ABRAÇO E CORAGEM,CARO MIGUEL!
Não te vou torturar as cenas habituais,mas parece que posso contribuir para que aguentes este momento,pelo menos!, a certeza de que "tens" gente contigo e não estás sozinho,agora que tens de atravessar um pedaço escuro.Pá... -...afinal lá vou eu p'rás cenas habituais,mas sei que o faço de uma maneira que tem razão de ser...- este é um facto que é nosso,do Homem,e anda a gente desde sempre,e sempre andará:chama-se VIDA!(...apesar de parecer o contrário...).És tu e os Teus que agora levam uma parte da VIDA que aleija, e tem de aleijar!,senão não estavas magoado:não há nada que possas fazer senão sofrer a perda e perceber que a tua Avó vem de Todos os que viveram antes dela,que ela também em certa altura perdeu,mas "passou" a Vida aos que vieram dela,depois dela,e agora vão carregar a Vossa Família para o futuro,passá-la aos que vos sucederem e que vos vão chorar um dia!...E isto é assimão as regras do jogo!...(...pronto!:já 'tá dito o "habitual",e que,apesar disso,é uma verdade absoluta!...não há nem outras regras,nem outro "jogo":é assim,mais nada!...).Tudo isso não impede,nem pode influenciar a maneira de sentires a V. perda!:chia!,esperneia!,chora!,que tens todo o direito de o fazeres sem qualquer vergonha ou sentimento negativo!Há-que fazer o "luto",e cada qual lida isso à sua maneira!
MAS...não tens é o direito de viveres uma perda, que te aleija, de um modo egoísta,passando a situação para ti,apropriando-te dela,valorizando mais a tua dor,o que tu sentes,do que é o principal!:
E o principal é a VIDA que viveu a tua Avó,meu! Viveu 90 anos!Tem uma Família,aqueles para que ela viveu,que a choram,sentem a sua perda!O que achas que alguém deseja mais que isto,que é tanto!?Uma vida longa,especialmente longa!,uma Família,o que querias mais?...
Trata é de valorizar estas coisas especiais -que tanta gente no mundo dava tudo para ter!...e que te parece tão pouco...- e fica é contente de poderes ter a tua Srª. Exmª. Avó tanto tempo contigo e os Teus,chora,faz o teu luto,e trata é de seguires em frente o que ela te/vos deixou:a Vida e os valores que fazem que tenhas saudades dela!
E,principalmente!,não sejas puto,a quereres ser tu quem perde tudo:ganha coragem e homenageia a tua Exmª. Avó apoiando os Teus que também estejam a passar esse mau momento!
DE MIM RECEBE UM SINCERO ABRAÇO DE SOLIDARIEDADE -PARA TI E PARA OS TEUS!- E...TOCA A SER HOMEM,PÁ!

Physics states that energy can not be destroyed. It can only change into a different form. Death is only painful to the living. She will be with you in the great cosmos. As you breathe you will breathe her in as her remains will be enveloped & absorbed by the cosmos. Make her passing as comfortable as possible. Help her transit gently.

Difficult to give advice as each person has to deal with unique and personal circumstances re relationships and family. I have experienced quite a few losses in my life as I am now over seventy, so I would just say is try and focus on the long life your Grandma has had, and how lucky you and your family are to have had her with you so long, Death is inevitable for all of us as it is part of the life cycle, and at some time or other we are all going to have to experience the grief of losing close family and friends. Just try to remember all the happy memories which will be plentiful when someone has live to such a great age....and try to give comfort to the others as they will do so in return.

It's probably of little help/comfort to you but Death is just a part of Life.
I was at my daughters bedside 24/7 from January 2000 until January, 7th 2001 whilst she went through Chemotherapy for Mature b -cell Lymphoma.
When Lorrae was diagnosed we both agreed upon a phrase that would be said should things turn out that she ( a 16 year old and my only child btw) would want me to say to her at the right time.
That phrase was, " Go with the wind, run with the Wild Horses my Princess, you are free."
Even though they were, without a doubt, the hardest words I have ever had to speak, just remembering them still brings me great comfort as does the memory of that sweet little smile she gave me upon hearing.
Remember NOT the suffering, the bad times, instead cherish the good times, the laughs, the fun, the smiles and everything good and fulfilling, keep them close to your heart they will comfort you endlessly.
Try to stay strong even in the hardest of times and NEVER shun away from those who earnestly want to help or comfort you my friend.

I hate to say it is cuz I know it's always my go-to in cases like this but you might want to try grief counseling

Think about asking Grandma the secret to being 90. Its a long road with lots of forks, twists, turns and downhills. Grandma lasted 90 Years, Get Started.

Losing someone you love is hard, but you make it through. I lost my mom last week. Take the time you need to feel whatever you're feeling, whatever you feel there's no right or wrong. Connect with family and friends, especially those who can be a good support to you. Spend as much time as you can with your grandmother, enjoy the time you have together, and tell her how much you love her, and tell those you're close to how much you love them as well.

I don't deal with loss well, so I've done a few things to make it easier on me. First, I don't go to wakes or funerals. The "mourning process" doesn't help me. I like remembering my loved ones as alive, and seeing them dead becomes my memory of them. Second, I try to remember the life lessons and how that person helped shape me. Both of my grandpas have more or less become a part of me, and I'm thankful instead of sad; more often than not.

These two things work for me, maybe they will help contribute to your solution.

First, what kind of shape is your grandmother in? Has she been ill for a long time? Is she likely to get better and have a good life? I don't want to live with tubes, medications and restrictions. When I can't do the things I enjoy I want to leave this world peacefully. Death is part of life. It means the end of suffering. No one lives forever, and I don't think many want to live forever.

