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So after reading some comments on an FB post, I became very curious. I hope to keep this post relatively mature as it is of a personal nature. I have a few different questions/comments to present...

  1. As someone who plans to adopt and potentially have her own, something I never realized I may need to consider is if I'll have a son circumcised. What is your opinion and why? Please don't be too graphic, I am a LADY?. Parents, I'm most interested in hearing how you made your decisions with your own sons.

  2. Do you think that majority of those that have been circumcised was due to religious reasons or just the assumed norm?

  3. I hate when women push their beliefs on this topic, while also ask men to stay out of decision-making when it comes to women's reproductive rights. Have your opinion, sure. Please don't ever argue against a Male on this topic though. Agree? Disagree?

Kassandra 6 June 29
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it damages the nerves and can lead to less feeling during sex . There are a few instances where the penis is born with defects that need surgery but a healthy penis does not need the procedure

Simon1 Level 7 June 29, 2018
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Otherwise, "it's got no character. No personality.". (stolen from Seinfeld).

Lol thanks

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I was circumcised as a baby. I seriously doubt I would have it done now if I had the choice, unless there was a valid medical reason.

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Occasionally for medical reasons, but do any other male mammals need to get circumcised? Or female for that matter? I was done and would love to sue my parents and all involved, my son wasn't and is thankful.

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The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends male circumcision for health reasons. We decided not to circumcise our son as an infant and had to do so at a later age for health reasons. If I had it to do again I would circumcise a male infant.

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Penn & Teller did an episode of Bullshit! (S3E01) on this very topic. I highly recommend watching it.

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I love Penn and Teller...great comedians. Please don't tell me they are your reference for all things medical

@crazycurlz And what are your terms of reference for all things medical? As you seem to have some of it wrong....

@crazycurlz No. My references for ALL things medical are doctors and other medical professionals. Just like the ones Penn & Teller referenced in this (and all of the other) episodes.

@GoldenDoll no I don't have it wrong. I think you may be motivated by prejudice. There is no comparison between circumcision and female genital mutilation. And there is no way to convince you of that.

@crazycurlz You have no idea what you're talking about. My stepdaughter was an FGM victim. My son was circumcised by his nigerian father. Please don't talk to me about prejudice. You have your wires crossed

Thank you. I will check it out.

@crazycurlz @Kassandra Both mutilations. Both unnecessary. Both performed without the adult consent of the mutilated. Both cripple for life. Both result in psychological damage. Both reveal the sickness of the guardians authorizing the action.

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My suggestion would be to read up on the pros and cons and the potential long term problems of either choice. Make your decision on as much information as you can get, medical and anecdotal. Good luck. 🙂

Betty Level 8 June 29, 2018
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Several tribal and religious (is there a difference?) groups have engaged in various forms of genital mutilation, both male and female. Circumcision is just one of them and it has been practiced in several different areas.

One of the arguments that has been used to try to justify circumcision is hygiene. In some regions/climes it may have been marginally justified, but we have learned so much about hygiene that the argument no longer holds any weight.

I would say that in these days circumcision is not necessary for any reason. I was circumcised, but my son is not nor are any of my grandsons. It is your decision, of course, but I would recommend against it.

Thanks for a considered response. Very refreshing after a lot of other angry & entitled replies.

@GoldenDoll , very nice and refreshing reply to you as well. Thanks to all who responded decently.

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I was. Not for religious reasons. I asked my dad about it once and he said it was a tradition in his family. I don't feel it has affected my life in any significant way but I wonder at the arrogance of taking a decision without consent that someone has to live with for the rest of their life. Effectively, it's genital mutilation. It also has a lot of negative repercussions in religion and politics. I wonder how many Jews died in the holocaust because they had been snipped and could be easily identified - or Muslims during Indian partition?
Your son can decide for himself when he reaches the age of reason.

Gareth Level 7 June 29, 2018

No, it is not mutilation. Lumping this in with female genital mutilation, an issue that really needs our energy and attention is just ignorance.

