#1. How many are on this site looking for a companion? Similar to other online dating sites?
#2. How many are financially able or interested in packing up their life and starting over in some far off location for the right partner?
The probability is quite low - but it is a place to share our condition with others in the same position - Ha! Reality sucks. The dating pool shrinks considerably with age and physical condition... There is a reason many single women retire to the beach or sun belt... it takes effort to put up with winter weather - but sitting in a darkened home with AC running for 6 months or more is not much different???
I met my Ex-wife on Match.com and she moved back to California to be closer to her daughter and grandkids. Family can be a powerful factor. My last partner moved to Colorado and I stayed here... I have a home that I love and a mortgage and a job that make it very hard to start over... I am resigned to meeting local women - but living in Sarah Palin's backyard it is hard to find much in common... honesty is my only real virtue?
No.1...I am definitely open to the idea of meeting someone.
No.2...Not so simple. I could move , but I am in a musical situation I would not want to leave. I have been playing music with my brother for over 45 years, and we have a really good band with people who have spent most of their lives making a living playing music. I have played with hobby players when my brother retired for almost a decade and it was not fulfilling. The majority of hobby players look at playing as a time to drink to much and show off. I haven't been drunk at a gig since the late 70's. If music had been a hobby and that had been my background I would probably have that same attitude.This seldom leads to a really good band. True professionals want to make good music period. There are only a handful of places you will find those players and the Austin area is one of those places. If it weren't for that I would have no real problem moving. Since l am alone, music is all I really have and I don't want to do it half- assed. The only women I have made any connection with at all so far all live over 1000 miles away. Go figure. So I am not optimistic about meeting someone here. Sorry I got so long winded.
Eh, I'm looking, but not particularly hard. My last relationship was enough of a trainwreck to justify some introspection. l could pack up and move across the globe, but I don't really want to. I have the skills to make excellent money anywhere, but job hunting is never fun. Plus, my house is awesome.
Ideal bet would be to find a lovely woman with no roots, buy a boat and drop off the face of the Earth. Set up a line of site Wi/Fi antenna and make enough money working from home to live comfortably and completely free.
Son might get bored though, and leaving him with his mother is unthinkable.
I am here more for the interaction than to find a partner....but it would not be a bad thing if that were to happen. I have been on other sites and have given up because I am not sure that I 'translate' well on these sites. I think it may be my unconventional looks and age...who the hell knows coz I sure don't lol. Anyhoo, I spend my time between the U.S. (the place I call home) and Australia because I have family in both countries, so relocation is a possibility for either of those countries. I agree as we age our options dwindle and I really have stopped looking for a partner because I am an older woman (I know older men have a hard time too but they still have many more options than older women do) and also because I find most men of my age are as unattractive to me as I am to them....but for different reasons.
I'm not actively seeking a partner, but would welcome an intellectual connection or a spark of romance if it were to happen in my usual round of activities online or on my little island. Not likely, so I'm good with that.
Pretty happy on my own, with my idyllic life here on Kauai, so I'm not seeking to move away, unless I was to fall for a guy who lived somewhere at least half as nice as where I am, with love and happiness making up for the half that is lacking.
When I scroll through profiles, especially when someone replies to one of my messages, it looks like about 80% of them are looking to meet persons of the approprate gender(s). I'm baffled by those looking for many genders. It's as if they're saying "Don't care if you are a cross dressing, gay, lesbian or straight -- get over here. I'm lonesome tonight."
Intermittently someone meets someone here but it looks like 2% or less of the active members. After that they brag about what a wonderful person Metalhead is. Grim, grim odds. Having said that, my profile says I'm here for the community which means "not looking" and I still get women that send me private e-mail that indicates they're lonesome tonight.
The ones who seperate most of their sentences by ... strike out. Anyone using more than three dots are mistaken for Donald Trump.
The hot, the horny, the steaming for wild sexual flings women are all more than a day's drive away. The oversexed are way over there.
