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Have you found your "calling" in life? Are you doing what you want to do, either as an occupation of avocation? If not, do you still hope to find that calling, or have you given up?

Jlangston70 7 June 25
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Delayed gratification is the key to realizing ones calling. Luck is being born in a free nation. For decades, actually all of my working life I delayed what I wanted at the moment. Investing long term, saving more than spending, reducing things that I needed by repurposing, improving my credit score, having enough equity to put 25% down on a property when the interest rate came down. I now rescue, rehabilitate & restore animals, habitat for wildlife. Especially dogs , cats & guinea pigs. This is my calling.

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I've never had a "calling", and never felt the need to look for one.
I don't think everyone has one. I also don't think everyone needs one either.

@Akfishlady They are one and the same. It's ALL a crapshoot.

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Since 2006 as a volunteer, I have helping low income, minority students write essays for college entry and scholarships. One of my best success stories is Brenda, who won $269,445 in scholarships in 2016. Brenda plans to become a medical doctor and pathologist. She hope to cure diseases.

Often they the first person in their family to graduate from high school. These are remarkable young people. It thrills me to send these kids to college.

The first girl I mentored, Yuliya, is a civil engineer at Puget Sound Shipyards, WA. Yuliya speaks five languages and is a trail runner.

"I am a beacon of hope in my neighborhood," Teresa said in 2014. "My younger siblings and neighbor kids look up to me. I am inspiring them to stay in school, get good grades, not get pregnant, not join gangs, not drop out and go to college."

Last month the Wenatchee High School College Mentor program gave me the first, "Scholarship Rockstar" award. Here I am with other college mentor award winners.

That's freaking awesome, and it's something I'd really like doing myself.

@webbew1

Wonderful! Call your local high school and ask if they have a college mentor program in your area. Give them the link to this video. I'm in the back of the library working with Teresa, at 1.34 minutes.

@LiterateHiker

Thank you. I'll do that.

@webbew1
Excellent. I'm so happy you want to be a college mentor. This is the most rewarding volunteer work I have ever done.

The Wenatchee High School College Mentor program has 40 volunteer mentors and 80 students. We always need more volunteers. The students we mentor are first-generation. In middle school and junior high, they were in the AVID program.

Advancement Via Individual Determination (AVID). AVID is a structured college preparatory system that provides direct support for first-generation college-goers.

AVID's mission is to close the achievement gap by preparing all students for college readiness and success in a global society.

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Not yet. But I'm only 45 and I feel like in some ways, my life is only beginning.

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I don't know if I would describe it as a calling, but I am much happier. I spent 20 years running my own business. It wasn't necessarily a bad experience.
I learned a lot, both what to do and what not to do.
Between getting divorced and having some rough years with the business I realized I needed a change. I tried to do everything I could with my kids after the divorce and discovered a real joy in working with children. Now I am part of a company that provides a quality after school program for elementary schools and I enjoy my job more than I thought possible. So, maybe not a calling exactly but it's where I need to be in my life now.

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I have no idea if it is my "calling" but I am a non-achiever, retired for 23 years, enjoy my life and I am a happy person.

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I found my calling in a round about way. I was a hippie with 3 kids and an alcoholic husband, and no job skills. I found out I could go to the local community college and get an associate degree in nursing for a fairly small amount of money. I didn't have a desire to help humanity, I just wanted a job to pay the bills. It had to be flexible and it needed to be in demand so I could get a job right out of school. I went to school and did all of my clinicals, and I did not like it at all, but I figured I needed to do it, so forged ahead. Then I got into my maternity rotation and was surprised to find that I loved it. I worked as a labor nurse for many years, then read a book written by a midwife. I knew that I had to do that, so, after 15 years as a labor nurse, became a midwife at age 48. After over 20 years, and over 1,000 births, I made the difficult decision to retire. I am now following a dream, and calling. I live on a farm, with my horse, dog and cat. We have pigs, goats, chickens, ducks, geese and a donkey. A few days ago, we had 11 piglets and the donkey foaled a darling baby boy. More piglets will be coming along soon. I help on the farm, have time for activism, seminars, writing, and watching the birds at the feeder.

