Just wondering, about past experiences. Im on a couple dating sites, and have had several dates with women are church going Christians. My Bio clearly states agnostic, but yet they continue to agree to, even ask for a meet and greet. they say they understand the meaning my beliefs, but once expressed, face to face, you can see the expression change all most instantly. Has any one on here had these same experiences. A couple have even came back for 2nd dates. Most just bail out . LOL
As a former Christian let me assure you, they have absolutely no respect for your beliefs. They may well understand them, but they probably don't. Either way it doesn't matter.
For the living gawd, creator of the universe, is ready, willing, and able to change the hearts of mankind. They will pray you into salvation, my brother! Condescending psuedo respect to your face and complete confidence in the change they fully expect you to manifest once they have prayed on your behalf. Any delays in expected results are just the lawd testing the earnestness, faith, and steadfastness of the prayer in question. There is no if you convert, only when.
Run, my friend, run fast
To identify yourself as "Agnostic" specifically identifies you as not being sure about religion. Many (most?) Christians are going to see that as an open invitation to "show you the light of Jesus". I agree with the suggestion that these religious women who want to meet you assume they can convert you and when you appear to be a hard sell they bail. Even if you are on the fence in this regard you might want to try identifying yourself as Atheist which will probably turn off a lot of women but those that respond would seem to be much better candidates.
I'm guessing some have delusions of changing you "for the better." When faced with the reality, they drop out. A lot of Christians truly believe "if you're just exposed to 'the good newz of Jeeebus Chhriiist' you can't resist it." Your curmudgeonly skeptic self is giving them self-doubt about your reclamation!
I avoid (like the plague? Is that too biblical a simile?) anyone who appears to be somewhat serious about their religion. But I have good friends (some of them women) who are religious but are very cool about it.
As long as they don't intend to convert me, or exercise their religion in a harmful way, I am no longer concerned about it. I am content with being an atheist, no longer care so much about being an antitheist.
I look at their profile... if it says Christian (or some other faith) I don't reply. If it has no answers on religion I usually don't reply either. I just simply don't engage. But im lucky, I live in Seattle and we've a ton of non believers. I'd say only 25%of the men who've contacted me are Christian and most put "but not serious about it."
That said, I got married to my husband when I was a believer and he was an athieat... it never was an issue. He didn't de-convert me, I didn't convert him.
These ladies sound like, “Broken wing menders.” They think they can “fix” you if they nurture and care for you enough. I’ve had my share of men who were the same. They thought I was broken from previous unhealthy relationships and all I needed was a “good man to show me the way.” Once I made it perfectly clear that I didn’t need to be fixed, things never worked out.
The meaning, to them, is that you are on the fence and it really doesn't matter. I lived with a woman for 12 years. She was agnostic and I Catholic. It really didn't matter. I did not push my beliefs on her and she even went to mass a couple of times because she liked the ceremony. We broke up when I left religion and became very vocal about environmental issues (and she relapsed with her drinking).
I too have been contacted by women who were religious (i have since left dating sites). Finally, I added atheist to my profile and when a religious person contacted me I told them our different belief systems would make this a no-go. One has to be proactive from the start.
Maybe they are trying to keep an open mind? That’s hard to say these days. I was raised Christian and date all types of beliefs. I’m agnostic now mainly because the evil I see in those people, not the actual religion itself. Maybe they are looking for a way out?
I instantly block/delete anyone who claims to be Christian/religious, and if they don't say so in their dating profiles, I ghost them the moment they reveal Christian religious beliefs to me.
I have no reason to argue with or communicate with them further, at all.
Many women I know talk about how men only look at the photos and don't really read the profiles and details on dating sites. Maybe that is true with women, as well? Or maybe they are like so many people and can not see what they don't want to see... that a man they are attracted to and has so many obviously great qualities doesn't accept their faith at face value.
I had one woman I dated twice who told me after the second date that my being an atheist was a deal breaker. We never talked about it. But it was plainly on my Match profile. I have rationalized it away as her just not being into overwhelmingly sexy men.
I would say that there is no base answer, I've had some work out well and others not. as a rule I lean away from the spiritual just because I don't like the disappointment when they realize they can convince me, also I feel a little bad when they realize there is no evidence for any gods and I was the one who took there entire world view and shook it up.
The very nature of their religion tells them to rescue you and straighten you out. If your bio says you are agnostic everyone in church knows that you haven't got a clue about god, or that you just haven't found the right god yet. Yes, agnostics and atheists need to be fixed and evangelized. The believer thinks they just need to be straightened out.