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Is it really possible to live your life and not have any regrets. I’ve heard various people say they regret nothing, but I know for me, I have many regrets.

Rideauxb 7 May 26
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Everything is not perfect in my life, thus some regrets. Learn from them and move on. Don't dwell on what might have been.

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If you have no regrets, you've made no mistakes, taken no chances, risked nothing, or thought, "damn the consequences, I'll deal with it when it comes" & done something totally stupid, possibly dangerous, & had the potential to alter your life for good or ill.

I was going to say something like this, but you said it much better.

I would say that's not quite correct. You can make mistakes without having any regrets. If we have learnt something valuable from a mistake, then we may not actually regret making that mistake.

Disagree.
It's how you look at what you've done.

I disagree as well. You only have regrets if you are not happy where you are and who you are today. Everything from your past brought you to this moment. I am happy with both. So no regrets for me ?

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When regret is a frame of mind, to me it's a tool of an examined life. I believe some people look back on their mistakes and think "it is what it is" and move on. I'm not one of those people and I think it affords me an opportunity to change my response. Regret can also be thought of as an aversive emotion, I can't imagine not feeling it, it's part of my emotional toolbox. Like other types of pain, it informs you that something in your environment isn't right.

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If you treat your past mistakes as life lesson they cease to be regrets

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I have very many regrets for the bad and 'evil' (yes) choices I've made- and now that I know the correct options, I am too old to make changes. I
If Nature provides a second life as a human, and one could remember the faults of the first life, would there be the courage to enact what was good and just? Many 'good people' die some very horrible deaths. That's why Trump will live forever- or it will, at least, seem like that.

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I have many regrets too.

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My biggist regret is that I have some. I should have been born perfect and stayed that way. Not. Now I'm old, fat, and ugly. I really regret the ugly part. Nothing I could have done about it barring extensive face reconstruction. I never liked looking like Sean Connery. I wanted to look like Ernest Borgnine. Or Charles Bronson. Craggy and tough, not smooth and pleasant.

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Are you going to share with us your regrets? Or are you just looking for people to expose their?

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I think it comes down to whether you have a conscience or not. If your conscience is alive and well you will regret something's, after all you'll be an empathetic and sympathetic person. In my opinion it'll be those Machiavellian kind of people who'll have no conscience.

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If you realise that the regrets that you have are of your own choosing, Yes you can ?

@RobLes
I wouldn't know ?

@Crimson67
Still your own choice ?

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Like having a tattoo you no longer like, regret is part of the life cycle.

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As much and as often as I consider mistakes I may have made … the culmination of those mistakes has been somewhat impressive.. The fact my effort did not lead to everything I’d hoped doesn't mean it didn’t lead somewhere positive. And as I’ve mentioned before, I don’t regret anything having led to my daughters, who they’ve become ..and where I’m at. Really, no regrets 🙂

Varn Level 8 May 26, 2018

@Crimson67 ...I noticed that.. If our decisions were the best we were capable of making at the time, how & what would or could we change? Had I not married the person who eventually forced the sale of my family homestead ..I’d not have two (magnificent) daughters, or have found my new home in Appalachia… Life’s not easy, or fair.. but if you keep at it, you shouldn’t have any regrets.

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I too must live with many regrets. my children love to throw them in my face

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There's some friends I wish I hadn't lost contact with, but otherwise I'm okay

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Regrets, I've had a few...but then again, too few to mention.

I think everyone has regrets, but what are you going to do? You can either worry about those regrets, or accept that an opportunity passed, and be prepared for the next opportunity.

The things I regret not doing, if I had done them, I would have missed out on some great opportunities and experiences.

Ozman Level 7 May 26, 2018

Glad I checked the comments before posting.. you summoned it up nicely with Frank Sinatra

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I reckon that the only way to get through your life with 'no regrets' is to be a freakin' psychopath or just never to have lived a particularly challenging life.

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I regret way too many things.

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