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Omg! I just found out a good friend of mine died last night when he was hit by a car while riding his bike.

Sadoi 7 Jan 10

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So sorry, Sadoi.

skado Level 8 Jan 10, 2018

Thank you Skado. It was so unexpected. I explain more above. Worst of all, the car that hit him ran. The police are currently searching for a White SUV that killed him.

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Deepest sympathies.

Thank you my friend. Much appreciated.

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Grief is a tough emotion to deal with. Hope the best for his family, and that your grief find solace.

He was just... so young. He was like a kid brother to me. His family kicked him out of his home and we lived next door to him so he stayed with us for a bit. I used to take care of him. We just spoke last night. We were making plans to meet up for dinner. Worst yet, he was hit right around the corner from me. As a matter of fact, i awoke today around 430a to the sirens and went outside and smoked a cig in my car and watched the lights. I thought it was just another car that slid off the road on the ice. I had NO IDEA it was my "little bro" out there. No idea... i Just had to meet with his family. All my friends put me in charge of finding out what to do and with making contact... so I did. It was difficult. Im just in shock now.

@Sadoi I can't give you a real hug OOO takes a lot to be strong. If you try to rationalize it it will drive you crazy. The best thing is to reflect on the memories hold them dear for those travel with you every where.

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I am so sorry to hear. Friends are so much needed and in a way like that to go. My son rides a bike and is my only son. So Sorry!

The sidewalks arent plowed here early in the AM and he had to be to work by 530am every day so he was riding his bike to work. He recently asked me if i could start driving him on days when the snow was the worst because he'd already almost been hit a few times by having been forced in to the road due to lack of plowed sidewalks. I told him once i started on second shift, i'd be getting home around 230a most nights and hence id be awake around 430 so i could take him. But... clearly i didnt make it to that. i start 2nds next week. šŸ˜Ÿ

@Sadoi So damn Sad... my best thoughts to you and his loved ones.

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Bikes are my only source of transportation.

It was his, too. I am heartbroken. He was just a kid.

@Sadoi sorry my dear.

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That sucks! I'm so sorry for your loss!

Thank you. I appreciate it. I really do.

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Oh ... I'm so sorry! That must be extremely difficult for you as well as his family. Especially when it is so unexpected.

It is. My friends asked me to be the one to contact the family so I had the honour of taking that torch on. It was emotionally draining. I spoke a bit more of it in the above responses. Its shocking. He was young. Only 20.

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Sorry for your loss.

Thank you so much. I appreciate it. šŸ™‚

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I am so sorry. I hope that justice will prevail, and that in your grief you will see hope.

It was a hit and run. That only adds to the devistation of the situation at hand. Thank you so much for your kind words. I deeply appreciate it. I always manage to find hope in all situations, too. All pain has the potential to become a useful tool to better ones life if you know how to seek out the light and the lessons. šŸ™‚ thank you again.

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Very sorry for your loss Sadoi. Hope the memories you both shared bring you comfort in your time of grief and may his legacy live on in the memories of his family and friends.

Aww thank you for the kind words, my friend. Indeed. For the remainder of this life, i carry with me the hearts of all those i have loved and lost too soon. Whatever good I can make in this lifetime, it is a tribute to the lives of those who passed before me. It is why i do my Damned best to be as good a human being as i can, kind and compassionate yet determined and driven because I desire to succeed and to make something of this life big enough to hold the lives of those who i have loved.

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what a bummer sorry about that. I lost 2 friends over Christmas too

Oh no, accidents? I know the holidays are rough for some people and suicide is also a common occurance around the holidays. Or was it natural causes? I am so sorry for your losses too, my friend. I hope you are doing better these days. And thank you for the kind words.

one was a heart attack and I'm not sure of the other yet and my neighbour died of a heart attack just before Christmas. I hate winter and the holidays. lost a well-loved dog last January the third and after that lost a sister to cancer and my mum had a heart attack so nothing good to remember really. I am still a bit down but you cheer me up and ditto about the kind words x

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That about sums it up for me too: šŸ˜ŸšŸ˜ŸšŸ˜ŸšŸ˜ŸšŸ˜Ÿ

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Sad. Heartfelt condolences.

Thank you, my friend. I explained more above. I just havent the heart to type it out again. It is disheartening, for sure. Im shook over it.

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Sorry for your loss

Thank you so much. I appreciate it. šŸ™‚

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I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I ride a bike and have had some close calls.

He had recently run in to issues in route to work because he has to be there by 530am and the sidewalks are seldom plowed well enough for his bike and he was forced into the road many days. He had already had a few close calls. I was intending to start taking him to work next week when i switched to 2nd shift, but clearly i didnt make it to that. šŸ˜Ÿ

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I am so sorry for the death of you friend.

Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Its been rough, indeed.

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!!!! Holy Moly!!! So sad!

Indeed it is, my friend. Thank you for the chat earlier. It was much appreciated. Even your goofy picture (ya goof!) but I got the point. It did make me laugh a bit. But like i said to you then, 7 days... 7 daaays... (but thank you. i appreciated your convo)

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My condolences to you and his family.

Thank you. I was sent in to meet with the family as a representative of our group of friends. None of my friends well mentally well enough to tend the task and i happen to be the one that remains calm and collected. Even still, it was heartwrenching an event.

@Sadoi It must have been a terrible shock to you all.
If you need to talk I'm here and I'm sure there are others here would be happy to help.

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Iā€™m so sorry for your loss.

Lilie Level 6 Jan 10, 2018

Thank you so much. I appreciate the kindness. BTW, from what i can see of your photos, you have beautiful eyes. Just thought I'd mention that. And again, thank you.

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Grief is tough. Remember him with love.

Always and forever. I consider whenever i lose friends, and I have lost many in my lifetime, that my life is no longer my own. I share it with those I have lost already so that if and when I make it to the end, as best I can, I will now every thing good I did in this lifetime, it is a devotion to those I lovešŸø. I live my life for us both now and in that, he will never be gone because so long as I can draw breath into my lungs, so will his life live on, within me. Its is the greatest tribute I can make to him and to all those ive already lost. I live my life to be a good person because I believe i am a reflection of all those that passed too soon. Thank you for the kind words.

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My sympathies.

Thank you sir. I greatly appreciate it.

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Sorry for your loss.

Thank you my friend. I appreciate the thoughts.

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sorry for your loss.

Thank you friend. I always enjoy your comments, btw. I appreciate the words. He was such a young guy. Thats probably the most haunting part of it all. I explained more in the previous responses. I just havent the wherewithall to type it again. Its been so rough a night as im sure you could understand.

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Oh no... thoughts with you and your friend's family. šŸ˜Ÿ

Jnei Level 8 Jan 10, 2018

They are broken up, to be expected. I saw them tonight. It was very difficult. All of my friends were too upset to come to the family and the vote was to send me in. I explained in my above responses. I was the one that went to them and it was tough. It was tough... i lost it a couple of times, but im known for my resolve and my steadfast nature so I pulled it back together, but now that im home, and alone again, its heavy on my heart and on my mind. I have to fight to keep from breaking down into tears. He was a young guy. Only 20. I was like his big sister. I think thats what makes it hurt the most for me... he was too young. He was just a kid in a mans body. My 9 year old son was very close to him too and he is upset. So sad. Thank you. I appreciate your words Jnei.

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How sad. I am so sorry for your loss.

Thank you It was so unexpected... so shocking. I still havent words for it and I am in shock, I think. It is going to be a difficult night, that is for sure! The support I received from so many of you here, though, it was quite touching. Thank you, all of you. So very kind... and I am in awe of the compassionate concern. šŸ™‚

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