I suppose it depends on the guy. I think, though, that there's more going on with your friend than he's letting or, or even that he knows about himself. This isn't about you, it's about him. And that's neither good or bad, it just is. We're looking for people who are comparable with who we are, and for some reason, that seems hard to find. But that doesn't mean it's your fault. It means that you're seeking someone who shares your values.

It's all in the chemistry. I can be friends/friendly towards anyone, but I want to have sex with someone who enjoys sex and wants it.It's been part of an evolution of thinking. Are we really hard wired for monogamy, or is it just society pressure? I've had sex with a number of women over the years, what's the difference when that was happening, other than the obvious emotional reactions.

I just want sex to be a good time for all involved, and still be able to have a relationship where things don't go weird. At least that's in my head. Outwardly, we all bend to expectations.

Not me. I have to have a relationship with someone before sex. When I was younger, I had one night stands, but even those were generally after hanging out with someone for hours of laughter and talking, and they would have lasted longer, but I was only in whatever town for a short amount of time. Now, I gotta fall in some form of love before sex is even interesting.

First, you have to figure out if there is any such thing as romantic love. Given that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and many of the remaining marriages are not happy unions, if there is any such thing, it is very uncommon. I have concluded that the myth that our society thinks is "love" is more likely consorting pairs, driven by nature and hormones, unwitting players in nature's plan to propagate the species. Given my solitary nature and how annoying living with a female can be, my ideal state (if I were young again), would be serial monogamy...with no marriage, ever.

That's all HE wants, and thankfully he was honest with you up front. I'm not a man, but I read a bit -- it seems by the rate of marriage, polls, etc. that men like being married/coupled.

Okay You say he has been a friend for quite a while. So you know you get on...yeah. Your looking for something more but he says sex is as far as he wants to go...yeah So a FWB or FB is a goer...yeah Where do you imagine the romance will come from? You did not fall in love from the get go? He did not make a move on you? Men want to be loved, if you end up having sex do think he can curb any emotional ties with you? Men arent that good at emotions. To be crude ,suck it and see. I have had 3 long term relationships and 2 of them started off as one night stands. Love requires a leap of faith. Men say we just want sex like women say they just want a GSOH. Its a lie used to cover up our real wants.

No, there are lots of guys for whom the relationship is the priority. Emotional intimacy is definitely more important to me than physical intimacy.

Some yes, some no.

I Like the woman who wants it all. Because I believe I got a lot to give. Less than that I will be just a tool. Not that a tool does not have his use and yes I gave it masculine pronoun. ***In a different but similar subject Liz Taylor claimed she only had sex with men that became her husband, 7 husbands 8 marriages. I think she lied.

I don't want FWB. I want a meaningful relationship, there needs to be some partnership and commitment. I don't plan to compromise, so I expect to be single for quite a while yet.

I can’t speak for the every guy, but no. Sex is important for men in general, but if that’s all your interested in after 25, then you’re pretty shallow.

Well talk about blueballs if he isn't fapping at home or banging other women... friends for years and only wants sex with you?

Something doesn't add up to me...
I'd stay friends since you already know his intentions unless that's all you want as well.
Once you give it up, don't count on him sticking around as friend after. My 2 cents on it.

Just depends on how people connect. Some people can really draw interest and give the connection of captivate inquisition where some others are superficial and can only relate on a sexual level.

I've been dating these past few months and its amazing how some tell you you're a good kisser-promise a long, romantic weekend then cancel fifteen minutes before he's supposed to pick you up. The guys I've met just want dates. Can make a girl get frustrated.Where do you live? Maybe we should switch places lol.?

He was being honest. You had expectations beyond his. Don't be down on yourself.

As a guy, I can't just have monkey sex with someone... there must be an emotional connection, but that's me. There's more like me out there... (Ahem, sorry, I'm taken.)

I'm glad he was at least upfront about it and you found out before getting too emotionally invested. Sorry to hear about your experience.

FWBs are ideal