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No one can tell me why I am here in this mystery. The religions all spin beautiful fairy tales, but since I reached maturity, I realized they were all wish fulfillment & not what really is. But I face the dilemma of what is my meaning & purpose, what happens to my loved ones & myself when we die, & what the hell is really happening.

Remiforce 7 Aug 22
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your/our meaning & purpose is commensurate to a protozoa.

A protozoa has existence. We have existence. Same, Same in the sceme of things. What is is!!!

That's true if you live your live on the same level as a protozoa. πŸ˜‰

@dare2dream ,
doesn't matter how you live your life. we're all subject to the same universal force/will.
if fate is kind you'll have a good life. if you have bad luck, you're basically Fcked.

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There is no meaning or reason for any of us, however that does not mean you can’t create something for yourself.

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Welcome and enjoy the ride!! Any, about meaning and other questions... your life,your choice 😎

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Zen meditation is a practice of going deep within. That is where the secret of my purpose in this life was revealed to me.

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Howdy and welcome here.

Glad to meet you

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The big why can't be answed.

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You certainly wrapped a lot of philosophical quandaries up into a single post, didn't you? These are issues that people have debated for millennia and I'd suggest reading up on different ethical schools of thought, learning to think in terms of cost and benefit (for yourself, for those around you, for people around the world, for animals, for the environment). Explore what it would mean if there really were a divine or cosmic purpose for your existence. Is it more satisfying than the possibility that there's no meaning? Can you build purpose into your life without a mandate from on high? When we die, what are the common things people think might happen? Why do people believe? Do they have good reasons to think there's a heaven or hell? Is there good reason to believe in reincarnation? Is eternity as comforting as people think it is? Do these people believe humans have an immortal soul but animals don't? Why or why not? The more you think about these things, especially in the context of why people accept what they do, the more you'll sift things into realistic and wishful-thinking categories β€” and you will decide for yourself whether you accept the logic of the world as it appears, or to take up something more arbitrary because is fills a psychological or emotional need for you. I'm sure you can tell which direction I lean, but no one can force you to think a certain way. It comes down to what you value, what sort of person you want to be, and whether your life supports your desire. I have a friend who asked all the right questions, had many intriguing revelations in his quest for truth, but ultimately couldn't overcome his upbringing and the pressure from his family; he fell back in line and no longer seems to question. That saddens me, but it's the harsh reality that sometimes we fall back to what we are comfortable with. Ask yourself if you want to push beyond, even when the answers aren't comforting and even when you feel uncertainty and pain. Are you willing to be honest with yourself about what is real? Are you willing to have your life turned upside down for a while? Do you value the truth to resist what those around you "know" to be true in favor of critically analyzing their arguments for veracity? What kind of person are you, and what kind do you aspire to be? You've asked some valuable questions. What will you do with them now?

Thank you for your very thoughtful response. It raises many interesting issues. My concern, are we even capable of knowing what reality is? Many believe things that appear to be reifications of wishful thinking. We overcome terror of death by believing in heaven or reincarnation. We tell ourselves fanciful stories, individually & collectively, to give ourselves meaning & purpose.

We can examine & ponder, but are never sure our realizations are not just more sophisticated & elaborate wishful thinking. Are we a reflection of our own ego?

@Remiforce Please read my full bio re subjective reality.

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After you die, life will go on just as it did before you were born. The same will apply to your loved ones past and present, and all living creatures....that is unless we are the last generation, which seems increasingly likely! Start doing something to make your life meaningful, now...don’t wait around for something or someone to give your life meaning because that will never happen.

The universe was here many billions of years before I came to consciousness & I understand it will be around many billions after I'm gone. What was before will be, but without me, or at least my physical body. No one really understands the connection between the physical brain & consciousness. Is it possible a copy of our being (ego) & memories are stored in the "Hard Drive" of the universe & can be revived, like calling up a Word documant? In other words, do we have a soul?

@Remiforce I suppose if you put it that way...anything is possible....just unknowable.

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Get a grip!

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We're here because we were incredibly, tremendously lucky. You won't be back in this form for tens to perhaps hundreds of millions of years.

You're welcome.

You seem to be assuming there will be reincarnation, which is a comforting but unproven notion in some Eastern religions that we can get a Mulligan, a do over, in life. It is nice to believe if we don't get it right, we will be back over & over until we finally get enlightenment & go off to Nirvana, but this can be as big a fairy tale as Christian Heaven

@Remiforce I'm not saying that some day the molecules of being will 'belong to me" again...I'm sure that in a few thousand years I'll briefly exist as a plant, or insect or worm....but the odds of me becoming a thought-projecting, self actualized thinking being is unlikely in the near future.

In a few million years? Then I stand a chance.

I really think Richard Dawkins nailed it.

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If you don’t know what the meaning of your life is make me a sandwich because then at least I’ll have a sandwich.
Haha, this idea is the foundation of all religions!

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Meaning is where you find it.

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To answer your questions, more or less... It is up to you to find meaning in life for yourself, in whatever capacity that means to you. This is a problem everyone faces, religious or not (but especially not). When we die, as best as science can tell, nothing happens. Literally nothing. We simply stop existing. We stop being. That's it. And don't feel bad if it takes a while to wrap your head around that. Despite its simplicity, it is a very huge concept to grasp. At least, I find it to be. But your last question, I'm afraid that is simply too big to answer. There are way too ways to interpret that and too many factors to answer no matter how we interpret it.

No one really knows what happens to us when we die. There are so called "Near Death Experiences", but they may be the product of residual brain functioning & don't necessarily indicate anything real. We would like to believe our precious egos & experiences are somehow stored in some "Hard Drive" of the universe & can be restored like a Word document, but no one really knows. Maybe the credits roll, the screen goes blank, & our story is over, but I believe those who say that definitely may be wrong also. To be an "Agnostic" means to keep an open mind about what you don't know. Things that can't be proved or disproved.