@crazycurlz Mutilation
Mutilation or maiming is cutting off or injury to a body part of a person so that the part of the body is permanently damaged, detached or disfigured. Wikipedia
You're the one who's lumping btw.

@crazycurlz Cognitive dissonance?

@crazycurlz Requires your Judeo/Xtian attention because of your hatred of Muslims and their faith?
In many countries female mutilation of the genitals is a criminal act. That equality did not prevail to result in the criminalisation of male circumcision is thanks to the lobbying of the Jews.

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Male circumcision seems to be a growing discussion point. If I had a son I was not going to have him circumcised even though I am. Most boys are circumcised because their fathers are even though originally it was a Jewish thing, though my family is Jewish on my fathers side.
In Africa it is being pushed as a counter to the spread of diseases such as aids. And while it does help they promote it that it cuts in half the chances of getting aids but the real statistics is closer to cutting the chances of contracting aids from 6% to 3% so the actual number of people who benefit is rather small and it can not be proven that being circumcised is what helped.

It's an archaic religious practice that most likely had been started as a hygiene issue in a growing population that was attributed to god to help enforce. Does it help keep things clean? Probably. Does it hinder sexual pleasure, can't say myself but I can't say I've suffered or missed out on anything not having my foreskin.

Making the decision for an infant is the parental privilege but I say don't do it. Plenty of teenagers and grown men have it done so obviously there is no real benefit to having it done as an infant.

I will say that I kinda wish I had not been circumcised and know I would not have chosen to.

I say leave them intact. Better yet ask yourself this, would you have the appendix of a child removed for "just in case it helps"? My guess is no, so why remove a foreskin?

Thank you for a calm & coherent response.

Liked your comment. I am female and my brother was circumcised. I could have written your comments, weighing out the pros and cons but I arrived at a different conclusion.

@crazycurlz Well, that is one of the reasons it is still so prevalent, assuming you are for it, people still see a value in it. Is that the different conclusions you came to?
I look at it more like the reasons people dock the tails or crop the ears of some dog breeds, at least in the US, it has become more an aesthetic issue.

@ThomasLevi I actually disagree but headed out and will have to comment another time. 🙂

@crazycurlz No time like the present.

On sexual pleasure. You unfortunately can never know because you have been deprived just as a clitoradectomy of a woman deprives her of the sensation of clitoral pleasure. There are no parental rights. All rights reside in the child.

@crazycurlz Often those of cast iron opinion are unable to accept that their belief is not in iron but crumbling sand.

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It seems an unfair decision to make for someone who has no say in the matter.

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I made the decision to not circumcise my son for a couple of reasons. First, after extensive research and consultations with multiple physicians (through my local children's hospital) I deemed it medically unnecessary. Second, I choose to raise my children to explore what they believe is true to them, not just follow my beliefs (on religion). When they ask me questions like "do you believe in God...do you believe in evolution, etc" my only answer to them is "what do YOU believe? And why do you believe that? I don't want them to grow up to just regurgitate my beliefs and thoughts. And rarely, if ever, have I shared my beliefs about religion and God with them. But...that's just me. I also understand people wanting to instill tradition and rituals into their children.
So, after making my decision, I also decided if the day came at any point in my son's life that HE decided he wanted to be circumcised, I would financially and emotionally support his decision.

Bethi Level 4 June 29, 2018

I hope to raise my children the same. Thank you for your insight.

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my first was and second wasn't.i didn't know better, the first time. There is no medical reason for doing it.

yes, historically, there likely was a medical reason for doing it and now some cultures do it ritualistically.

@crazycurlz Evidence did not exist then nor does it now.

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Like many issues, there are a lot of opinions on male circumcision and minimal solid facts.

The world health organization's medical department recommends male circumcision for much of the 3rd world, clearly medical professionals think there's SOME utility in male circumcision. If you demand a source here, I'll give it. If you're particularly antagonistic about it, please prepare to apologize for being an ass.

From personal anecdotal experience in Northern Africa, hygiene there isn't stressed nor is daily bathing even possible.

