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How do you deal with the death of a son? Last thursday I lost my son (Age 32)

steve148 7 Apr 15
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I'm sorry for your loss. P.m me if you need to talk.

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To anyone who has lost a child...I can only but immagine...??...However ...I do believe that devastation never really goes away....you just learn to deal with it better....my heart goeas out to you....just so sorry....it shoudn't be this way.......

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I am so sorry for your loss. One of the hardest things is the loss of your child. I can not say time will heal, beacause it won't heal. It will get easier to live day to day. You will go back and forth with your grieving process. There will be days that small things will remind you of him. Hold on to those days, remember the good times. It will get easier but it will take time.

Thank you for your response and empathy. Today I had to send written permission to allow his cremation. It's been a difficult week

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So sorry for what is to me an unimaginable loss.
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I know people who have lost children and they seem to be a fraternity that no outsider can comprehend.
I see the look in their eyes and the weight in their behavior... but they are almost invariably kind and compassionate. Often driven to help others . I’m so sorry that you’ve joined this fraternity , but I think ...find your people , those who know and share with them what’s happened . Here’s wishing you and yours some sweetness returning to your lives . I hope you find your tribe and some peace and purpose .

—&mdash😉-@

Thank you for your very kind words

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I don't,
I can't.
I hope I never have to,
some friends have.
I can mostly guess how hard it must be, I was so close to losing my daughter 15 years back.
All I can offer is my useless sympathy.

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So, so sorry. I can't even imagine. All I can attempt to say is that as I was a son to my father, I'd have wanted my father to go on living if I were to pass.

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Horribly. I live in hell, every fucking day. Just this empty fucking hell. My son was 19. Contact me if you want. I’m so sorry

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Steve, I am so sorry for your loss

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Steve, I am so sorry for your loss, if you need to reach out, I'm here.

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My condolences Steve. I too lost a son, age 39 to cancer. He'd be 52 now. WOW, I haven't done that math for a long time. We have what you could call a memorial to him set up on a shelf. It consists of a small ceramic urn with some of his remains inside along with a photo with him (David), my wife and I taken shortly before he was bed ridden.

At first I couldn't even look at the photo but that changed over time. Now when I see him smiling through the pain it gives me strength. But it never gets easy.

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So sorry for your loss. I wish I had an easy answer, but there is not one.

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I lost my son 27 years ago. He was only 10, and I can't tell you how to deal with it. I can only tell how I did. The first year, I cried every day, and could only take one day at a time. I talked about him to anyone who would listen and cried some more. I live pretty close to the mountains and did a lot of hiking. Physical activity seemed to help more than anything. I ran, hiked, rode a bike and anything else where I could get my breathing and heart rate up. It helped me get out of myself a little.
I wish you the best.

Thank you for sharing you loss

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My one and only child pased 3 years ago next month. She was 11 years old. I would like to know the solution my self. No platitude will help. I sunk my self in my work and pretend to feel better. Just try not to wallow in the loss. Keep busy your way. Good luck.

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I too am sorry for your loss. and won't make any lame suggestions except to connect with others with similar grief

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I am very sorry for your deeply personal loss. I hope that you have many positive memories of him to hold on to.

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Sorry to sound calous but is dohe is done, move on but never lose the memory of him.accept life for what it is and was.

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I am so sorry for your loss.

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Sorry to hear about your loss. You will hurt for a long time. Some days will be better than others, others will be brutal to get through. You now have a hole in your life that will never go away. You will adjust to it being there, but it will always be there. Always remember the good times and the laughter. Good luck.

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I am very sorry about the death of your son. I understand what you are feeling, since I went through it with 2 children. I have no words of wisdom. All I know is that it is soul crushing at first and for a long while after, but some day you will realize that you day wasn't consumed by it for the first time, and you feel that you will get thru it. Over the years, I learned that I went on, living my life, and remembering funny little things they did, and how they would get into trouble sometimes, or how they made me proud of them, and life became brighter. I make the most of my life, visit their graves when I am in Illinois, and remember what brave souls they were. It doesn't seem like it now, but it gets better. I'm so sorry.

Thank you. My thoughts keep revisiting his childhood

Thank you. My thoughts keep revisiting his childhood

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I'm so sorry I know how that feels. I have lost a child myself.

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I am truly sorry.

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Oh no, I am so sorry. It's gotta be very hard, my sympathy to you and all who knew and loved your son. Cherish the memories. ♥

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I'm so sorry. I've no words of wisdom. What a terrible loss.

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I am so very sorry for such a terrible loss.
Can't even imagine what you're going through. Please be gentle with yourself. When you're ready, perhaps find a grief counselor or group.
I'm here for you if you need an ear, or a shoulder. Just message me.

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I’m so sorry. I have a son. He’s only 18. I can only try to imagine the pain. I hope you have /find support All the best to you and your loved ones.

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I can't and wouldn't even try to imagine what you are going through. Just the thought sends a horrible chill through me. I am so sorry. All I can say is to just get through the day, don't worry about the next day, just get through the day.

When you are ready and would like to share stories, I'm here and more than willing to listen. I wish I could do more.

Betty Level 8 Apr 28, 2018
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