What I said is a "Big Question", which is why I am an agnostic & not an atheist. An agnostic has the humility & courage to admit they don't know anything with our feeble intellect & limited experience about these "Big Questions". Socrates was considered the wisest person in Athens because he admitted he knew nothing. If you say "god" doesn't exist, then you are pretending you know something you can't know.

We can get into a long story about what is the definition of "god", from the jealous old tribal chieftan to the Spinozan-Einstinian version of the sum total of the laws of the universe.

I like the Woody Allen joke about how he fell in love with a girl in college but couldn't marry her because of religious differences--she was an atheist & he was an agnostic.

I also like his one --God, Give me a sign of your existence--like making a large deposit in my name in a Swiss bank account.

@Remiforce In my opinion, indecisive doubt is too often mistaken for humility. And, frankly, it shouldn't take much courage to admit when one is lacking knowledge. That's just intellectual honesty. But, until some cloud storage of the universe is discovered, I'm going to base my opinions on scientific understanding rather than subjective philosophy. In other words, there is zero compelling evidence to believe that anything happens after death, and until there is, I will remain convinced by current facts.

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You face the existential dilemma. At first, it is frightening, almost overwhelming. Then, when we face the face that we all die and that is all there is, and that there is no inherent meaning in our lives, the fact is freeing, even exhilarating. It means that this life is all that we have, and we would do well to both enjoy it and do the most we can with it. It gives us the freedom to choose our own courses of action and make our own decisions -- to construct our own meaning. But, that carries with it responsibility for those choices and actions, for we could always have chosen otherwise. That is the heart of existential philosophy.

If this is the only life we have, & we believe the only meaning it has is the meaning we give it, that is freeing & exhilirating, but also terrifying. We are forced to make choices in every moment, & if we believe our choices define our being, & sometimes there is no right choice, then we face an endless dilemma, for there is no real right or wrong. Everything is "transactional", as Donald Trump appears to believe. There is a lot of truth in the old saying , "The road to hell is paved with good intentions". We wil lnever know if the choices we make are right or wrong, as there is no standard except our own. This concern is important in Existentialism.

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we are biological units purpose is survival of the species. Just like all the other animals and bugs and shit on the planet

Shit does not survive. It quickly decomposes

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No one knows what happens when you die.

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Glad you were able to see through the lies mate

I can see through many of the lies, but I believe I'm beginning to see through many of the truths too. Is this just word play or profundity? Only my shadow knows!!!

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What happens after we die is the same as what happens before we are conceived? I am not sure why people are not more concerned with the second question?

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We are in a state referred to as "being alive." When that ends we call it "death." Many people claim to deal with the in between states but usually that is some sort of money scam. What is your meaning and purpose? What do you want them to be?

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Why does our life HAVE to have meaning? Ego? A very strong possibility. Why should our lives have any more meaning than those of thousands of species of animals that also have consciousness?

What is the point of living if nothing means anything to you?

Animals appear to have a form of consciousness. You can communicate with your dog or cat. But animals appear to live in the moment & don't reflect the way humans do. They seem to operate mainly on instinct & haven't developed the cerebral cortex the way human's have. Consciousness of our meaning & purpose & our impending death & the death of all we hold dear is our burden. We are conscious of the passing of time, which is a cause of terror, because we know how it all ends, at least in terms of the only life we have known

@dare2dream The point of living is to live.

@txtreehugger If the point of living is to just live, wouldn't living a well lived life be better?

Animals simply live. As a higher life form, shouldn't humans find a greater purpose for ourself?

@dare2dream To paraphrase Socrates, the unlived life is not worth examining

@dare2dream, @txtreehugger This is like saying, "The point of driving a car is to drive a car". You may get some enjoyment from driving a car, but where are you going?

@dare2dream. I didn't consciously CHOOSE to be born. None of us did. Life is not intentional.RELAX: Nothing Is Under Control.

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That is the serenity of evolution, to give answer, or at least context to these great questions. You may not like the answers evolution gives; they are not wish-fulfillment happy stories. Still, the context is as eternal as it get, and probably Universal in scope. What religion can claim that with a straight face?

evolution is a process and does not claim to give answers (or anything else). we may find answers to some questions by observing what we can of the evolutionary process but answering our questions is not its purpose and not always its effect.

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@genessa Evolution tells us how we and all other life forms got here, what we are, where we are likely going. It describes a radically different process from the miracles of yore. Maybe more mundane, maybe not. Evolution describes a dynamic process that is consistent with the other physical processes, casting aside miracles such as spontaneous generation. That a single principle could result in the variety of life gives hope that other processes can be discerned to account for the origin of life or the development of cognition or self-awareness.

Evolution has not pretty. It is the survival of the fittest. Sometimes the fittest is the most horrible and vicious, sometimes the most boring & nondescript from our human standpoint, sometimes when conditions change evolution goes backward & more primitive organisms survive. But it is not universal. Evolution is based on what appears to us to be accident, random selection among various possibilities.It is not eternal but very temporary and hyper local.

Religion,too, has evolved. The evolution of myth & story telling.

@racocn8 wrong. evolution does all those things without explanation. people explain. evolution just does. we explain evolution. evolution chugs along with or without us. if we understand how it works, it works, and if we don't understand how it works, it works anyway. meanwhile, it doesn't give purpose to our lives. our lives do not have intrinsic purpose except to be. if we want more purpose than that, we have to find it, preferably not in religion, but evolution doesn't give it to us and it doesn't explain it to us. like us, it just IS.

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My purpose in life is to reach level 10 here at Agnostic.com

Great, Man, That purpose may be as good as any other, & probably more attainable than bringing world peace & such

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