Think about this now. How long do you think you could go without judging someone? A day? Week? Month?
We use judgements to keep alive. How fast it that car moving, can I beat it through this intersection? It that animal threating or good food? I am going to judge everyone I see, is that person a threat or a friend? It is hardwired into us. Now judging people on superficial things, like style of dress, cleanliness, attitude. Hopefully we have filters to get rid of all that doesn't matter but it is the way we're conditioned, trained, and experience. Whether you want to admit it or not, we can't go without making judgements about people, animals or the world in general. It is a survival instinct. Judging that all orange people are bad, well hopefully we individually have filters to accept that not all orange people are bad.
Right now, I'm judging the usefulness of this post…
I was doing fine until I read your post
It's entirely normal and automatic to judge people as soon as you see them or hear their voice. The trick is to realise your prejudices and adapt your impressions accordingly.
I volunteer at a homeless shelter I don't judge any one there. I know what it's like. I was homeless once myself. So I try to help as much as I can.
That being said. I do sometimes judge some people. Mainly people that are rude.
talk of not judging someone is such a bunch of crap. we have no choice but to judge people. our minds do it automatically in the subconscious and our bodies respond ... even before our conscious mind has time to make any evaluation. you have to dig deep deeeeeeep into the recesses of the mind and combat thoughts laid down just after birth or perhaps even before in order to curtail "all judging". judging is what our mind does. it compares and evaluates one constellation of neuron points to the last or to the known if confronted with something new. so basically you're asking when or how will we completely go against what our mind was designed to do. the answer we can't and wont. we will hide it maybe but the effects will always be there.
Agree. I think it's what we do next with the judgements that matters. Can we challenge ourselves to be more then our basic nature?
@billy11 well I am not you. you give your answer and I will give mine. we both get to think for ourselves ... isn't it a wonderful world? It would be so boring if everyone thought the same things all the time.
@Guttermoss I like your comment 'it's what we do next that matters". Snap judgements were crucial for our evolutionary survival. If it was a matter of life or death to decide if an approaching person was friend or foe we had to make a snap judgement based on what they looked like. These are highly developed neural shortcuts or heumonics. They save energy and assist for fast action. But as my friend here says, it's what we do next that matters. If we have a brain in our head we can reassess our response and see if it needs amending. Most people today aren't trying to kill us so we don't need to be on high alert, but those judgements remain. They say it takes 5 seconds.
@MsDemeanour I agree with this with the exception of the part where you act as though we can think our way out of it. 5 seconds or not doesn't change the body alterations that have already happened as the limbic system responded bypassing the PmFC. your body chemistry has been effected which changes you physically AND mentally before the executive control center even gets a swipe at it. Thats not to say you can't eventually control your actions, but your views are skewed a bit.
Yeah, I'm not sure that I'm "judging" people so much as that I'm "reading" them because that actually does matter in order to make a "judgement" on whether I want to associate with them or not. So yeah, I read/judge people often, but not like in a "mean girl" way. That I don't have time for.
I don't judge others haven't for years. I read people very well so what is the point of judging them when they are transparent.
My favorite movie quote You have been weighed you have been measured and you have been found wanting
Judging isn't always a bad thing.
A nanosecond. Goes for all of us. Our brains assess everyone and everything instantaneously in order to protect itself and maintain homeostasis.
About ten minutes. Judging gets a bad rap, but if we do not judge people, we open ourselves to liars, cheaters, and others of ill repute.
3-7 seconds. I judge or think, or gauge someone about everything. How clean someone's shoes are. How someone parts their hair. If they carry their weight unevenly, or walk with intent or how they smell. I assess someone as a threat, as self centered or even unaware in seconds. Now, I know this may seem semantically petty but passing judgement is something different. If I don't exchanging real energy with them or converse with them, I'm making only assumptions based on observations. But I don't allow my observations to lead me toward a negative outlook.
@HardBlues69 I've had the luxury of experiencing life in varying socioeconomic positions, geographical locations and assessing a person versus passing judgement becomes easier with self comfortability. Feeling safe no matter what helps expand the understanding that not everyone has security or feels safe, and that's usually the energy that is exchanged or more honestly, transfered via transference that is usually interpretated as hostility.
In court or out of court?
@HardBlues69 5 minutes.... guilty anyways... 5 minutes... but my thoughts and prayers go to them.
That question is very condescending ..... how long was that? 10 seconds? What do I win?
Very intelligent and insightful comment!