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Ive been thinking that on the weekends my daughter is at her Dad's I've been acting like a hermit. To remedy this, Ive been thinking of visiting the local UU church. I would love to hear thoughts on this.

Emerald 7 Oct 24
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Go for a walk, this time. And if it is a regular event, then find a charity which needs help, from selling goods in the shop to cleaning cages in an animal shelter. You will meet more people, get to know them much better, get more active, and be doing something worth while at the same time.

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I considered this myself, but these institutions require donations, etc.

I'm pretty frugal, and believe in free.

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For some people like us, UU churches are great, to others, they are a disappointment. My experience has been mixed. While both UU churches I attended were very secular and humanistic in their content, one was very classist, cliquish and snobby, while the other was fairly welcoming and open to most types of people. It all depends on the general character and personalities of their congregations. My advice is, you have nothing to lose by checking them out. If they are not for you, you will know it pretty quick, on the first or second visit, tops.

That sounds pretty much like most churches, socially, at least.

This was helpful. Thank you.

@Organist1 You are correct. Unitarians, are much like Christians or Catholics, same human nature and personalities, just without the religious belief.

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Well, UU churches are about as close as you will get to keeping the sense of community one gets from religion, but without all the guilt, fear and shame that other churches use to control you.

Personally, I'd rather go for a hike thrugh forests and mountains than attend a UU church service though.

Even a 1 hour walk a day.

@CuddyCruiser ....welll..its realistic.

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Wouldn't a Wiccan Coven be more interesting or perhaps attend a more liberal Xstian church and try and convert one of them, even Catholic Mass can be fun in a ritualistic sort of way - great architecture, calming music and all sorts of guilty sinner just waiting to be save by a red headed devil woman. 😉

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My familiarity with UUs is pretty limited, the longest being one that was a client for a couple of years, so I attended a good number of their functions and services, and socialized with their hierarchy. Although more accepting, I was uncomfortable with their deference to a higher power, and a lot of their Christianity-based structure. I also wasn't keen on it being noted how often or not I attended. But that's me. I chafe under that kind of stuff.

On the other hand, you're looking for a first step to get out of the house and meet other people, so this may be a good stepping stone, although there are other good options as well, such as the ones @Fernapple mentioned. Good luck whichever way you go.

Thank you.

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UU churches here very liberal

bobwjr Level 10 Oct 24, 2021
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Vonnegut was fond of UU.

[uudb.org]

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You don't need, nor did you ask for, my permission. And I have no thoughts on this. Or advise.
If you go, please update this post of yours.
Thank You

twill Level 7 Oct 24, 2021
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I went, for many years, to a UU. It was very liberal - including atheists and on and on. My ex even did a naked women's solstice. When I first went, we had a great speaker. Very philosophical talks and simply entertaining. His replacement, a nice person, was so boring that I stopped going.
That was my experience 20 years ago. UU's vary. I know that one in NYC, at least as of 12 years ago, actually leaned toward Christian. All depends on the congregation.

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Why not join a local drama group? Theatre people are a gregarious, accepting bunch, and they need not just on-stage people but also back-stage support, such as costume alteration/repair, set builders and painters, props, lighting and general dogs' bodies. Your daughter would probably also enjoy it. My children joined in helping with simple tasks from a very young age.

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have fun. see what happens.

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It depends on whether you like the UU church or not. I find no need to attend any church. I'm not missing anything of this sort in my life at all.

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Find an orphanage or children's hospital nearby to visit. Any move that gets your closer to children will put smiles on your face.

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You can, why not, however perhaps next time you may plan it in advance and really go and do something you would love, or have some friends over for a movie.

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Go for it. Or try vising your local art gallery, museum, park, or theatre group. My local hospital loves volunteers - they assist people who feel less than confident going there (and the reasons for that lack of confidence are many and varied).

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Try Meetup.com They have all kinds of groups that meet in person and online. If you can't find a group that has an interest that you like then you can start the group.

i did. total zip.

