Is it really possible to live your life and not have any regrets. I’ve heard various people say they regret nothing, but I know for me, I have many regrets.
I regret all the naps I didn't take as a child ?
You CAN live without major regrets- you need to own up to your shot behaviours of the past, and make amends, apologies and changes. You need to reflect deeply enough on your wants and needs and failings, and identify were things line up with your core values, and where they don't. And then grab that butterflies into he stomach feeling by the antennae and make the hard choices needed to turn hard into what you see as missing. You also need to take a coldly realistic look at whether or not what you view your wants and needs will truly give you the things you want or need most, and be willing to shed those things that won't give you achievable results that match your ideals.
Regrets, I've had a few but then again too few to mention........ Oh wait that was Frank Sinatra, not me.
Part of getting older and wiser as you grow is there will always be regrets in life things you wish you did to things you didn't, even things you wish you hadn't done. its all part of being human being as we grown and learn.
I regret a few things, but the other things I let go.
I believe that Regrets are created by errors/ mistakes we make. If we can learn from them we will be able to delete them or if not archive them . In so doing we can make them un - noxious to our life.
It would be good if there was a rewind and delete button...
People concentrate on the things they believe they could have done differently and always think that things would turn out better. You don't know that, maybe things would have worked out worse. Also, nobody seems to dwell on the decisions they make which turned out just dandy. Regardless, I try to balance the good vs. the bad, and try really hard not to make the same mistake twice. The past is dead and gone and the future is not certain, so focus on the here and now.
I'm thinking regret is a manifestation of self loathing.
Just a thought...I could be wrong.
I have some regrets. However if I can't fix it I'm not going to lose sleep over it. Learn the lesson and move on.Make peace with the situation in whatever way you can and move forward knowing better and doing better. Anyone who has no regrets has lived so carefully that they have not really lived.
There is an idea my therapist (yes I really said that) called radical acceptance. Because we live in a universe in which time is linear no matter how many times you replay a mistake in your head it is physically impossible to go hack and change the causal chain and fix it. So regret, no matter the reason, serves no one, least of all you. Find a way to accept imperfection and failure as a part of the human condition rather than a judgment on you personally. Learn to allow yourself to fuck up. And finally, in the immortal words of my grandfather,
"A turd stays a turd no matter how long you stare at it. Change what you're looking at and you'll change what you see. "
I try to learn from each experience, and let the bad feelings go.
Regrets, grudges and bitterness only hurt the grudge-holder.
For me, regrets are a complete waste of my time. They take away from the 'now'.
Are there things I look back on and wish I'd done differently? Of course, I'd be a
damnable liar if I said there weren't. However, there is absolutely no point in dwelling
on them. They are in the past and cannot be changed. Learn from them what I need,
and keep moving forward.
To paraphrase another poster, everything I've ever done and been through has gotten
me where I am now. I'm pretty happy with that. Changing anything isn't possible, for one thing, and for another, even if I could, I don't think I would. Not if it would change the present.
I refuse to dwell on things that are over and done. Regrets only get in my way.
I find it hard to believe someone can say honestly that they have no regrets in life. Unless someone has achieved a zen-like state of pure self-acceptance (and surely that takes time and effort) then we all have made choices that in hindsight we would change. Regret shouldn’t rule us but can steer us to make better choices if we listen to it?
I have experiences that I'm not to proud of, but I have no regrets. The reason:
Everything from my past took me to where i am, and who I am today. I learned allot on my journey so far. Even though I downright hate the crap I had to go through to get here, I'm still glad I'm here.
If one has had no regrets, then they haven't given a f%@ about anything. Now, perhpaps they've come to the place in their lives where they've decided they cannot live with the expectations of others hanging over their heads and have decided, "f%@ it! I'm done, finished, over it...I have no regrets!"
Maybe?
Yes. Not only possible, but many do.
There are things I might have done differently had I known what I do now, but I didnt, so what point reconsidering, second guessing, lamenting.
It seems more being caught by the myth of potential.
I've accepted I did what I did because at that moment I thought I had to.
Replaced in that time and space id do the same thing again.
So, yes, no regrets, no guilt, no myth of potential.
Myth of potential - the idea that 'if only this had/hadn't happened, i/they/we would be better off'. It's a common fallacy most dwell in.