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Should one bring/send flowers on a first date? Not a coffee. A real date. Dinner and a show, or lunch and a ballgame.

Donwhy 6 Sep 16
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I vote "no", if for no other reason than one of you then have to carry them around. If you want to give flowers, send them the next day.

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This seems to me a bit old fashioned however, given the age of your date this may be appropriate. I do think that if you get on well and decide to continue to date each other that you could do this on the 3rd or 4th date to show that you are really into them.

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Someone brought me a bunch of ripe wheat once...it was beautiful and I was impressed!

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It's a lovely gesture. If the impulse is genuine, do it.
Just keep it simple, and make sure she can put them in a vase before
you head out. No one wants to tote around flowers for the duration.

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why not i think any thoughtful gesture should be viewed for what it is flowers chocs beer wine beer whisky beer rum really anything

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Well, I wouldn't be displeased, but you do risk that the lady is allergic to flowers. Then there is the issue of where to put the flowers if you do something else after dinner.

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I had my first date in a really long time a few weeks ago. He brought me flowers, which was sweet, but awkward because I had to carry them around since we met at the restaurant. I echo no if you aren't meeting at one's house before the date.

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Bring babies. If she's a proper heathen, she'll know just how to cook them.

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not if she has cats or allergies. find out if she even LIKES flowers! likewise a bottle of wine -- she may not drink (or she might love it). try to find out what she likes before you decide.

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I don’t by flowers for anyone anymore, twice in my life I had woman break up with me the day I a got them flowers... I’ll by you dinner, I’ll cook, pay for drinks, hell, I even braught a girl a ukulele, if we are together what’s mine is yours but if you want flowers you will have to buy them yourself.

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I personally feel it's a little over-the-top. Also, they are a little inconvenient to deal with during the date. I would save that sort of thing for after it has progressed to the next stage and you have become an item. But that's just me.

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Sure! It's a lovely gesture. Yes it's old fashioned and rarely done these days. That makes you unique. Allergies? I suffer through the allergies

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Not on a first date. A first date is all about getting to know one another, not movies, or even dinner in my oppinion. Save the flowers and all the other stuff for after you are dating.

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I think it's sweet, and it keeps you on her mind with a smile when she sees the flowers in her home for the rest of the week. If you have the idea to do it, then do. Even a $5 bouquet from Safeway adds a splash of color. If she's allergic, perhaps she can keep them out on her patio.

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Flowers aren't a good idea for a first date..better to find out if she's allergic, what her favorites are, and it's better to be far enough along in your dating that you can deliver the flowers to her door so she can put them in water before you leave on the date.

The ball game is a great summer idea..except that in my case, I love any kind of informal ball game; community, church potluck game, local women's league, even Little League, etc. since the professionals spend so much time grabbing their crotches and spitting tobacco juice it makes me feel nauseous.

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I have gotten a good response from a single rose on the first date. Classy but not overdone. Really though it depends on the person, use your best judgment.

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I’ve only had that happen once in my life. It was so surprising and amazing! I loved it....doesn’t have to be an expensive bouquet. He brought pretty wildflowers. Still makes me smile even though we didn’t work out

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It really depends on what kind of people you two are and where you are going on the date.

  • If you like bringing flowers on the first date; if that's your thing, then go ahead. But be considerate of your date and the place of the date.
  • Your date might not like the flowers (could be allergic or have a specific flower he/she likes); do research before buying your date flowers.
  • Don't bring flowers to a date where you or your date can't set the flowers aside; you don't want someone holding a bouquet of flowers the entire time, do you?
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