Yes. She obviously valued herself more than you did.

I must be from a different planet or something but I have always dated for three to four weeks before sex happens. Have to connect with the other person. She was right in her response.

Sex may or may not have been your endgame before you even met. Whichever was true, you just made it look like it was. Personally, I'd have left it at "I find you very attractive/sexy and I'd love to see you again." Maybe go for a brief kiss on the lips, and leave the question of sex for meet no.2.

I get crap like this on PoF all of the time. Starts out civil, and the next thing you know, it's all about getting their rocks off. Only yesterday, I was chatting with a guy and it was all perfectly pleasant. He mentioned that he was going to take a bath. He then mentioned that he was going to masturbate while he was in there. End of conversation for me. I expect that behaviour when 'hooking up', I don't expect it when 'dating' (which is what I'm attempting to do on PoF, and I make that very clear in my profile.)

The trouble here is that women, gay bottoms, and indeed anyone in the sexually receptive role are plagued with men who just want somewhere body temperature to dump their next ejaculation into. They will be on the lookout for telltales that you're that kind of man. Sadly, it's up to you to prove that you're not.

Unless they do just want a shag. In which case, happy days.

Yes very much so. Basically you are telling her that sex is the only thing you are interested in her for. That's just insulting. Even if its not the only thing you are interested in you put it first before you got to know her as a human being. So yeah, I would have reacted similarly.

I think this was clickbait... trying to make his way to the next level. OF COURSE it was an appropriate response. This is exactly why women build walls.

Yes it was an appropriate response. I am 51 years old and had someone said that to me after meeting them only once, I'd run for the hills.

Yup. You creeped her out. Too aggressive. I'm by no means a prude & now that I'm divorced, I'm FULLY ENJOYING a healthy sex life.(flipside of that coin, I've also been known to, "Hey thanx, your UBER'S here" too) But unless I initiate...i want the guy to back off. Aggression is a creepy turn off for those who aren't into that kind of thing.

Foe her it was. She saw your behavior as inappropriate, and it obviously made her uncomfortable. You nee to consider the other person's feelings.

Those things take time. Relationships need to grow, and go through stages. You were trying to jump the gun.

Depends on how you propositioned. "Wanna fuck?" is a far more terrible way to approach the subject than, say, "May I stay the night?"

If your approach was more like the former example than the latter....I hope you've improved your game since then.

Honestly, just based on what you wrote, it seems like her response was pretty harsh. That being said, there really is no "appropriate" response. Some girls are ready and willing for sex early on, even first date, while some girls aren't ready and willing unto after marriage! It also depends on many other things including, but not limited to, how you said it, how you acted when you said it, how you reacted when she said no, etc.

Pretty much, yep.
Does the saying, "too soon dude" hold any relevance?

Absolutely for ...1963..a broken nose is more appropriate today..seriously..Telling anyone you want sex with them is inappropriate...at anytime..especially on the 1st date..

Hard to tell. Was she a virgin? How old were both of you? Was it a first date?

I think it could also be asked if your proclamation that you "wanted to have sex with her" was appropriate.

You'd have to know everything about her to know why she responded that way. Also, you don't say it was a first, second, third or so on date. Some people don't have sex on the first date and think the expectation of it is wrong.

Yes I think she responded in an open and honest manner. She may wanted a llittle more subtlety or magic but then again you were young

Maybe I’m missing something but it seems to me that both of you were justified. You to ask, which is not wrong and her to say no and move on. The idea that there are secret codes about the appropriate time to express desire seems outdated. As long as you were not crude or aggressive, of course.

YES. No woman who starts to think some guy actually likes her for herself, wants to find out his entire goal of taking her to the movies and paying attention to her in the first place was to satisfy his body urges.

Was this the first date or the third. My rule has always been to wait to try till the third date. While I believe women know much sooner whether they want to have sex with you, there might be a certain comfort level that needs to be reached for them first.. That level is probably relative to the connection they feel with the man as well as their level of intoxication. Just my opinion.

You say she got quite angry with you. What does that mean? It is hard to say if it was appropriate if you don't describe what you are talking about.

WTF and a punch in the face is different than saying that it was too soon to be saying something like that.

I always let the body language speak for itself. If you want to know what your date thinks about you physically and what their intentions may be for the longevity of date, their bodies never lie. Eyes, mouth, hands and feet instantly tell you what their minds won't upfront. When I was younger and bar hopped a lot, I used to bet friends on if dates would leave together or separately just by reading their body language. Let's just say I rarely bought my own drinks. Seriously though, the body itself speaks the truth more than words can ever say.

For for you it wasn't.

At least you didn't have to go see Jerry Springer

A wide range of responses. A good discussion on a somewhat old issue influenced by philosophies of free thinkers, right and left wing thinkers and so on. With a stirring of religious conservatives

I have never asked to have sex with someone. One thing just leads to another and is stopped when it goes beyond what someone wants.

The closest I've got to that was my ex. asking if I 'wanted to do sex at her' Thor knows where that came from! I think she'd been sniffing something beforehand. This became our 'go to' mating call.