We're both going to change our names to one we've choosen. It'll have meaning to us and us alone.

I was married briefly in my 20s and I took his name. I never really thought about not doing it, it was just what everyone did. But I gotta say, I didn't really like that my married name was Mrs. Christ. !!!! Pronounced KRIST, but I had to wear "CHRIST" on my military uniform every day! Couldn't wait to get my previous name back LOL!

I’d like to marry a woman with the same last name as mine and then we can hyphenate our names. I also met a woman whose first name is my last name. As soon as I met her I told her we should get married and she should take my last name. First she said no but when I told her my last name she said she’d have to discuss this with her boyfriend.

When a woman changes her name, say from Miss Daisy Buchanan, to Mrs. Fitzgerald, she disappears completely. The title 'mrs' means 'mistress of'. So multiple women can use that title -- for example multiple wives (either single or plural) or a woman and her mother-in-law -- at the same time. All that counts is that she belongs to someone - - and is married.

I would say it's more a feminist issue than a religious one. Women became tired of being identified as property and of having their name indicate their marital status. (Mr. gives no clue as to marital status.) I've been married twice. The first time, in 1978, I chose to hyphenate my last name. It was a royal pain in the butt. I was asked what my 'real' last name was multiple times. I was told that computers couldn't accommodate a hyphenated name -- although people did admit that computers had no difficulty in handling hyphenated words. I was asked how one would alphabetize the name. I was asked why I would not take my husband's name. (For the record, I was establishing a professional reputation and didn't want to lose my 'maiden' name.)

Second marriage, in 1994, I chose to retain my name. (I had changed back legally after the first divorce.) It was so much simpler. I admit there were some amusing situations -- such as when someone asked my brother whether I was his wife!!) Also, my publication record is accessible without confusion.

kept mine as I felt it implied possession

I've been married three times.

The first time I changed my last name. When he loaded, chambered, and pointed a 12g shotgun five inches in front of my face I moved out and filed for divorce. Getting my last name back was a horror show which I vowed never to do again.

The second and third time I kept my last name.

Fun fact..... I knew a couple in Richmond, Virginia where the man took the woman's last name.

I have been married twice and am not married now and my name is the one that is on my birth certificate.
Infer what you choose.

I really hated changing my name when I got married in 1982, because I knew I was making a mistake, but felt pressured into doing so. Then 2 kids and 29 years later, I finally got my divorce. I kept my married name, for simplicity, to match the last name of my children.

My reasoning was that I had a choice to take the name of my abusive dad, or abusive husband, so between the two, I'll choose the last name of my children, rather than my childhood name.

I want to go forward, not backward. If I were ever to get married again, I'd be glad to take a new name, but it would have to be a person for whom I'd be glad to share a name.

It makes more sense to me for children to take the mother's name, rather than the father's. But that's not the way it is.

I may a little old fashioned, but I loved changing my name to that of my husband’s. When the children came along it made it easier that they too had that surname....for school, etc. I know that there are many women who object to this, and some have always kept their own surnames....usually for professional reasons, such as my daughter-in-law, who is a lawyer....but in her private life she uses our family surname. It must always be a matter of choice, of course, whatever suits both parties in the marriage, with more couples not choosing to marrying in the first place it’s common to have dual names in families.

One of my closest friends is Chilean, but has lived in Canada and the U.S. for more than 30 years. It is not customary in Chile (a predominantly Catholic country) for women to change their name at marriage. But she and her husband get constant scrutiny in airport security. This is your husband? Why is your name different? I suppose it is actually suspicion of latinx, but it seems by now we would be more accustomed to couples or families with different names.

Someday I hope to change my name, along with my partner, to something we choose, because it's about us.

I did change my name. I wanted, once I had kids, for us all to have the same name. I kept the name, even after divorce, for the same reason. I work at a school and it us so hard these days to keep track of who belongs with who. It's crazy.

My ex had a cool last name. She kept it. The kids got my last name as a second middle name. No hyphen.

Hère in Quebec, Canada women keep their name

I hyphenated my last name.

My ex-wife was steadfastly not going to give-up her name. I was totally fine with that. But then she started to hyphenate her name after she divorced me, and then she totally started using mine exclusively.

I was married once but didn't change my name. I like my maiden name and wanted to keep it. Besides, changing my name just seemed like a silly thing. I guess I'm not very traditional.

In answer to your second question, yes. It comes from a time when women were consideted second class citizens, or even chattal. Today it may be more just plain tradition or a question of making legalities easier to manuever.

Yes because its a cool name. The idea was that in previous times women became the property of their husband and his father. In some cultures one step is missed out altogether and the women takes her father-in-law's name.

YES! Religion is all about subjugating women....

My exwife keep my last name after the divorce because her maiden name was Italian and everyone butchered it. She also didnt want to go back to the DMV and deal with that shit again.

I did not. Partly because I was 32 when I got married and had had that name all that time. I had a career and didn't want to change it. Also, my last name was cooler than his. And I'm lazy, it sounded like a lot of effort. And... I knew in the deep recesses of my mind that he wasn't the right person. It didn't work out so I'm glad I didn't change it.

Like most marriage traditions, it's not really a religious thing. It reeks more of a tribal thing. Some cultures (and in the best fiction), men have to "fight" a woman's family to take her off to be wed. It's funny to think about.

It's a symbol. Like any symbol, it means whatever you assign to it. If you think it makes you a possession, then that's what it does. So you should probably keep your last name. However, if you feel like your future husband is trying to make you a possession, your relationship probably has a deeper-seated issue than just a last name.

I understand why women don't want to do it. I understand why some men are insecure about it. It's something a couple who are right for each other should be able to talk through.

My wife kept her own name. Why not? It’s who she is. Not an appendage.

I don't think it matters one way or the other.