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In my in between stage when leaving religion I/we often went to a local Unitarian church. Later, my late partner (an atheist from childhood) and I joined an international travel group, SERVAS. They would hold local meeting after a Unitarian meeting. This group removes all religious symbols when in rental churches and liturgy is mostly non-religious. They even recognize and welcome atheists. It's a good way to do some socializing with a very open group. Oh, and there's usually a potluck at the end of the meetings.

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Would they help you to get back together with your husband? That would be possibly what your daughter would like if she was alone with a judge???? . If they were no use in reconciliation then spend your free day finding a family therapist who would. I would suggest perhaps trying UU first.

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If it's what you really want to do and spend your time on, then go for it, you don't need approval from anyone else and rather doubt many on this site would pass harsh judgment on you for making such a choice.

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who destroyed that marriage? was it you? wake up, repair it, start it again. it was good enough to concieve a baby in. your daughters metaphorical soul is a stake. you fiddle around with uu?......where do they find these moral infants? seems, more often than not, they're the woke ones

Who do you think you are to tell me to repair my marriage?? You know nothing about it and are therefore not qualified to comment on it. This question was about the UU church, not my marital status. Stay in your own lane and out of my business.

@Emerald of course i dont. no one knows anyone here. take it as a probe from across the galexy. if it can be used to spur you to repair love, then do that. don't be a superficial empty asshole just because your surrounded by same on this cite. you, and they, and me too, we can all maybe espape our separate assholeish dooms just by taking a flying run at the door. give that a try. for the sake of your kids soul. try the impossible. i will leave you now, forever.

@holdenc98 While she's repairing her marriage, can you learn to spell?

@JeffMurray .......... brace yourself jeff...spelling is of no importance. its the thinking thats important. worry about spelling and you waste precious brain power better used for thinking. as a kid i came under the influence of george bernard shaw regarding spelling. hopefully he can still grab you. youre too smart to raise such a childish issue.

here's shaws wiki article

[en.wikipedia.org]

@holdenc98 This is the kind of person you wish to emulate:
"he promoted eugenics and alphabet reform, and opposed vaccination"
"often wrote and spoke favourably of dictatorships of the right and left—he expressed admiration for both Mussolini and Stalin"

The funniest part of your linked article is:
"In his will, Shaw ordered that, after some specified legacies, his remaining assets were to form a trust to pay for fundamental reform of the English alphabet into a phonetic version of forty letters.[7] Though Shaw's intentions were clear, his drafting was flawed, and the courts initially ruled the intended trust void."
HA HA HA! What an idiot. I wonder if it was 'flawed' because of his use of his idiotic notions of reform.

Agreed upon definitions of words and proper usage of punctuation are how we clearly and effectively communicate. To intentionally misuse them only serves to confuse your reader, show you have no regard for their time, and out yourself as a total fucking asshole. And that, sir, you need no help with.

@JeffMurray .and just when i was going to broach the idea to you, andthe likes of you, that the modern cadre party, obviously with some major reforms added and checks put in place so that hitler, stalin, sadam and their like revealed the necessity for. a way to replace now thoroughly discredited mass democracy, so dysfunctional that its falsity and complete failure to govern humanity now threatens directly the very biosphere we live in. maybe something like the actual intelligencia, but real. and out in the open. of course no feminists or blm tpyes need apply. one of the biggest problems with it would be erasing 250 year of mass indoctrination with the poisonous baloney of
"equality". maybe china will make it work, i think that is what is at the core of them. likely its too late, but nothing that china has done to date, insane as much of it was, compares to the fiasco america has made of modern life.. the old greek idea of a leadership academy to produce a philoshopher ruling class was streangled in its crib 2500 years ago, going back to resurect it and perfect it may be a longshot, but may be our best chance to avert the looming doom. the doom is already largely complete. as they see it themselves, a cadre party serves the vital function of rationaly recruiting true natural aristocrats through merit. corruption checked as priority 31., jeffersonian style aristocrats if you will. despirate thoughts for despirate times.