Obviously the USA is much different than 3rd world countries. I won't have children of my own, but if I adopted a boy, I wouldn't have him circumcised.

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I am not circumcised and I have not had any infection or hygiene issue whatsoever. I come from a culture where almost every one is uncircumcised and no one one I know has had any health issue because of that, at least not that I know of. I have read that in gay men being circumcised reduces your chance of getting stds. Let your son make that choice when he is ready.

I read the post again and realized its for parents,but I am not one. I am still going to leave the comment as my thoughts are shared by a billion or so in my country!

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I didn't want my sons circumcised, I didn't see the need; I considered it to be an outdated concept, one that would eventually break out of social norms; my wife's concern was that she didn't want them to be different from other kids, but the move away from circumcision was already happening, so that will likely become the norm.

I think circumcision is one of those things that future generations will read about and ask "WTF were they thinking!?"

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We did not plan on circumcising our son but he had some issues that the urologist thought might be problematic. Most of the world doesn't circumcise. The thought used to be that it was cleaner but that's not really true. There is a slightly higher risk of contracting some STI's without circumcision, but good sex hygiene would eliminate that slightly higher risk. On the down side, men who are circumcised have less sensation that those with foreskin so it effects their sexual pleasure.

I recently read that in fact the foreskin produces product that prevents hiv/aids infection. And as you you say the majority of problems arising are due to lack of hygiene.
The other aspect that used to cause horrendous problem was the garrotting of the penis through infection by candidiasis (thrush) causing the skin to lose its elasticity and start to shrink around the head in a tight band. Nowadays the one shot tablet gets rid of it in the blood and quickly returns everything to normal. Occassionally 2 are needed.

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There have been several posts on this. The statistics show that America has an extremely high male circumcision rate, totally unrelated to medical necessity. It is overwhelmingly cultural/religious or both. Don't do it.

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  1. Nature hasn't done such a bad job with our species and it appears that we are the most advanced on this planet. However evolved we believer ourselves to be, I don't believe we are going to outdo Nature at her own game on any level. When we try, it almost always ends unsuccessfully.

By any name, permanent modification of genitalia for any reason is mutilation. A parent's duty is to protect and foster a child's healthy development. Religion or any other sets of ignorant, superstitious notions do not trump what Nature has ordained without consequences. Genital mutilation in all forms is barbaric, anti-life and anti-Nature.

  1. Circumcision is an assumed norm alright; just as female genital mutilation is in some parts of the world. The roots are religious; as are all too many social practices thought to be 'custom' or secular. Both practices, along with so many other archaic and contemporary ways children are afflicted, are crimes against humanity.

  2. 'Women's reproductive rights' is a narrow, misleading term substituted for political reasons. All people have (theoretically under our system) bodily sovereignty. Being personal sovereigns includes but is not limited to 'reproductive rights'; as though women are privileged in the matter. The labels 'pro-choice' and 'pro-life' are disingenuous and merely politically motivated dodges from the real issue directly related to power. As in the case of bodily sovereignty, the scope has been limited for political reasons.

Pro this or that is a dodge. The broader, comprehensive issue is this. Who shall have the POWER to determine/define all conditions under which homicide is legally acceptable as remedial choice? The rest is window dressing.

homicide is something that happens to humans. human tissue and non viable cells are not Human(note the capitalization) dispite being human tissue.

False equivalency. Also, Bodily autonomy is so inviolable as to forbid the harvesting of organs to save lives without consent, because another life does not have more value then your ability to own your own self.

You have failed sir.

@dellik nice response, deilik.

