Sex? what's that again?

Interesting post! And I almost agree with you completely! But, why would not having sex, be a red flag to anyone? Maybe, this shows what is upmost important to some people? I say the same for having or not having sex...’never judge a book by it’s cover!’

Uh, it was over a year, and it wasn't that great.

I haven't had sex since my husband left me two years ago. Our sex life was fairly active up until the last few months when everything fell apart. I have never been big on sex just to have sex without any kind of emotional attachment, so until I am in a real relationship, I expect this situation to continue and I am 100% ok with that. I am in my 50's and I'd rather have no sex than bad sex with baggage and drama.

No Vote... I don't get poll by strangers on my personal habits or history. Society tells me shit about what I do, how I do it, when I do it.

Ummm, what year is this? It's been awhile... that's all I'm saying.

This is not what I consider normal, but due to lack of a partner, it has been a long time. When I was married, I would have had sex 4 days or more a week if my wife had been agreeable. Now, at 66, I would be happy to cuddle, and let sex happen when we were ready. I sure do miss it! ?

1998. I'm 74.

You are asking questions I have asked myself over and over: why are there so-called societal norms at all regarding something that is nobody's goddamn business but your own?

This is one area where "the media" is exploitative and intrusive, imho, and like you, I think they are setting standards and making pronouncements about something they should keep their fucking prying noses the hell out of. The only caveat there is, they wouldn't dig into it if people didn't want to hear it, would they?

I have never been one to discuss my sex life with others, no locker room banter, and that kind of nonsense, and I don't want to feel that I'm "inadequate" in some way because I'm not banging someone on a regular and consistent basis; that's complete and utter bullshit.

As far as I can tell from your post, you seem to have a pretty insightful, and incisive, outlook on the matter; another area where it appears society has gone sideways. Or, maybe I'm just a cranky old geezer, I dunno.

And, jfyi, it's been about 4-5 years; I can barely recall.

I'm still a virgin!!

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It's depressing when I think about it. And I'm basically horny all the time - kinda sucks...

Having had a 38 year long monogamous marriage (36 legal) I have had the spectrum. Multiple times a day, years apart. There is no "should be" or not.

I last had October last year, a few weeks before my wife passed away

I am well over 50 and it does seem the opportunities are less available than the ability and desire. I find this very frustrating. I don't like feeling like a dirty old man when a young girl walks by. I have been in relationships where I was often "sated" ..... I now feel it is a shame how much I didn't appreciate that now that I am no longer in a relationship.

Satisfying relationships (on an emotional/companionship) level seem ever harder to find as well. It seems I've become less flexible in my habits as have most potential partners. Seeking medication to lower libido may be an option I should consider. It makes little sense to be rutting around like a horny animal seeking a mating opportunity. I find it demeaning and most women my age do not appreciate it anyway.

I almost voted virgin. I feel like I'm starting over.

I have recently read about a 30-day 'test'. If you have a partner (which I don't at the moment) you should have 30 days of sex in a row. I've never tried this, but can see the benefits as well as how difficult it might be. Anyone want to be a test bunny with me?

As a born again virgin I am waiting for the rapture. Then I might do myself. Deviant enough?

Got testosterone? = horny
Got estrogen? = not so much
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I find I don't really care who's doing what when ... except me, and whomever .