I'm defiantly happier since I been an Atheist and my mind opening to more things like dating outside my own race. I'm a white man and I think I might be happier if I dated outside my own race. Interacial couples are on the rise and why not. My religious family has problem with that for some reason. A life partner shouldn't be determined by color of their skin. Any tips on dating someone outside my race?
First it seems to me that it would always be best to date people that you're interested in instead of requiring a certain racial profile.
Of course in order to even associate with people of another race you need to participate in activities that are interracial.
Treat anybody that you date as if they are a normal decent human being.
The members of your religious family are flaunting their own personal insecurities.
For what it is worth, I do not see any correlation between skin colour and opportunities for happiness.
I think you intended to write that you're definitely happier, but I kind of love the idea of being defiantly happy.
You said that you think you might be happier dating outside of your race. Out of curiosity, why do you think that is? You said, too, that you think a life partner shouldn't be based on skin color, so I'm a little confused regarding your perspective. Are you saying that you'd be happier to be in a relationship specifically with someone who isn't white? Or are you saying that you'd be happier to feel like it's an option? Or am I entirely missing your meaning?
As for tips, I've got nothing specific to dating interracially. My dating history hasn't been particularly exhaustive, and I haven't dated anyone who wasn't predominantly Caucasian. That said, unless there were a significant cultural difference that needed special consideration, my instinct is to just treat every potential partner as an individual whom I need to get to know in her own unique way.
I pleased to see more and more posts from people confidently declaring themselves an an atheist.
On mixed race relationships, all I can say is that I am in one and married, and they carry their own challenges. All relationships are a challenge, though. Just life.
Honesty is the most important.
Be sure there’s a mutual attraction.
Be ready for rejection too because whoever you date has a family that may disapprove.
Don’t let your respect waver, every girl is a Disney Princess of some kind at their core.
Communicate too because cis people don’t talk with each other nearly enough, be vulnerable.
I assume you aren’t into same sex relationships based on your profile, if I misread it I’m very sorry for assuming.
"Defiantly" or "definitely"?
Don't choose whom to date based on skin color. I've had a couple of relationships with Black men, and both of them would have been definitely upset had I dated them because they were Black. And "why not" is one of the dumbest reason I have heard for dating anyone.
And if they wanted to date me because I am white, I definitely would not have dated them.
And being open to dating outside of one's ethnicity has nothing to do with being an atheist.
My ex of 12 years is a Kenyan woman. I suppose I have always liked black women even though I have also been married to white. My best advice in getting along with people of other races is to be yourself. Do not do "put on" hand shakes, jestures, or words to prove you are one of "them", the other race. People can tell if you are sincere or a fake. I can tell you for sure that when you date outside your race you quickly find out just who the racists really are. You find it out on a personal level.
I have dated mostly black men for a while, mostly because I got tired of spending time with white men then having them come out with something racist. I do agree with others who have said don't date someone only because they are black. Get to know people, hopefully the right one will present herself.
I've been married to a Korean woman for 30 years, almost by accident I think. although, I've always been pretty free in my dating habits, I wasn't looking to date anyone when I met my wife. We hit it off almost immediately. I was living in her country at the time we met. I feel like it is healthy and positive to experience different perspectives and cultures, and I feel like these experiences have led to personal growth for me. One word of warning about dating and especially marrying outside of your race/culture. It can certainly lead to some friction and misunderstandings, only further exacerbated if there's a language barrier. Try to be as open minded as possible.
Well I decided it against it long ago. I had already put up with religious discrimination for my whole life and wasn't about to add racial discrimination to it. So just be prepared for racial discrimination that you've never encountered personally, or probably any discrimination for that matter. Can you overcome it or learn to live with it, sure, just be prepared to have to defend yourself and your significant other.
I would not recommend race to be your reason to asking someone on a date. If you are already attracted to someone because of compatibility and they just happen to look different that you, then that's great. But don't let race be the basis you use for choosing someone to date. That would be just weird.
Watch out for the women from overseas, particularly if they have not established themselves with a career here. You don't know for certain whether she loves you for you, or whether she wants you for:
If you are dating someone who is not a US resident, take it VERY slowly.
Your religious family has a problem with it for one simple reason. Religion breeds racism and bigotry. It has since the beginning of time. Dont let religious history fool you. The Crusades had less to do with the holy land and more to do with "their skin is brown"
Before you date outside your race, make sure you spend some time hanging around with people of another race. There are different cultural norms and cultural styles.
I've done quite a lot of this, including having long-term relationships with women of different races. Of course, that was back in the 20th century.
Also, work on your English grammar.
I am open to dating someone who isn't white, but am very skeptical about it ever succeeding, since it's tough enough to find a woman even in my race that shares my offbeat, at least for Iowa, cultural and lifestyle traits. In fact, I recently connected and even met up in person with a woman who was black, and we seemed to hit it off well. But then she blocked me a couple days later on the dating site, after not returning my first phone call to her, etc. My guess is she was just too young for me, nine years younger, and used to dating men who preferred texting to actually talking on the phone, like I do. Live and learn, I need to date women my own age who are not into all the texting and being tied all the time into social media and tech. Someone more old fashioned, like me. The experience made me gunshy about ever approaching someone again on a dating site who isn't white, as she seemed to have no problem with that. First time that I ever tried someone not white.