Why would your family cut you off?

Why would I want to have anything to do with people who walked away from me or that I have walked away from? Once I'm done, there's no going back.

I'm happy to say, that while we may need space and distance sometimes, we don't cut each other out completely. So far; knock on wood.

They're willfully ignorant bigots and I have mixed grandchildren

Not seeing a reconciliation happening.

My whole birth family, parents, siblings, cousins etc shat on me from a great height. I maintain some contact with my youngest brother to help him as he now has responsibility for looking after them. He was part of the conspiracy though, so I keep my guard up/

Most of my siblings ganged up on me eight years ago when my abusive ex started accusing me, in an effort to stop me from divorcing him.

Then my siblings joined in and emailed some terrible things about me, so I moved to Thailand and ignored them.
My one sister who remained friendly with me told a few days that my brothers are now trying to get in touch with me.

Since I'm on Facebook, shouldn't be that difficult. But I've made no effort to reach out to them.

Toxic parents. Cut them off 37 years ago. One attempt at contact due to a sibling's suicide resulted in instructions on what my responsibilities were to them. It was all "I, me,my, mine". Nothing had changed in 37 years of my absence. Good riddence.

I have cut off toxic family members. I will not tolerate being treated poorly by anyone, and especially family members. The chips fall? Too bad, it's unfortunate, but to thine own self be true.

For the most part I just let them go unless I feel I contributed to the fallout and then I will at least apologize for my part in it. If I cut them off it is because I tried to talk to them about the issues and got ignored or even punished for speaking up. I have to say that I think it is impossible to reconcile the differences completely though since there is a lot of emotional damage that took place for it to lead to no contact and if they come back there will always be a question about whether or not they will do it again. Doubts and insecurities do not make for healthy relationships.

Former Jehovah's witness. Shunned by many family members after more than 30 years. I'm very glad though, because as I learned as a child, "bad association spoils useful habits.". Don't need that in my life.

I have 7 siblings. My beautiful and precious oldest sister suffered from schizophrenia and paranoia and became a homeless person. Despite all of us trying to "rescue" her, there was nothing we could do if she wanted to be out on the street. She bounced around from skid row to tent city and we lost track of her since 2010.

To give you a decent answer...I think we need to know why they cut you off. I cut mine off at a very young age because they were and still are toxic to me...never wanted to reconcile

I got my psycho father out of my life and kept him there for the next 13 years until he had no choice but to have me take over the farm, again. He drove it into the ground! Pun intended. But what he did in my absence is unforgivable and I've been getting the operation back on track since 2013. There was no 'reconciliation', only his death a year ago.

I have not been cut off by any family member but if I was, I would always leave the door open, although I would most likely not pursue it.

This is a tricky question because it's mutual, and it happened quietly without drama. We just don't "hang out" with each other beyond holidays (and that's mostly to please my mom), and that happened slowly as each side realized that we just don't have anything in common. They are hypocrite evangelicals who voted for 45 and I'm not a believer of any religious stripe and do not support the current administration. So... Sometimes there can't be a "reconciliation" between two sides that have such different views and it's best to peacefully go your separate ways and find a new folks to connect with.

I stopped communicating with most of my family about 15 years ago. As a group, we seemed pretty dysfunctional, and we collectively showed little or no love and support for each other.

I've never attempted to reconcile with any of them, because it didn't seem to make sense to me to try to foster a connection where no semblance of love remained.

None of them seem particularly eager to reach out to me, either.

If any have any regrets - and it's a minor one - it's my mother died last year, and I don't think she ever fully realized why I terminated contact with her. I sort of wish I had at least sent her a letter to explain myself. But it probably wouldn't have changed anything anyway.