I am in the same boat. I tried the open to dating thing, but found it overwhelming. I ended up opting for community and removing most of my profile statement. I agree with others here, that looking at the person’s profile is essential. Compatibility is everything...otherwise being single is better.

I flip back and forth depending on my horniness level

Yes, I am here in the same capacity. I go back and forth as to whether I should state that I am looking to date or here for community, on my profile.

I suppose I'm here more for a like-minded community. If I was to strike up conversation or meet with a lady, that is something to be open to. But this doesn't seem to be so much a "dating" site as it is a community for those who question or a skeptical of the existence of an omnipotent deity. If that's all this site ever is for me, I can live with that.

Not me. I joined for community.
I'm single and fully expect to stay that way.
I am not relationship material and I am completely undatable.

Good point. IMO, most of life is fluid and the sooner I realized that, the better my personal peace became. I think that we sometimes mix up compatibility with chemistry. Likes and interests are not the same, IMO, than chemistry. I have had the most intense connection with a few, and I mean few, women that I had very little in common with (measured by interests and activities). So, on a site like this, or others, if you connect with someone, that's very cool, but seeking companionship using a silo approach might not work.

Very good points you raised.

I’m officially whatever. If she taps me on the shoulder, then OK.

I'm in the same boat. I take it as it comes (or doesn't). Life is good with a partner or alone. I choose to not settle (it's been a looong time) but I won't take anyone who is incompatible.

near as I can tell the site is mostly about community rather than dating but it does seem happen from time to time

Same here. Since I'm not currently in a position to date while recovering from cancer, I'm just enjoying the conversations, but a serendipity would be welcome.

Overthinking is not your friend....if you put "here for community" does that Exclude anyone?!?

I'm here for both, so in my status I say that I'm interested, and if anyone shows up who I connect with, that would be great. But I also don't have much in my bio more than talking about being curious (which I am right now, about other people but also about myself), and when I'm ready to put myself out there more I'll probably update my bio and be more active and responsive about meeting people and dating. Seems to work for me... And if nothing more materializes even after that, I'm okay with it. Gotta live your life the best you can whether you're in a relationship or not.

There's not enough people even remotely close enough to me to bother trying to use this community for dating. I just peak in to see what's up every now and then

No difficulties on my part, thankfully! I joined for the community, but I am single and would like to have some gentlemen friends. I have met up with a few people from this online community, and have enjoyed meeting them!

Do what I do.
"Here for community"
"Open to meeting women"

Yeah me too. I have open to meeting all genders because friendship would be great as well as dating if that worked out but the way that section is set up does appear to be one or the other rather than both

I would like to find like minded people who are nearby. Dating would be an added perk.

So many of the technicalities around here are news to me But I agree with you totally.

This is why I added "Here primarily for friendship and community, but should I meet anyone with whom I feel a connection, potentially more" to my profile. Unfortunately, since so many people don't actually read profiles and just fire off salvos of PMs to anyone who shows up as open to dating, I still get lots of those!

I'd like to do the dating site of things, but the low density of UK users makes this unlikely.

I just put open to dating, but put I'm mainly here for community in my profile speil. Never had problems.

If there happen to be attraction between you and a lucky guy, I think that person will at least try to contact you through messages in spite of all, so don't worry and stay in the community, I think!

Yeah. kinda silly place