8 hours ago. Happens every day. One of the perks of being a hippie. I feel sorry for those of you who have been sexless for months or years. The fault lies within yourself. You are the ones making the decision to be celibate. You need to open your mind and feel what the universe is offering you. Become one with the earth and surround yourself with the energy that courses through you at every moment of your existence on this plane. Learn to love all that you see and rejoice in the
fact that you are a part of it all.

Wait, its been over a year since I have had sex with someone so I am a virgin again! Maybe that's one reason I have been in a funk lately.

What if they weren't really a "partner" but instead just laid still crying because I'm so bad at sex? Does that count?

I'm pleading the 5th.

What does sex have to do with atheism unless you were fucked by your clergynaut as a child? After seeing some of these responses and comments I wonder if any of you get out and socialize?

Slightly more than ten but way less than thirty. So to damned long.

Mine is not going to be a representative sample, since it was an attempt by my ex as an alternative to marriage counseling and getting to the bottom of the real problems. And I gotta tell you, "save my marriage" sex is the worst kind of sex.

I don't care what society or culture says about how often I should or shouldn't have sex. I decide what I want, with who, when, and how often. It's been 9 years since I had a significant other but I have had sex during that time with as much as a 4 yr gap in between. I have what I consider a healthy sexual appetite but try not to put expectations on frequency, that is determined by myself and the individual I'm with. So society can go fuck themselves, I determine my own norm!

September 2015

Yep.

with a partner? It's been 2,561-62 days now. I have a relationship with "Hanna". She's always been there by my side for my entire life. Testosterone packed it's bags and left some time ago and a reasonable facsimile isn't allowed. My urologist told me that or orgasm twice a week was good keeping the prostate from swelling so I follow his instructions. He even told me to get a girlfriend. I told him I was an atheist and he said with a sad face, "oh". What a dilemma eh? I don't really miss it bt it wold be nice to do again with someone that I'm emotionally conneted to.

I haven't voted as I'm just under the age limit! Just over 5 years for me, but I don't (or should that say didnt haha) have meaningless sex for the hell of it. Quality beats quantity in every sense.

It might be more useful to ask: 'when did you last have enjoyable sex?'.

It's been so long I'm not sure I remember even how it goes

At least I'm in the majority!

sex is certainly overrated, yet the physical closeness, excitement & affection i remember accompanying it would be a thing of beauty after a cold spell of 12 years - but then, i'm well past 50, hormones in the basement, & i find the idea of crashing into a libidinous man between daunting & jocular.

Is there another way of having sex? If so, why has nobody told me? I'm angry.

If you look at the ads on TV and in print sex is only for the young. The exception being ads for Viagra and Cialis. And they imply older men are all dysfunctional. All of this is a bunch of bunk.Studies have shown that older people who have sex (once a week or more) have less depression and are happier in their relationship.

1998. I'm 74.

I'm still a virgin!!

Of tattooing!! Lmao
Not even one pixel!!
For Cosmicowl 73

You are asking questions I have asked myself over and over: why are there so-called societal norms at all regarding something that is nobody's goddamn business but your own?

This is one area where "the media" is exploitative and intrusive, imho, and like you, I think they are setting standards and making pronouncements about something they should keep their fucking prying noses the hell out of. The only caveat there is, they wouldn't dig into it if people didn't want to hear it, would they?

I have never been one to discuss my sex life with others, no locker room banter, and that kind of nonsense, and I don't want to feel that I'm "inadequate" in some way because I'm not banging someone on a regular and consistent basis; that's complete and utter bullshit.

As far as I can tell from your post, you seem to have a pretty insightful, and incisive, outlook on the matter; another area where it appears society has gone sideways. Or, maybe I'm just a cranky old geezer, I dunno.

And, jfyi, it's been about 4-5 years; I can barely recall.

I haven't had sex since my husband left me two years ago. Our sex life was fairly active up until the last few months when everything fell apart. I have never been big on sex just to have sex without any kind of emotional attachment, so until I am in a real relationship, I expect this situation to continue and I am 100% ok with that. I am in my 50's and I'd rather have no sex than bad sex with baggage and drama.

It's depressing when I think about it. And I'm basically horny all the time - kinda sucks...

Having had a 38 year long monogamous marriage (36 legal) I have had the spectrum. Multiple times a day, years apart. There is no "should be" or not.

I last had October last year, a few weeks before my wife passed away

I am well over 50 and it does seem the opportunities are less available than the ability and desire. I find this very frustrating. I don't like feeling like a dirty old man when a young girl walks by. I have been in relationships where I was often "sated" ..... I now feel it is a shame how much I didn't appreciate that now that I am no longer in a relationship.

Satisfying relationships (on an emotional/companionship) level seem ever harder to find as well. It seems I've become less flexible in my habits as have most potential partners. Seeking medication to lower libido may be an option I should consider. It makes little sense to be rutting around like a horny animal seeking a mating opportunity. I find it demeaning and most women my age do not appreciate it anyway.