Yes, you will grieve when your grandmother passes, that is normal. But remember, she lived a good long time and it is her time to pass on. You will miss her, but keep the love that she had for you, all the good memories. Take this chance to tell her how much you love her. Also, if you have good relationships with your family, let them know how much you love and appreciate them. At times like this we need to hold close those we love most.

You're allowed to feel whatever you feel, for however long you're feeling it. I found that owning the fact that depression will make it worse is part of recovering from emotional trauma. Do your family know about your depression? Let them know that this is more than likely to happen and that you may need some extra support. An important thing to remember, especially if people have stupid shit to say about it, is that this isn't your fault. It's how your brain is wired.

Seeing a therapist is also important. Life is throwing a big lump of shit at you and that's what therapists are there for.

Of course, you are feeling great sadness over the dying of your grandmother. But, you must realize that death is an inevitable event for us all, and that it is not, in and of itself, awful. You have a treasure trove of great memories of your grandmother and will be able to call upon them every day of the rest of your life until you die or become demented. You must not let yourself become overcome with her death: She would have expected more from you and would have wanted more for you.

[agnostic.com] A pragmatic view of death yes,but we will all face the loss of those we called dear to us.......

My grandfather was a huge influence on my life. He was my first music teacher and a truly compassionate guy. He was diagnosed with a brain tumor late in '89 and died 9 months later.

I was 14 and extremely depressed about it. He spoke to us about his thoughts and feelings as death caught up to him. One day, he saw my depression and it bothered him. I think he broke the ice with "hey, what's wrong? I'm the one dying here, but I'm not dead. Let's live while I can."

My feeling was that he was a good guy and that he had been a very positive force in the family... that I didn't know how things would go after he was gone. He evaded and was self-deprecating. Still, I held firm. He was a good guy even when people treated him poorly. He was patient until they realized their error and corrected themselves. He was bright in a world with very little light.

He laughed and told me most people don't correct themselves. I wasn't accepting it. He then said something that haunts me... that the memory has me holding back tears as I type this on my phone...

He said roughly "I'm far from perfect. I've made mistakes. I've treated people harshly sometimes and wish I hadn't. Still, I've tried to be a good man. I don't know that I understand fully what it is you think I've done well for people or this family. It sounds like you don't know how to say it yet either. That's ok. I do know this: whatever it is I've done that is good, I will no longer be able to do it...

That is now your job."

A simple and humble challenge is what he gave me... It is now my job. To do this, I have to be about living. I have to order myself inwardly and outwardly. I need to live a simple, beautiful, austere life without fear, jealousy, and inappropriate aggression. I must live and act in my best understanding of reality - even when it hurts.

Cry your eyes out, brother. Feel this thing, but know those tears are really for you. She's going to be ok - pain is over and she will have earned sleep. The tears are knowing this good soul won't be around for you. That's ok - cry it out until the tears are gone. Feel it. Let it wash over you and hold on to none of it. Talk to people and connect with them. Go through the rollercoaster. And then, when that is all done... live. Pick up the torch and begin moving forward again. Live it so solid that someone feels this way about you when your card is pulled. It's your job now.

It's your job now.

Atheists and other non-believers actually have to DEAL with this type of loss. We face it head on because we know that when you're dead, you're dead. We have no religious fantasy to lean on as a crutch. It's called reality. I'm sorry you'll have to go through this (again), but all any of us can do in these situations is make the best of what time remains with that person (If that is even possible. Sometimes great distance or other factors can't be overcome), and when the inevitable happens, to feel the emotion, experience the loss and pain, and integrate it. I have lost both parents to different forms of cancer. I was much closer to my mom and she died first, but still affects me most. I try to cherish my memories of her and try to keep my image of her as she was in robust health, with attitude. =] Cherish the memories. I hope this is helpful.

I work in geriatrics...loss is never easy. However it is part of life. We are mortal. I highly recommend connecting with hospice if she is eligible. This will not only benefit her, but your family as well as the supports that exist in hospice care are extensive. One of the most painful things about watching someone pass is when they don't pass with dignity. That is where family needs to come together and have that happen.

Sorry if I got soapboxy, this is a passion of mine. Given that you know you are vulnerable, put your safety nets in place now.

there is no set way to deal with loss nothing protects you from that initial onslaught of emotion if your grandma is still able to talk and understand talk with her as much as possible if she wants to talk about death do it everything you do just now should be for her benefit not yours however if her death is inevitable make sure you have a good support system in place parents friends close colleagues who will understand you may need extra time just to have someone near.People are really bad at dealing with death but remember that your parent is about to lose their parent and may need the extra support to good luck

She must be in pain, and if aware, not looking forward to more. Sometimes death is our friend, and this is not about you.

Talk. Talk to your family and share memories, listen to their perspective of her and share yours. Spend as much time with your grandma as you can. Take pictures with you, travel memory lane and ask her to share her best memories. Take pictures and/or videos. She will appreciate the attention and the love.

End of life is sad but you and your family can make it beautiful for her by surrounding her with love. That is the greatest gift you can give her.

From the time my grandmother died over 32 years ago... I had been prepared for the passing of my mother... she is 91... we been waiting for over 10 years her passing and she is still around. All the preparation did not helped for the passing of my daughter last month, she would had been 33 next week. I don't want to be rude but Every Death in Your Life should be Unique. Handle it separate. About your Grandmother... She had a long life... Just like everything eventually will break down... so our will to live... we will get tired of living... some quicker than others. Give her Your Love while she is present but remember... even our will is not made to last forever. Be Strong and Cherish the Memories. 90 plus years... you got a Winner! You come from Good Stock.

Death is inevitable, so find a way to accept it.

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