"So, why do feminists profess that I am unnecessary in a hetrosexual woman's life?"

All feminists? Not in my experience. Women demand, and should expect, equal treatment, pay and opportunity, and as a cisgender white hetro guy, I have my mother, sisters, wife and daughter to thank for helping me understand my privilege.

No one should ever need to be with someone, they should want to be with someone.

I work hard. I own my own home, car & pay my own way. I don't need to be rescued. I don't need anyone to "complete" me. I'm a complete person in & of myself.

That said, I WANT someone to share life with, someone who is compatable & that we are complimentary to each other in areas of strengths & weaknesses. Someone to share the load & make life lighter.

I have had men tell me they want an independent woman who knows her own mind & is making her way in the world then turn around & say I'm not spontaneous emough & I don't have enough free time to suit them. Surprise but independent poeple who are making their way in this world are busy people who make time for those who are important in their life. Spontaneity & late work night dates don't always fit the bill.

Great question! I think it is a focus on the word NEED. I am a strong independent woman with PhD and am completely able to make my own money and take care of my almost grown kids. I don't need a man to survive. However, I WANT a man to share my life with. And I would much rather be wanted than needed. Wouldn't you? I think of people around me (men and women) who cling to others thinking they need them to survive. When you are in that frame of mind, then you will do crazy things to keep them even if they are abusive because you believe you NEED them. Wanting a person is so much more beautiful. It means they really see something awesome in you. People who want eachother share their lives instead of depend on the other person to make their life.

Need is different from want to many of us. At least when it comes to romantic relationships.

Yes, we are social animals and we need social interactions. Nowhere does it say that that social interaction must be of the romantic sort.

I do not need a relationship to pay my bills, feel happy feel whole.

Someday, I want a relationship for the consistent companionship and all the other bells and whistles (including the second income which allows for more adventures) that comes with it.

If a person chooses you out of want as opposed to need, you should feel fortunate, in my opinion.

I think its a matter of "need" vs "want".

As an example - I have a large live oak in the back yard that occasionally drops sizeable branches into the yard during a storm. Sometimes the branch is large enough to require a chain saw to cut it up in order to move it. When I bought the place I was in a LTR with a man, prior to leaving me he told me I needed to sell the place and get a condo because I "can't handle it by myself". Well, maybe I can't handle everything, but I've found often where there's a will there's a way. So the first time a limb fell I asked myself - what would HE do/say about this? Well, he would demand I rush down to Lowe's with my credit card and buy him the most expensive chain saw that money can buy. Being a thriftier soul myself, I bought myself a small electric chain saw for $50. I sat down and read the manual, and proceeded to go out there and cut up the limb into pieces small enough for me to load in the wheelbarrow and get down to the burn pile.

As someone who grew up in the 70s, I know for certain that my grandmothers and mother would never have behaved in such a manner. In their conditioned mindset, this is "men's work" that women cannot do. They would have called around and got a male relative to come do it for them. Since I have none that live close enough to do it, I did it myself. I would also note that I have a neighbor that DOES have a man, and they've had a long thin pine tree laying in their yard for 5 years and NOBODY has cut it up, or even asked to borrow my chain saw. And I'm certainly not going to offer to do it for them.

Now, maybe people see me as a "feminist" because I am often seen doing "men's work", however since I live alone on my property its all "my" work. Would it be nice to have someone with a penis to do this kind of thing for me? Yeah, probably. But until I do, I'll figure a way to handle these things myself; or come up with the money to pay someone to do it; or whatever. What I'm not going to do is sit and flap my hands and play damsel in distress. One thing my prior relationship taught me is that many of the traditional "male" chores aren't so complicated or difficult that a determined woman cannot do them herself. Sure, he used to ACT like he was doing something epic and heroic - but so was taking out the trash, right?

I think a lot of us have been brainwashed, not only into set gender chore roles, but also into set gender mindsets - and I don't want to be told there are things I "can't do" just because there's not a man around. Maybe there's some men out there who think they "can't" bake a cake or sew on a button - yes you can. Nothing either gender traditionally does is so very mysteriously complicated that you can't learn to do it too. I'm all for both genders helping one another out, but when it becomes a sort of enabler situation that keeps the other person helpless without you, that's not a good thing. I think ability is a lot sexier than helplessness in both genders.

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My wife and I are both "strong & independent".
Yet, we both feel much more fulfilled being together. We're both financially secure, healthy, and still rely on each other for psychological and physical support. I cannot imagine being without her. And the cats, and Zorak the Wonder Dog.
Don't tell her what I said about them though.

We do not. We may want one, we may be happier when we have someone to share things with but making one single person responsible for your happiness and well being is too much to ask IMO.
Something thats not often acknowledged is how much women DO for the men in their lives. I'd like to have someone who sees to my physical and emotional needs, takes primary care of the kids, cleans,cooks makes appointments and keeps track of social obligations too. It's no wonder men prefer having a woman around but all too often an SO is just more work for a woman.