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I am still lobbying my small town to reconsider my past efforts to become the town jester at a minimal salary-- my true calling in life. Up to this point, no luck, but I will continue to vigorously persist now that I'm retired from full-time work.

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My calling lasted almost 20 years. I loved it. It was a fantasy life. I wish I could still do it, but the industry changed a LOT with deregulation and it's not the fun time it once was. Not creative or as free. Now I freelance a bit for part of it.

@iamjc LOL. I was a radio DJ. Kinda like porn. I got paid to do things with my mouth. 😀

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I'm doing it, and have been fortunate enough to be able to do it most of my adult life.

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I did. I was a HS / College educator. I hope my students enjoyed getting the knowledge as much as I enjoyed sharing it with them.

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Yes, I think I have found my calling, and am happy doing what I do. I also hope to finish writing a book and I guess whether that is my calling is still yet to be seen. Gotta try though.

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My calling is to be a Grammy. Before that it was being a mom. But Grammy is so much more of everything. My interest lies in the medical field, but not enough to want to touch strangers or get close enough that they can puke on me. Instead I push papers and deal with people dealing with the medical establishment. It's interesting to me, most of the time. My avocation is making stuff. I sew things like quilts, clothing, home decor. I make soaps, lotions, lip balms, deodorant, and toothpowder to name a few. I am a Hippie.

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Still considering my options... not making rash decisions... might regret.

Tomas Level 7 June 25, 2018
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I love IT and I love music. One makes me money, the other one keeps me sane = balance.

NerdyB Level 4 June 25, 2018

@iamjc they are, actually, interchangeable. I tend to make money with the IT, but sometimes...

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I guess I did before I retired, liked to repair mechanical items and I did.

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I have my music. I've been doing it for decades now. I've been through a lot of different changes over the years. I played the cello when I was younger, then switched to metal on guitar, and many more. for the last 12 years or so I've had a passion for Spanish guitar. I've writen quite a lot, and with my home studio I built I've been able to record my stuff. I've posted most of my stuff on youtube. I hardly have any follers, but I don't care, I write, and record them for me. It's like therapy.

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I'm good. 😀

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Nope. That's a toxic meme. Those who do find their calling and live the dream are lucky, but not the majority.

I'd say that most people are not doing what they really want to be doing. Most people are not following their dreams.

Most people are just trying to survive, and they shouldn't be admonished for that.

There are too many on here peddling the meritocracy lie.

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Not really. I'm sort of on the team that thinks most of us don't find our calling.

From a personal standpoint, I got to be a single parent to a great young man, and it's probably the best personal experience I've had.

On the professional side, I heard Richard Branson interviewed a few years ago, and he said very few of us experience professional life like he has. He encouraged people to focus on finding work that you don't hate.

I'm a huge introvert, and my job allows me to sit mostly alone at my desk, crunching numbers, and running database queries. I don't have a huge house or a fancy car, but my skills have allowed me to live a comfortable and stable life. I'm satisfied with that.

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I don't think I have a calling. ?

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I've been told I'd make an excellent con-man but settled for Biomedical Technician which makes me feel like I'm doing something that matters.

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My calling is to parent my child. I made the decision to parent when I was a teen, but only when I was ready. I enjoy many things, and I constantly learn. I used to travel so much, it makes some heads spin. And then, in my mid-thirties, I reached the point where I felt I had accumulated enough life experience to begin to try to become a parent. My daughter's sixteen now, and her light outshines any of my previous professional or other experiences. She is my life!

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I manage a fast food place by profession but my calling is the arts, atm wood carving. Hopefully one day I can turn it into a job

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No. In another life, I think I would make a good lawyer.

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I had aspirations to do musical theater on broadway. That's a little tough when you can sing well enough but can't dance for shit, or even be "an actor who moves well".

These days I'm a garage door repair technician, and I like the work well enough. Beats slinging burgers.

Oh, man, I hearya regarding being a singer who can't dance. I'm in the same boat.

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