance about bodies and sex out there.
We were taught early in life about sex being both on a small farm & having Swiss parents. It was just open conversation and the lessons were healthy. This is what happens & it is fun but you are responsible in the end. There were no unwanted children in my family of origin or any of my 40+ cousins. I had 3 boys & we spoke early, by the age of 14. They were told that sex is normal & that there are condoms in the candy bowl.
I took charge of my reproductive options as soon as I could. There was no way in hell I'd have ever had that conversation with my dad and step witch, that would have been a disaster I'd have never recovered from. I joined the Army, and as soon as I was past Basic Training I went to the doctor and got on the pill. I was 19. After I got married I went off the pill and found out how ridiculously fertile I was, but I was also pretty regular and could tell when I ovulated. When I thought it was time for a baby, I got pregnant. I made sure my girls knew how babies were made and how to avoid surprises. There are no illegitimate babies, but lots of unprepared parents.
I'm sure there's a lot of psychology behind it. we live in a very pronatal culture. Very few people choose not to be breeders. Parent still react negatively to the thought of their 14 and 15 year olds engaging in sexual activity. Teenagers still consider sex to be something to be secretive about. I made a post before about a friend that puts her young teenage daughters on birth control sexually active or not. I had tons of parents, mostly women ,who were talking about how horrible that was and how she should never do that.
I've heard too many documented stories of women who gave birth without even knowing they were pregnant ! And plenty who think things like the rhythm method, or withdrawal work ! Then there's guys who try to impregnate as many females as possible to score "points" among their male peers.
And on and on. While I think there's always been some highly misguided sexual stuff going on, I also have noticed an increased absence of responsibility and common sense. Bad combination.
It's parental responsibility to help daughters know/understand options, risks and consequences. I have two, adults now. Both went to one of the most liberal college in the country. They had to be ready, sure enough they were. Information is the answer.....
According to former Governor Rick Perry, abstinence work. Though there was an outbreak of Chlamydia, abstinence works. I remember my sex ed teach in junior high said that abstinence works, the reality he says is, there will always be STD, so we learned about safe sex. As for today's kids? I know that there are states that don't teach sex ed, but push abstinence.
With Hepatitis C and E out there, those alone should give caution let alone all the STD
s and genital warts. Think Typhoid marry was bad from the past now its typhoid Harry Mary and Pat (Pat being the androgynous one). Seems that is what a lot do is get stoned and screw then pass on the spew.
I hear this all the time also. I married first time due to pregnancy . Never even thinking about it, I told my friends we got pregnant. No way was it a one way street and it would be kind of stupid to see it other wise.
On the other hand though , what if she was chatting with god on one his frisky days? Maybe a little god virgin sex and this would be a valid excuse.
I don't know what people do anymore. Neither of my sons has gotten anyone pregnant, so I know they've been careful, and my daughter is gay, so she's not gonna get pregnant. None of their friends have gotten pregnant, so somebody's being careful. I think it's just the same stupidity that's always been around.