Sorry to hear. We are here for you. Just let them do whatever puts them at ease, and respect their right to believe in whatever they chose, and do not force your views on them, and hopefully they are not forcing their views onto you. You are there fto make your mother as comfortable as possible. Just be there for her.

Ouch.. Very sorry to hear that. I'm with the 'don't make waves' crowd at a time like that. When my mom was going, I had to sit there and listen to everyone go through their religious spiel. When it was all over, nothing changed, and nobody was hurt.

deep sigh

How true. My heart goes out to you.

What is important here at your mother's death bed is close friends and relatives that believe as your mother does regardless of what her beliefs are. This is not the time or place for any ritual by your new age wife. She can figure it out with spirits leaving later on. If she wants to be a part of this she should go along with the majority right now.

My condolence to you. Try try to be strong.

Yeah, not only do you have to put up with your mother dying but all that frustration too. Take care. It is not worth to upset the applecart. Some things we just have to let go, you will be fine in the end. No need to start a war.

Life is full of times you need to keep your mouth shut. This is one of those times. But I truly do feel your pain!

Good idea nothing good can come from confrontation now, just be patient . Been there with the death of my mom

I’m very sorry. Wish you the best.

Having lost all but two of my relatives - I've experienced this - but it just bounces off because it's not about - not everything is about me. A person on their death bed deserves to have the attention you clearly crave.

We did everything for my dead mother according to her foolish catholic beliefs... I only did it because my sister wanted to do things according to her wishes and my sister was paranoid our mother's dead spirit would haunt her or follow her around angrily if we did things any other way... so I just went along with it because I love and care for her (sister), despite my feelings to the mother.

Can your mother be asked about her wishes? Could she tell you what she wants? That would allow you to at least focus on what will make HER comfortable vs. what makes others comfortable.

My condolences for your loss.

I am so sorry.

Honor your mom and her wishes....tell the rest to leave you two alone in peace