see jeffery? this is just one raw but origional idea. maybe, with your demonstrated ability to think creatively, you could have contributed to developing it, improving it, maybe demonstrated some critical fallacy in it. i don't know. but you have a narrow spectrum, and its not on it, even to think about. i do know that good will is a critical ingredient in the cooperative exercise of intelligence, and sadly, you aint got none, beyond a very narrow band of orthodoxy masquerading as free thought. so imagine my serious disappointment when i saw your hysterical and deeply offensive response here. is it eugenics that set you off? if this is how the best of our minds react to challenges to thier conditioned dogmas, we truly are doomed. it you represent the limits of free thought, "god" help us. manufacture of consensus and concent, by proclarations from the l;ikes of you and a coterie of fellow travelers, is bullshit or maybe the apparent best thinkers on this whole website are a filtered collection of mal adjusted psychological rejects of various sorts. if so, we should all still be worried by who you showed yourself to be. but not overly so.

ps--- see e.e. cummings on punctuation and capitalization. at the risk of setting off another senior tyrade. and g.b. shaw was a fine mindin his time, and still worth reading. must everythin pass throughthe progressive filter whole or be spit out whole? what are you, the joe mccarthy of the turn of the 20th century? im not seeing that.

@holdenc98 I'll grant you, you are correct about it being too late. Too late for everything. Too late to solve the climate crisis. We live in a world that is run by greed.
It would have been nice if humans had exploited the false notion that they had free will (and the belief that they are innately moral beings) and actually transcended petty human emotions like jealousy and greed and built a sustainable society. It is apparently so that we could have had a philosopher king that could have [would have tried to] guide us in that direction, but likely only as equally possible as the masses would have metaphorically killed him and replaced him with what we have now anyway. It doesn't matter if it's raw or original (it's not) though because...
It's too late to solve our political divide. We live in a post-fact world. There is no way to convince someone who doesn't share common definitions (essentially, a common language) of the things you know. It would be as impossible as proving to someone that the sky is "blue" who defines "blue" as red. (This is another reason to conform to spelling and grammar rules. It doesn't make you special in any way to rebel, it just makes you an impediment to progress regardless of how famous or successful you think the others are that have done it.) Do you honestly think you're going to convince 80 million people that "an elite" intelligent person could solve our problems (let alone how that person would be chosen)?
And of course democracy is a failure; people are stupid. Democracy was just the best of the ideas we could come up with that the stupid masses would go along with. I don't think that's in any way a profound thought though.

I believe these things were inevitable, of course, and realize there is no "saving" something that was doomed from the start, but certainly not given the fact that you cannot even convince people of things that are readily apparent. I suppose all that's left to do is "join 'em" and run out the clock.

@JeffMurray ....... nice. the old insightful, intellegent, sophisticated, critical, but civilized, and not dyspepsic semi postal jeff has decided to return to the fold. welcome back jeff! ......but you still need a helping hand tone wise, thats where my decency and gentleness move my intelligence to the side for a moment and steps in to give you the help you deserve:. ............

1 - almost nothing is original these days. my stuff is original in my knowledge base, quasi original, and that puts me way ahead of the mostly squawking parrots on this cite.

2 - relax about my spelling and grammar. its a minor concern. im 82, ive always lived with dyslexia, my genius shines through anyway, unless you let your spelling goblin obscure it.

3- i appreciate your insights, almost as much as you do. but never forget: in the final anal ysis, this webcite is about me, me, and me. only after that is it time to consider me, and then me.

@JeffMurray ..i was talking abot philosopher cadre parties, not philosopher kings. philosopher cadre parties is where the "raw but origional" new idea comes in.

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Probably worth a try. I would wear a mask.

I'm not a fan of the UU church. Attended one meeting there when they had an atheist night event that was announced at the local atheist meeting. Some liked the event.

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Last thing I would be doing during a pandemic, but what do I know....👀

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