There is a difference between wanting and needing. Women have long been told that we NEED a man to take care of us, to be complete, to be real women.
Personally I was in a bad marriage for a long time. My ex worked hard to keep me convinced that I needed him while actually doing nothing at all for me. My life got much easier and happier when he left, so I know that I don’t need a man.
That said, I don’t see anything wrong with WANTING a partner or person to share your life with.

I don't think all feminists think as you say. Additionally, in the same way you need a woman "to be whole" a woman has exactly the same need.
The problem here is very simple.....Some men feel threatened by a woman who pays her bills and earns her salary. Yes, those guys feel these women's means will prevent them (boys) from controlling them (ladies)..

Why so much hate? I said nothing putting women down. Also, about "Needing vs wanting". I would humbly submit the following.

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It would appear to me that all humans "need" companionship.

To be a feminist means I want equal rights and equal pay for women.

As a strong, intelligent and independent woman (threatening to many older men), I want a committed, loving relationship.

Loving relationships work best when we add a certain spirit, an attitude of goodwill. I wouldn't know a grudge if it mugged me. I miss the tender touch, laughter, conversation, intimacy, teamwork and fun of a committed, loving relationship.

Watch the hilarious Netflix comedy special, "Elder Millennial" by Ilza Shelsinger. I never laughed so hard in my life!

At 35, IlzaShelsinger jokes about dating, strong and independent women, differences between men and women, getting ready for dates, bird mating calls, getting engaged, the question, "Should women approach men first?" and much more.

There is no point in generalising about 'what women need' or 'what men need'. There are thousands of different types of men and women. Human beings are social by nature, but over a wide spectrum of needs and wants, and those needs and wants can change over time. You are young, and you have plenty of time ahead in which to meet someone you can build a relationship with. The relationship you are looking for shouldn't just be to make you feel whole. It should work both ways and make your partner feel whole, too. It is worth keeping in mind that the way feminists and a lot of other women who don't call themselves feminists feel now is the result of the way they have been treated by men up until now.

Don't need, but want. There's a big difference.

Few feminists argue that a woman should not have a man as her partner should she wish to do so (some do and believe all women should be lesbian; they are, of course, entitled to have that opinion).

What feminists mean is that it should not be necessary for a woman to depend on a man to give her a good standard of living, security and so on. Remember, it wasn't so very long ago that women were denied the right to further education and it was legal to pay women far less than men, as well as to favour men over women when looking to fill certain jobs such as managerial and other well-paid positions - the only way she could have the things you enjoy as a result of your hard work was by marrying a man who would provide them to her in return for being his servant. Things have changed, thanks to the efforts of all the women and men who understood that wasn't right, and now a woman can earn all that for herself and be completely self-sufficient without depending on a man - but if she chooses to pair up with one, there's nothing wrong with that.

No one needs another person after they're past childhood. Choosing, wanting and enjoying are much better positions.

I just want someone to show me that i matter to them. Someone that matters to me. I want to belive them. I don't need anybody, but i would like somebody...

I don't need a companion to survive in the near term, but humans with life partners live longer happier lives. I "need" to live a happy life, or, why not just end it now? There fore I "need" a companion.

I honestly did not think that people would take this so negatively.

I also feel that my intention was misrepresented in the responses.

Please don't put words in my mouth. I have not said or implied anything negative in my post.

I don’t know either. I’m good on my own but I have days where I’m lonely and having a lady in my life would be great. I don’t seem to have much luck at picking the right one though. I’m pretty sure through the heartache and pain that I’m pretty much done looking and have accepted that if it happens then it happens otherwise I will just occupy myself with my dog and Falconry.

A truly strong and independent woman would/could say either way. I have single friends who feel a relationship at this stage of their life isn't something they desire. For me, having someone to share the joys and sorrows of my experiences with (and likewise) is very important. I want to be there for someone who is sharing their happiness, and I would like someone to be there to share mine as well. But we are all different creatures. No way is right or wrong.

People only "need" each other if they feel that they do. Some, women and men, prefer being alone, and are quite good at it
Just a matter of being with others that have a similar goal !

There's a "block" button on people's profiles if someone is trolling you. This blocks them from being able to see your posts or you to see theirs.

Many women with high levels of male traits feel hostility toward men, and since people with high IQs tend to be androgynous and atheists are high IQ, many women on this website are strong in male traits.

No need to date them or even listen to them if you don't want to..just block them.

I'm almost a worst-case scenario of those types, since I'm highly masculine in traits, even slightly more male-minded than female, yet I also would love to meet someone my age who is compatible with me, to go ballroom dancing and hiking with.

Many men like the idea of a strong, independent woman who won't be needy and clingy and who loves to do outdoor things, but most prefer someone more domestic.