'nature hasn't done such a bad job with our species...' man, silver, what a statement. Politics aside for the moment, I assume you're referring to anatomy and physiology? I have a lot of respect for Mother Nature but, our systems are not perfection. For instance, I don't have a single female friend that's had an easy time of every stage/transitioning with the womens reproductive system.
To place circumcision in the same category as female genital mutilation is a sign of ignorance. Female genital mutilation is generally the removal or mutilation of female genitalia to punish or prevent the woman from having sex or from enjoying it. Female genital mutilation is just that, may be committed by male or female family members and typically not completed surgically but rather out of acts of violence. Circumcision is ritualistic removal of the foreskin of the penis, generally done by someone who's trained. Loss of the foreskin doesn't diminish feeling or manhood in the cultures that do this. In addition, do you have any idea about excess fold on the body? I'm a nurse. The things that develop in folds can be pretty awesome...little creatures that live off the flesh. I don't know the history of circumcision but I'd imagine when the Egyptians and then the Jews and then some Arab groups began the practice, there were health reasons associated with it.

@dellik All I have 'failed' to do is communicate with you. Given the barriers evident by your response, I will continue to fail.

After you familiarize with a dictionary, learn basic biology and human physiology and acquire the ability to think functionally we have no 'common ground' upon which to compare perspectives.

@crazycurlz O.K. Meshg, As usual, the erroneous notions are flying like confetti and one can hardly answer all of them. As suggested to dellik, I urge you to try developing the ability to think functionally. It begins with 'seeing' functionally and given the mechanistic way 'knowledge' is presented the task is difficult. Most of what I comment is functionally rooted. Focus on and naming of means and mechanism do not refute function but merely distract from it.

I like the qualification you made of 'anatomy and physiology' because that is exactly what I meant. Our 'systems' (bodily) are systems within a hierarchy of systems; many of which are human (read male) contrived, designed and imposed. As products of systems that are secondary and in varying degrees pathogenic, that we don't function well on many physical, emotional and psychological levels should not be surprising.

Your attempts to 'educate' me about mechanistically differing means and names for the same functional phenomena were unnecessary. I fully understood what you presented and more, before the exercise. It doesn't change function in any other way than degrees.

It matters not why, to what degree of barbarity, what kind of religious notions contribute to it, who performs it; be they Ancient Egyptians or ancient anybodies; be they contemporary mohel's infecting infants with genital herpes; be they physicians in sterile hospital environments or ignorant Islamic extremists in squalid huts with sharpened spoons. Mutilation of the genitalia of children for religious or any other crazy notion is still genital mutilation.

I especially enjoyed the observation: "Loss of the foreskin doesn't diminish feeling or manhood in the cultures that do this." The humor I see in it (functionally) relates to the humor women find in males pontificating on how this or that practice in our 'culture' doesn't diminish femininity. 😉 That you are a nurse gives you no superior platform from which to propagate notions about things of questionable or arguable validity. I'm no stranger to science or life sciences and don't feel the need to air 'credentials'. They have little to do with whether something is so. But actual knowledge does. My daughter has been a nurse for 27 years and we have many stimulating discussions and without mutuality of knowledge they wouldn't even happen.

What I find to be 'pretty awesome' is presumptuousness. It brings to mind a favorite Neitche -ism...

"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music." Music IS functionality. Instruments are mechanism.

@Silver1wun you are right, there is no common ground when you chose to accept fundamentally wrong information, and portray it as fact. Your failure to grasp basic biology and then blame shift is laughable at best, and should be humiliating, but I doubt you are self aware enough for that to be possible.

@dellik In basic biology one learms that there are differences between cells, "tissue", organs, systems and organisms.

Check any cell you like in an internally or extermally gestating infant, or for that matter, from a dying 90 year-old and the dna will confirm the source to have been an organism; in this case a human organism.

@Silver1wun thanks for proving my point, appreciate it =D

@crazycurlz your attempt to somehow make out that female circumcision is a "worse crime" than male circumcision is derisable. Have you got a foreskin? Have you experienced the degree of pleasure obtained with a sensitive foreskin compared to circumcised?
No. Nor do I see validation of such claim from authoritive sources.
Neither can I ever know and compare pre and post female circumcision pleasures. I know however that the sensitivity of the vagina, the G spot and the pelvic floor muscles are not affected.
You mention things breeding in body parts covered by flaps of skin. Yes there are wonderous things growing between the chest skin and underskin of women with oversized pendulous breasts. I don't hear you advocating that mastectomies be carried out on infant girls to ensure that this can never happen. The interesting reality is what is actually produced under the man's foreskin and what it is produced for. I can assure that in nearly 70 years of life the only problem that I have encountered has been recently and that was due to the medical profession and side effect of a drug prescribed by them that was claimed necessary.
As for health issues in ancient Arab and Jewish days I'm sure that lack of water and cleanliness allied to sexual satisfaction being safely derived from little boy's anuses probably did result in horrendous infection in the women also entered.

