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Death.

I've known it for a very long time now. When I was a young girl it crept into my life at the age of 11 years old. I was naive, innocent, and knew it not. Until the one day it found my father. It took him away in a car driven by my Aunt. My mother you see could not even take it upon herself to drive him to the hospital. Instead, she phoned her sister, who was more familiar with the town to take him. Her sister lived 30 minutes away. By the time she got there it was most likely too late. A coronary thrombosis to the heart does that to one. I recall my Aunt saying to him, "Here Bill, have a cigarette, you're dying anyway." Dying? Unfamiliar words to my young ears. I had followed them to the car and heard it all. I never forgave my mother.

Death. It can be so sudden, and quick. Other times it lingers around and ravages your soul with agony. It can startle one, sneaking upon you saying "Boo, Gotcha," or it can make your life a living hell for a year or more causing your body to decay from inside with cancer. It can sneak into your body and steal a child from you so quickly you wonder what has happened.

It can take your loved ones from you. Those you tried so desperately to save as if in saving them was your last hope for redemption. For love. It can create such agony as many, yet few, may have endured. Until it quietly seduces you with its darkness. It can take the life of your friends husband in a year of quiet isolation, as you hide from it.

All that remains are the memories. The stories of the ones we loved. In the stories they never really die. They live on. I wonder who will tell my story?

JustLuAnn 7 Mar 21
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The ones telling your story will be family and loved ones and others that knew you. Sometimes the stories get told to where it almost becomes myth and legend. I'm sorry to here of your father's passing when you were only 11. This is traumatic at any age. Keep in mind that getting him to medical professionals quickly is important but often will not make any real difference as well. In my area many are buying in to the life flight situation by helicopter. This is and extreme expense if you have no insurance for it. I see it as a scare tactic and it does not interest me. When you die you are dead. The real tragedy is the manner in which you die. I would wish to avoid all physical pain.

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No question about it....death is the end of life

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So permit me to follow up with a writing about LIFE and how every minute of life is infinite. And what a miracle it is and what a gift. How not to waste it. How to fill each moment with love. And how to give it all we've got to fulfill it. And how beautiful our planet is providing us a place to LIVE. And how to encourage myself and others to find joy and LIVE with joy.
How love and life are one.

Yes, there are terrible challenges...It can be hard to dwell in the positive. That can be a challenging choice. It could seem so impossible. I know. I've climbed up to it. It was hard.

I am so sorry about your father and the mishandling of his demise. I,too, would harbor intense hurt over that.

Is it possible that in this ever expanding universe in which we live each moment of time exists forever? If so & a means of travelling to any given time is developed others will be able to observe hear & learn what each person did at any particular moment. - A fanciful notion but one that ensures that your ego can be pacified in the knowledge that you exist for ever?

@FrayedBear Love your comment. I suspect that we do exist forever. Just how we do, that is a mystery.

@think-beyond all your performances are there waiting to be caught up with, re-heard & soundly applauded again said he with appropriate bow.

@FrayedBear That's nice. I had some happenings. Would like to think they live on. (Ha! and smiles)

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I don't care if anyone tells my story. I know that , over the course of my lifetime, I have influenced the lives of hundreds, if not thousands of people. That influence will live on long after I am gone. That is all that I need to know.

I have influenced as well as a former teacher but I do not feel the same. I feel that there should be at least one to tell the story. In that way we live on.

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I leave no one behind to tell my story. That my presence on this earth should not matter to anyone is a great relief to me. That I cause no one to suffer in grief at my passing. I hope I made up for any harm I caused the planet. Being part of the great anthropomorphic extinction. I attempted restitution with habitat restoration. Giving back to nature a small part of what my existence cost it. I can only hope to embrace death as I cycle myself back into the cosmos. That I should have a native meadow, a grand old growth forest, a wind whipped prairie absorb the nutrients that I leave behind, is my legacy.

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It is perhaps best that we only leave memories and stories behind, too much of a legacy, could be a burden to future generations. My big passion is my garden, and I spent years making it, yet I hope that when I die, it will be dug over, and someone will make a new one.

Like the sign outside the nature reserve says. " Take nothing but photographs, leave nothing but footprints."

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None of us will leave here alive. After all we’re all dying to go to our graves.

Unless you want yourself cremated, which I want for myself.

Yeah, one last smoke..

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It is one thing to understand death intellectually. I even understand grief, intellectually.

It is quite another thing to face the hole left in your world, after someone close has gone. A part of me may never understand that.

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We all are born, we all live life and ee all die. It is a normal part of the cycle of evolution. We don't really have a choice on how, why or where we are born, but we do have a choice on how we live and even on how we die. Choose wisely.

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Did you mother have a phobia of driving?

That can be a life crushing thing.

A health system where people are afraid to call an ambulance because of a crippling bill is also a problem.

Right now people dying alone saying goodbyes to a screen is heartbreaking.

No. She was not a kind woman. Especially after my father died. She became cruel. Somehow, I think he held her back from her harshness.

@JustLuAnn Please understand that the following is not a referendum on your relationship with your mother - I lack both the understanding and the authority for such a thing.

But, I also found that I became a stricter, harsher mother after my husband died. It was grief, it was the overwhelming stress, or maybe sometimes it was just easier to be strict. Maybe it was all this, and more.

I tried to do better. I often failed.

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Perhaps , instead of blaming your Mother , you should blame his smoking habit ?

No. My mother was cruel and vindictive. She was raised in the 20s and 30s. Picked cotton and had a very hard life. She was bitter. She killed my my stray dog after my father died. The only creature I had turned to for comfort she killed him. She killed my two pet mice when I came home from college. I shall not forgive her. As for him smoking, we all have are vices. Mine is food. Some have drink. Some have cigarettes. As humans we are all set for something and back in the 60s when he passed they did not know of the dangers of smoking.

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Such is life on planet earth.

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