Having come from a thoroughly dysfunctional family, there is great advantage in learning customer service or psychology, because it teaches you how to deal with all kinds of people, what works, and what does not work.
If you have no empathy, and cannot imagine or consider another person's position, it is highly unlikely you will ever be friends, let alone anything beyond that. Some people seem to believe that the other is suppose to be someone with no ego whatsoever, there to serve them. Some Americans even think that the closer you are and the more time you spend together, the better . . . I am quite the opposite in my thinking.
This all leads to something I have picked up on in my exploration of other languages / cultures / foreign films . . . . Looking outside of your own cultural bubble can seriously alter you views.
For example, you will see Americans advocating for corporal punishment of children, and they will rationalize it to hell and back to try to justify it. But for anyone who has the gift of being able to see beyond their own parochial shell of nationalism and monoculturalism, it makes no sense whatsoever, because there are plenty of nations and cultures who do not punish children with corporal punishment, and they turn out fine! In fact, I would maintain, that one of the reasons that there is a lack of power amongst American citizens is precisely because they are dictated to as children, taught not to talk back, even treated as if they are lesser because they are children in some cases. If you want sheep, treat them like sheep, and that is what you will likely get.
This is one of the reasons why "American exceptionalism" is such a stupid idea.
Hitting a child means you are not able to handle a situation and have given into your temper and ignorance. You are teaching them that violence is a solution. Most misbehaving children are either tired, hungry or thirsty. Younger children are easily distracted from bad behavior and older children respond well when toys or privileges are threatened.
Wow, I didn’t even know American exceptionalism was even a thing, that’s hilarious in its arrogance really.
I was friends with a psychologist who had never smacked his children. He decided to start smacking and found they became more violent towards others. He soon stopped and went back to reasoning and isolation techniques.
I think most of that way of thinking is found in just about all cultures. When I was little, still living in Asia, I was never hit, spanked, paddled, beaten, slapped, etc. However, my cousin of around the same age was belted regularly (whenever she didn't get a perfect score in school). Everyone knew it, was never a secret, but thought that was acceptable. Thoughts on how to raise, teach, and punish children vary among Canadians as well. I always believe in focusing on the child's strengths and using them to build success, and punishments should relate to the "crime" and the child should be taught a positive alternative in place of the bad behaviour so they can behave appropriately in the future. A friend of mine would just say the child needed to have been beaten growing up so he/she doesn't turn out doing bad things. Any crying child throwing a tantrum, she would say the parents should spank that child. Ugh.
If you aren't aware of some of these things going in some other cultures, it's likely because in those cultures they don't openly discuss such matters in the open (may be only privately among relatives, friends, etc.)
I always wonder what people are thinking when they rry to communicate ideas like "respect" or "caring" by saying "imagine that youre working with someone from your own family". I don't know what percentage of Americans can actually relate their own experiences with the way were supposedly expected to treat others, especially when our culture clearly supports a violent, monarchistic, version of "communal living".