Hello! I'm brand new here...?
A little background to my query: I was raised in a Pentecostal (Assemblies of God) church, which teaches that all good things come from the Lord.
I just graduated with my second bachelor's degree, which I earned while working multiple part-time jobs and raising 3 teenagers. It was HELLA HARD but I did it!!!! With a 3.9 GPA, even! I also had an interview 1 week after graduation and was hired the next day (my degree is in art education and I have a teaching job for next year).
I posted about it on Facebook because I was so happy excited and got lots of encouraging, celebratory comments...but I also got comments from friends from my childhood and early adult church communities saying that "god let me go through those tough times just for this purpose", and that "glory belongs to him for this achievement," etc. I want to scream "NO, I WORKED MY ASS OFF FOR THIS ACHIEVEMENT!!!" and i can't bring myself to like any of these comments that seem designed to get me to acknowledge and thank a god that they know I don't believe in.
Am I being rude or am I justified?
If they are important people to you, say thank you, and accept that they can’t function in their life without their pretend invisible friend. If they are of no importance to you, tell them god never did one single paper of your homework, never babysat your kids when you had a class, never paid for one of your classes. You are responsible for everything that happens in your life, good or bad. If they have such low self esteem as to believe some magic force provides for them, feel sad for them. Unlike you, they can never fully appreciate their own strength and accomplishments.
Justified! It's the rose colored glasses for those ppl. NFL guy points to the sky on a TD but for some reason not on a fumble. For rainbows but not tsunamis. They're brainwashed to be passive aggressive.
Justified. It's disturbing how they will claim all the credit for God, but when bad things happen suddenly it's not God's fault.
Hi and welcome. I'm new too. I don’t think so at all. You worked for your BA degrees and did it while taking care of your family. It’s like when a person recovers from a serious injury or illness and people thank “god”. How about you thank the doctors and staff for making you or your family member better? So, I say, congratulation, and very well done to YOU for what you have done and not a god not any other imaginary person. (Well unless it’s Odin, The All Father, of course. I mean we all know that HE is real. LOL)
You are justified - you worked your ass off to do this. God didn’t magically start parenting teenagers or paying your bills while you were going to school!
That is the TRUTH!!! I barely made it by the skin of my teeth!!! The last 16 weeks were student teaching, so I was working 60+ hours a week but only getting paid for 20. ?
Punch them on the nose and then praise god, when they ask you why, Tell them it made you feel better and soooo good the inspiration to do it must have come from the Lord.
Not your fault in the least, then watch them back peddle.
Welcome...justified! Those people will most likely will never understand...stay happy!
Oh I am definitely staying happy. ?
Few other things religios say make me angrier.
One that does make me angrier is if a child dies and someone says --
"God wanted another little angel."
They need punched in the face.
Welcome to the asylum. Enjoy your stay.
Your achievements had nothing to do with anything but yourself and your own hard work and determination.
You wouldn't be rude to point that out, you'd be 100% justified.
By all means, toot your own horn. You've earned the right to do that.
I was JUSTIFIED when I was five
Raisin' Cain, I spit in your eye
Times are changin' now the poor get fat
But the fever's gonna catch you when the bitch gets back, oh, oh, oh
Eat meat on a Friday, that's all right
Even like steak on a Saturday night
I can bitch the best at your social do's
I get high in the evening sniffing pots of glue, oh, oh, oh
I'm a bitch, I'm a bitch oh, the bitch is back
Stone cold sober as a matter of fact
I can bitch, I can bitch 'cause I'm better than you
It's the way that I move, the things that I do oh oh oh
Elton John
Yasssss!! ♡
Welcome aboard, Barba
You are 100% justified. Those who criticise are insecure people who need a crutch in life. What an achievement, well done and move away from those morons
CONGRATULATIONS! You go Girl! You earned it, you take the bows. You are justified in not acknowledging the religiously motivated comments of others, regardless of how well-intentioned they might be. Welcome to the site. You have friends here, you know, the nonjudgmental kind. =]
You are totally right to be upset about it. I had similar experiance in 2015 when I graduated as a Deans List Award Recipient with a graphic arts degree (I also somehow managed to do so as a mom with little help as my husband had issues with his service related PTSD and was physically here but not mentally) I had no choice but to bust my ass to keep up my grades to get academic achievement scholorships to pay tuition once the cost exceeded finacial aid limits! I would always get annoyed whenever anyone would tell me to thank god for my work and to give credit god for my success in school...then again a few years later and I still haven't found a job working on graphic design (the market here is bad for it) and have had to fall back on painting murals and selling portraits. Its nice to hear that you worked hard and it paid off for you, and congrats on the job! My step dad was raised Pentecostal as well, and I think because of that he raised us secular.
Thank you! ? I have raised my kids secular since I left the church about 12 years ago.
You are absolutely NOT being rude. You are recognizing your own accomplishments and your family and friends should be doing the same. I would simply acknowledge their comments in a Courteous manner, say thank you and leave it at that and move on. By the way, congratulations on your accomplishments and a job well done. I am proud of you and I admire you so much. I wish you well and success in finding what you are searching for here and in your life.