@dellik When you contribute something worthwhile please draw my attention to it. In the meantime please explain how someone who considers bullying abhorrent and "no tolerance for bullies" can say one word in defense of what is the greatest betrayal and act of bullying perpetrated on a man through being circumcised when most in need of protection?

@FrayedBear 1; I'll give you a dollar if you can show me anywhere I said anything in support of circumcision.
and 2; What on earth makes you think I give half a shit if you think my statements are 'worthwhile'

The bully here, is clearly the ancient inbreed that thinks his feelings are more important then bodily autonomy.

@FrayedBear and dear god, after reading your response to Crazycurls I see you are actually just a piece of shit racist, so I honestly don't give a single flying fuck what you think. Please wander off into the woods and die you fucking dinosaur.

@dellik you obviously understand english differently to me. I see that you are a god botherer inciting the word in your response. How do you draw this wonderfully "grasp at the last straw" ad hominem to prove your correctness?
I suspect that your response will keep me laughing for most of the day. Incidentally can you supply a photo or drawing of your "flying fuck" I'm sure that it will also create amusement.
Have you had counselling for your inherent and deep seated anger or ever considered that anger usually arises through your lack of understanding and knowledge?
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@FrayedBear My experience is that anger management is not necessary when expectations and beliefs are managed. When people have a healthy, productive sexual aspect going on in their lives it is made most obvious by a state of repose, good cheer and congeniality. When it is in chaos, the opposite is the case. They are irritable, frustrated and lash-out at things that make them mildly uncomfortable. I saw it in nuns, as a child growing up under their 'care'... Women in our society are confronted with male over-reaching expectations and anger displayed when they are frustrated all the time.

A disposition towards being rude and abusive is also prevalent among males in sexually repressive cultures ruled by extremes of Islam, Christendom, Judaism, Hinduism and more. I cannot, for the life of me, understand why a person allegedly seeking friendship or closeness with females would display such a deeply rooted abusive attitude; especially in matters that relate to sexuality.

Most women, especially associated with this site, have 'been there and done that', unfortunately. If one has beliefs based on real understanding and expectations in close contact with reality, anger is a rare emotion.

One of my favorite observations of Dr. Reich, from clinical work:

"Irrationality and illusion are revealed by the intolerance and cruelty with which they are expressed. We observe that human thought systems show more tolerance as long as they adhere to reality. The more the thought process is removed from reality, the more intolerance and cruelty are needed to guarantee its continued existence." (1949)

I'd add to that something about immaturity if it wasn't so eloquently on display in the first place.

@FrayedBear Im sorry, you keep typing, but all I hear is 'im an ignorant inbreed'
Try again gramps. or dont, only one that cares what you have to say, is you.

@dellik Try having your eyes tested as you are reading not hearing or see a psychiatrist about your problem of mistaking sight for hearing. Perhaps like the man who thought that his wife was a hat you need a book title named after you. Sadly Dr Sacks is now dead. You are providing wonderful entertainment. Keep going young fellow. ?????

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I'm circumcised and while I don't have any particular problems against it myself I didn't have my son circumcised and I wouldn't recommend it for anything other than medical reasons because it isn't necessary!

Pete66 Level 6 June 29, 2018

Unfortunately you are not in a position to be able to tell the difference.
I'm very pleased however that you didn't cripple your son.

@FrayedBear well that's true but I certainly have never been disappointed with sex or noticed any negative effects. I don't feel "crippled" 😀

@Pete66 Ignorance is bliss. ?

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No!! There is NO need for this.

Coldo Level 8 June 29, 2018
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