I would consider moving for the right person but I couldn't do it for several years as I have committed to helping with the grand kids til they leave for college.
I doubted I would find anyone locally to date but I like the idea of having a non religious platform to discuss things on without dealing with the thoughts and prayers thing
I found this site because I was looking to find atheists to date. I very quickly realized location was a huge issue though. Like many I’m still here just to socialize with like minded people.
I just moved to NorCal to be close to my parents so I wouldn’t relocate too far. I want to be able to drive over for a weekend without having to take time off work. Financially I can go just about anywhere if I wanted to. Assuming there’s some sort of civilization nearby where I could ply my trade.
I am sure many here come to fill an empty void in their hearts. We are social animals, we can not live on bread and butter alone.
Dare I say, within a population of theists, non-secular beliefs are a curse.
You can pretend to believe in a non existent god, cuddling with a lover who believes in, what to you is, nothing more than a mental pill offering an escape from the reality of death.
With some, who choose live a lie, the lie they live becomes nothing more than enslavement. It is a constricting chain which slowly sucks the life out of them. It changes them in many ways. Pain to anger, isolation to depression.
Many know the odds of a relationship with a theist are challenged. They avoid it. Males search with hungry eyes and hearts, only to find they are not the minority. Women are the minorities of the minority theist world.
Frustration shadows male theists. That dream woman, the one you really want, she's over there. A thousand miles away. Pull yourself from your income, family and some of the things you love and you have a chance at winning her heart.
If not, you can wait. Grow more desperate in your solitude. Hope for a non-secular match to appear.
What makes it worse, none of it should matter. You live in a society which actually forces you to think about your not believing in something which doesn't exist.
You watch the common occults destroy everything with their fear based beliefs.
You choose how long you stay with a lover based on their lack of belief in an occult. So few to choose from you'll accept a lover you may not have normally, just because she doesn't believe in a ridiculous occult.
So, my bad, went off on a tangent. Yeah I came here for love. Stayed for community.
No I won't pack up and leave for a companion. I could never love anyone more than my child. I can just suck it here in the cursed land of the godbots.
I would love to find a companion, whether it be from here or elsewhere. Online doesn't seem to be a realistic way to find someone. I am trying to be more active in things that interest me. I think that is probably a better way to find someone.
Technically I am open to a relationship of any distance and would move for the right person. The reality is that it is difficult to really get to know someone if you can't spend time with them.
I suspect women retire to the beach or the sun belt for the same reason as men do.
I do fine on my own, and it's not my end all and be all - but a companion to do stuff with would sure be nice.
And though I'm certainly financially able, I made my move to where I am, from NY 20yrs ago (already done my time in winter !). Why ? Because I really like being warm - yes - even in the summer here. And I love alligators, and wanted to have them around, which I do ! A/C runs only in the afternoon, and my house in the woods is not "darkened" - but rather pleasant ! And paid for. Unless Florida ends up under water - I'd be loathe to leave ...
I suspect I have a broader pool from which to choose , than you do in Sarah Palin country.
#1 - not really unless some unforeseen lighting strikes.
#2 - not unless I win the lottery. On the other hand, I have a nice home, so if a woman wanted to, she could move in with me. Yeah, I know, not very likely either.
I am fortunate in that when I am alone, I do not mind it. I enjoy my own company. When alone I am with my own best friend. I am not a hermit, but finding a woman to be with is not my life's pursuit.
After reading all the comments here, I can see your problem. Could you do four or five months away from home at their place or somewhere else on earth? Robert William Service came to mind and his poem called the The Cremation of Sam McGee. If you haven’t heard of this Canadian, check him out: [poemhunter.com] He has some funny poems and stories from his time in the Yukon.
I am not a needy person desperate to find a mate. But it would be really nice to find someone to have dinner with once a month and enjoy intellectual conversation. I like living alone, I need lots of space, but at the same time it would be great to find a companion who also is very independent.