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Do any of you think that a meaningful relationship can be acheived with a christian? Lol im quite entrenched in one and am having existential issues 😓

BradleyBell 4 Jan 13
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Won't work with a Christian but would work for a Jew. There's no eternal soul non-sense.

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What do you want from this relationship? Are you ready to be tolerance?

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I got into religion because I married a Christian. Of course my involvement was all on me. Still they can be very persistent about what they believe. Just try not to fall for their tricks.

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Nope. Cuz eventually its gonna come down to your 'eternal soul', then all bets are off.

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It's possible.. Just don't talk about religion

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I believe life has a way of throwing one curveballs, if you will. Twists and turns, the unexpected mostly. Depending on your personality, try to roll with it. If you’re young and she’s a drop down gorgeous Bomb shell, well the hormones do the thinking for you. Religion be dammed. But if you’re older, you think ‘life is just too short for the aggravation’, so because you’ve been through a lot, or seen a lot, you’re going to walk your walk’ if you can.

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It depends on how tolerant the both of you are the most rigid folding first.

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many topics talking about that.
My answer is yes, for more dtails look for the other times I answered this XD

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Maybe. Keep in mind that the sexes do not think alike in the first place.

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What is meaningful? Is the relationship between a sow and a boar meaningful? I remember when I was introdued to the sows in a pig farm ... and at the end of a long row of pens - not writing implements - I was introduced to one swine with the follwing words: "This is their husband!" Having a vague notion of Chinese marital law and the official prohibition of polygamy I asked: "Is he a Muslim?"
The meaning of a relationship might be a matter of perspective. I had a passionate relationship with a born-again Christian. She knew that I was an atheist. This didn't bother her during intercourse and her bibles in every corner of the room was in no way detrimental to my libido.
In one discussion of the topic: evolution/creation I suggested a sort of Israelo-Palestinian solution with less explostives: Your god created evolution!

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It depends on what kind of Christian they are:

1.Some are Jesus believers but are basically secular in every aspect of their lives.

  1. Some are religious but open-minded enough to not worry about whether or not their partner is a believer.

  2. Some take the Bible literally, as they understand it anyway, and believe it is their sacred duty to convert those who don't believe as the do so they (the partner)
    won't go to Hell.

It might be possible with ones and twos; but, I know some ones-- and some can be too much into Jesus and his love...and their blessings crap. I do not see it working out well at all with number threes.

I have no idea why the sentences are posting all wonky.

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I think any meaningful relationship requires both respect and love, the most important of these being respect. If you can respect each other's beliefs and accomodate those beliefs within the relationship without pressuring or trivialising them then I don't believe there is a problem and indeed I have seen such relationships function successfully.

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If he is a good partner, does not lie or cheat, tips well and is good for me in bed, I see no problem. If he wants to discuss religion, he'll be in trouble because I have studied the history of religion and am not shy about letting him know my opinion. i think he'll get way more grief from my being a feminist than an atheist.

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Every minefield can be defused one trigger at a time but she will likely retaliate if you offend her xian identity

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Sure, it depends on your personality and hers or his.

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Soul is not a religion. It is the inner most part of your being and existence. Everyone has one and everyone also has a different religion. So learn to speak soul.

Assuming you accept the existence of a soul and I think that belief in a soul is the bedrock of any religion. If there is no soul (my belief and that of many atheists) then there is no "soul talk".

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I've known several couples who had apparently meaningful such relationships, for long times. I've also known others who hardly get off the ground. I'm in one myself at the moment, but I would call it more "functional" than "meaningful". Of course, there are also hundreds of thousands of divorced once-wed Christians!! Probably not fair to focus too much on the religion - unless it's an extreme case! - and look at other aspects. First thing you need is a lot of respect for each other. If you have that and at least a touch of affection, then, absolutely an unqualified resounding definite "maybe". 😀

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Yes there is if they feel there is.

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It depends on the individuals involved. Each partner needs to respect the other's enough not to mock or ridicule their belief. As for the Christian side of this question, there is a New Testament passage that seems to validate the mixed belief relationship. 1 Corinthians 7:14 "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy." Many other passages are not at all complimentary of disbelief and would make mutual respect within a mixed belief relationship impossible, but such is the nature of the Bible saying one thing in one part and something opposite in another. It's my belief that a successful relationship will place the wellness of their partner (along with themselves) at the top of their priorities in the relationship. It means beliefs would be secondary to the partner's well being which would include a sort of "hands off" the partner's beliefs. Both partners need to hold this similar value.

As I write this, I can think of all sorts of caveats and sticking points - how to raise the kids, what if certain beliefs are harmful either to the believer or others, etc. I would still maintain that these issues could be dealt with for the most part if the partners in the relationship respected one another. Behaviors and attitudes are much more important than beliefs within a relationship. When beliefs become an issue, I suspect it is because the belief adversely effects behaviors and attitudes.

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