I'm wondering if non-believers are less inclined to want children. So, where do you fall on the child wanting spectrum?
My "baby" is 26, and has a baby of her own. My oldest is 33 and will have her first child in May. The middle child says she will never have babies but is happy to be an Auntie. I always wanted to be a mom, and I mostly enjoyed raising my kids. They turned into amazing adults and are all doing pretty well. I think I done good and they've done good and being a grandmother is amazing.
I was not ever going to have any, but husband changed his mind ten years later. THEN he died from cancer, leaving me to raise them. They are the very best part of my entire life. They have been fascinating people in a thousand different ways and hold a huge part of my heart.
I have a son. He makes me admit that while I like to think my brain has evolved enough to recognize my genes make me do things in service to them when I want to do things in service to all humanity and the world, I can't override them on this. I would do anything for this new vehicle in which half of them now ride. It pisses me off a little. He's one of over seven billion but I'd favor him over anyone, even someone who could cure cancer or end hunger or bring about world peace.
I had to go through tons of red tape to get mine. The kids mom is schizophrenic and refused to put me on the birth certificates because I would not accept her religion or believe in the modern demigod or the supreme deity. She would not tell the hospital or authorities .that I was the father. Resulted to my kids going to foster care for 3 months until I could rescue them. Got social services on my side when I told them that I wanted the kids. The attorney on both sides were on my side the all thought it was honorable that a man would take responsibility for the children. So here I am almost 7 years later with 2 great kids. Best thing I have ever done.
Hate them. I find the entire process of having a complete stranger slopping around in my guts for nine months then tearing out of one of the most sensitive areas of my body completely repulsive. I know that's not normal ,but it's just how I feel. I've watched Friends raise kids, that's all I needed to see. Kids just keep becoming bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger pains in the asses as they grow up. There are other ways of contributing to the world Beyond flesh and blood.
One 29 year old daughter who is a preschool teacher and still lives at home .Very good daughter ,never had an ounce of trouble with her ,and am very fortunate.Wife and myself never wished to have more than one child and never regretted it .Most people have more children than they can afford
I mean I was never one of those women who was in awe when seeing a baby, but I could handle them, I guess, even though I never really saw myself as a mother while I have friends, whose biggest dreams was to be a mother and can’t have them. Life is so weird and backwards. I guess I can say sometime the Universe has other plans for people.
I like the idea of having kids but I am in no way in a position to support them at this moment in my life. Also I look at how frightening the world is these days and wonder if bringing a child into this world would be fair on the child.
That being said, if I had a kid and it was a boy I would call him Seth. Still working on a name for a girl.