Blame and guilt are a few of many tactics preachers use to get more money from you. Don't let it bother you, just them wrong with their own book and go on about your day.

the blame game is the bastion of folks who do not want to admit they had any part in a bad/tough/unsavory situation so they point the fingers at others instead of going "yeah, I screwed up, now lets fix this/make it better/try to recoup." They look at taking responsibility for their actions and accountability for a poor situation as a personal failure instead of what it is, just being human. Of course when you add narcissism into the mix, the blame game turns into a rousing romp of gaslighting and one-upsmanship.

I blame you for this posting. Does this blame help anything?..... You're welcome

I blame myself.

I would have a problem assuming its a religious construct. I think it goes much deeper than religion. I think it would be a natural part of any creature that relies heavily on social groups to survive. It would be a fundamental part being able to control ones behavior to live within a social group. I beat it would an emotion chimps would be very familiar with you could talk to one.

Blame can absolutely be useful.
Telling someone "YOU did this", is important when they DID do something that needs
to be pointed out.

Especially if they're acting like they aren't.
A lot of people will not own their shit, and sometimes you just have to tell
them they ARE responsible for whatever it is.

There isn't anything wrong with pointing it out when it's warranted.

Guilt was invented by religionists? Funny that I feel it despite being a lifelong athiest.

The word "blame" has an implicit whiff of illegitimacy to it, as in, blaming someone else for your own failure. I do think that one has to legitimately and accurately determine who is responsible for outcomes, be they good or bad. It would be wrong to attribute every single instance of assigning responsibility as some kind of empty conspiracy, just because religion is so spectacularly bad at accuracy in this regard.

What religion has actually invented is "sin", a theological construct of guilt based not on objective harms but on arbitrary commands attributed to the divine. This leads to things like labeling ordinary and natural desires or activities as "sin", notably, unsanctioned sexual activity, but also other things, like uttering certain words deemed "dirty", or confusing the crass with evil in other ways. As such, it also inevitably leads to the inverse problem: excusing objective harms because of some special pleading that it's god's will. This has included things like burning "witches" at the stake, or supporting Trump despite him violating many moral precepts of fundamentalism in just about every possible way.

I tend to think that we 'blame' each other at many times simply to shift responsibility from ourselves much like the Faithfools do with matters that go wrong and they shift the blame on to the shoulders of anyone except God and themselves.
Who do you blame when, for example, you hit your thumb/finger with the hammer whilst putting a nail into something, most people will immediately blame the hammer and not themselves, after all, as the old saying goes, " It IS a bad/poor Workman who blames his tools."

It's not whether you win or lose, or whether you're right or wrong, it's how you place the blame.

Blame can be very justified. Sometimes we just have enough of someones els stuff and have to tell them.

Sure. First one to blame the dog's the one who passed gas.

I think parents invented guilt. There’s actual guilt that has to be somehow dealt with and there’s the feeling of guilt where we are punishing our own selves, often irrationally.

Only if you want to misdirect your misdemeanour and cover your arse!

i think so, yup

blame is not the same as guilt. if you have done something wrong and no one knows about it to blame you, you still may feel guilt -- or not, if you happen to be, for example, a sociopath. it doesn't take religion to feel guilt. awareness of right and wrong do not depend on religion. most humans know not to hurt others on purpose.

g

Hmm. Great question. I think the most powerful blame is when someone owns it ... as in: I made this mistake, I apologize, and I won’t do it again (or this is how I’ll fix it).

Blaming others feels good when we’re angry, but it doesn’t build relationships.