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What a shit year it's turning out to be already. On Sunday (so technically last year) my very dearest friend, who I adore more than I could ever describe, found her mother dead. Yesterday, another close friend's father died. Today, I found out that another friend attempted suicide a few days ago.

Can't wait for 2020.

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That's pretty awful. A miniscule consolation is that this is the statically most likely time to croak - elderly folk hang on until Christmas/the new year, and the holiday season is really tough on those with depression.
Hopefully it's just an initial blip.


Death isnae any fun, so I'll try to give you a little uplift on the subject.
I'm off down to England/London for a funeral of the last major old man of the family. And we plan to have a hoot of a time. He has put money behind the bar of his local pub for his family and friends to enjoy. We will tell tales and celebrate to fellow. No black unless it's sexy - he got that from me. So in your terrible sorrow, find the fun, find the good, shed some tears and have a laugh. Three years ago I lost three people between October 11th and Christmas eve, only one from old age. A wife two friends, two close friends and a contemporary cousin. At my wifes wake, we played Cards against humanity - she'd have liked that. Big hug lass, and a kiss for your forehead. Tony

@Sofabeast -- Just a side note: My ancestors from my father's side came to the US via Dundee, Edinburgh, and Glasgow, thence to New York to infect them with their vile presence in the late 1600s. I've been to Glasgow and Edinburgh on business a few times in the late 1960s. Had a lovely time and thought I'd retire to Dundee, but life had other plans.

@evidentialist Look up a movie 'Gorky Park' from the 1980s. Dundee played the part of Soviet Moscow, due its dismal appearance! Now even the jute mills are gone. I moved here from southern England (that's what love can do) and don't want to leave.

@Sofabeast -- I'll do that. I have a feeling I've seen it, but just in case.


Sorry to hear. Always a negative time. Be sure to take time for yourself as well as your friends.

xyz123 Level 7 Jan 4, 2019

Big big hugs.


Life truly sucks sometimes. It is good that you have this site and the great people here to share your feelings about these significant losses in your life. No one has all the answers to help with your pain, but please know many here care. I lost my husband in June of last year. If you need to vent or just want to chat send me a private message.


Oh gosh, that's horrible. Really horrible. All at once too.
The attempted suicide will weigh heavily on everyone's mind.


That sounds awful, sorry to hear. Hoping your "threes" are done......

Byrdsfan Level 8 Jan 4, 2019

my good friends som in his early 30`s was found dead just b4 xmas and my 86 year old mum has lymphoma now so shit for me too. i do understand too a degree.


We are at that age where these things are going to be more and more common I'm afraid. smile003.gif
'Tis no salve for the hurt but I'd buckle in for the bumpy ride ahead...


Sorry for all of this happening, hope that it gets better for you!


Oh no...I am very sorry. Hold on, things will improve

Amisja Level 8 Jan 4, 2019

Sorry to hear it.


Hang in there....

Orbit Level 7 Jan 4, 2019

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry. That sucks and is awful. My hope is that you may find some glimmer of happiness and a source of comfort for this year.

It's still early, there's hope for 2019 still.


Nothing ever happens at the right time. Sorry for your loss.

Jolanta Level 8 Jan 4, 2019

Very sorry to hear this. I don't even know what to say. I have lost both parents over the last 17 years. Both to different forms of cancer. Very sad to hear of your friend who attempted suicide. Maybe you can be a positive influence on that person?

IAMGROOT Level 7 Jan 4, 2019

I'm sorry for your losses and for those of your friends. Hang in there, it has to change sooner or later.


This happens as we get older. I am sorry to hear about all of this but it gets worse as you get older. I get word of someone's parents, brother, sister, spouse dying almost weekly or monthly at this point in life. It sucks!


I'm sorry to hear that. Good luck. I'm sure that there are a lot of people here you could reach out to if you would like.

LEPeff Level 8 Jan 4, 2019

Oh, no.
I'm so sorry!


I hope things get better. You have my deepest condolences. That is truly a shitty way to start the new year. Hugs

Kafirah Level 8 Jan 4, 2019

I'm sorry Jnei if you need to talk- holler please? I'll be around tonight for sure.

That is a lot of friends with a lot of sadness going on. I can't imagine all that at once.

Though I've watched my older sister go through funeral after funeral sometimes?
I have just two friends I see who still have parents around and it's going to be hard when they go.

Hang in there my friend. You know where I am. Love you much. smile015.gif
Do what you can. I always baked. smile009.gif

RavenCT Level 9 Jan 4, 2019

Really sorry.
I'm here for you if you need.

KKGator Level 9 Jan 4, 2019

Living isnt for the feint of heart . I'm sorry.


So sorry. Hugs to you.

kltuckmn Level 7 Jan 4, 2019
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