Don't be so hard on yourself. You need a friend, more than a rental date.

Girl, you know you're being way too hard on yourself. I'm not someone I consider attractive conventionally or otherwise, but that's only a part of it. I admit I had to find new ways to love myself after my divorce, since I tied so much of that into that dumbass relationship. Talking with people helped, finding something besides the opposite sex to occupy my mind did too. Then when I felt like I was healthy, I downloaded Tinder and just swiped right on everything and if my experience is anything, you'd be surprised what you can pull if you want.

To answer the question, fuck no. Paying for dinner and drinks or whatever is one thing, paying someone to pretend is another. You want someone to pretend where your heart is concerned? Sounds like a quick path down a hard road.

It's a personal choice that will be judged by prejudice no matter what. Do I need to say more?

I am a gay man... and no i would not.

Paying somoen changes it from a date to a traqnsaction.

No, I would never pay for a man’s company. If it comes to that, I’ll go to a movie, restaurant, bar alone... and that’s perfectly fine.

Absolutely not! I am happy with my own company. However, if someone else wanted to do it I would never condemn them as we all have different needs and if this was the only way of fulfilling one of these needs, I would say do it.

I'm completely content with being single, and staying that way.
Even if I could afford it, I wouldn't pay anyone to pretend to want to
hang out with me. I can't imagine being needy enough to ever want that.
I'd rather be alone.

Anyone willing to take money for dating is not going to be a nice person. That's my opinion! You are way too hard on yourself and remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Don't men sort of technically pay people to date us every time we pick up the check? I realize that's supposed to be outmoded these days and everything is supposed to be 50/50, and yet I can count on 2 fingers the number of dates I've had who didn't expect me to take care of dinner, etc, etc.

It's another option available. try it if it works for you enjoy yourself.

Well, I'm a guy, who is "dragging" 60. Though I might wish otherwise, I would be willing to be polite and safe. Compensation would depend on what you have in mind. Meet near me for a nice dinner and conversation, that could be free, I might even pick up the tab. Prices go up from there. I am not often regarded as "classy" nor "urbane" but I'm about as "earthy" as you can get. I can shower before we meet if that is your preference, free of charge, naturally.

No

Dating costs money, so in an indirect way, we all pay people to date us. But all kidding aside, no, I would not.

At this point I might have to pay someone. Can’t imagine anyone foolish enough to do it willingly ?

Personally, No. But there is nothing wrong with the concept. Escort agencies have been providing this service for decades.

When I first saw this post I was going to say that I haven't reached that level of desperation yet to pay someone to go out with me. I'm close, but not quite there yet. After reading the whole post, I think you and I are in the same boat. I think that since we both have been burned by others we tend not to openly trust the intentions of others. We are both socially awkward and a little on the heavier side. And I know how easy it is to be able to put ourselves down about various things. However, you are by no means unattractive. You have an air of cuteness about you. It's hard for us to see what others see when we look into the mirror because of the abuse we have endured throughout life. I can totally relate to what you're dealing with. I think you have more going for you than you realize and I wish you all the best in finding the person you're looking for.

I wouldn't, but some very wealthy folks do similar actions. Even our President Bone spurs has bought women and wives. If the woman or man being paid is okay with the arrangement and is an adult and not coerced then I have no objection to what others do on their own.

it can be a good thing. Especially a function for family or work. Everyone else is bringing someone and rich men hire arm candy for events all the time.

Yes, and my name is Donald Trump. No collusion! (Except between my credit card and women)

Free of Charge, No shipping or handeling incurred. Laughs, Sights, Movies, Museums and all the other things you want included.

I just want the guy you describe with the sex too but I'm not paying him. I've been burned by so many men. I'm just so tired of all the disrespect, abuse and slackers. I'm much older than you with a current catalogue of health problems but there has to be someone for me. I'm just not going to look anymore. Let him come to me. I have a high enough self esteem to know I'm worth a good relationship. He'll be getting a prize.

Different Strokes for different folks I don't have any problem with that concept

Are you kiddin' me ? You have a fabulous face - expressive, gorgeous eyes, and such a great mouth ! The photo of you all in red is outstanding !

But then, it seems you are your own worst enemy - with a rather deep seated , possibly self fulfilling prophecy going on. I know it's not always easy to reverse your thinking - but try ! Quit hating yourself - just quit it ! You are as worthy of having a caring human to hang with as any of us !

As for cats - they're good whether or not you're a social misfit, all alone - they give good purrs ...

FORGOT...I don’t buy people! Mainly, because I do not want to be bought! I am not cattle or such...I have never been that desperate in 78 yrs!!

It would depend on the setting & situation. OTOH, you're cute, you're smart, funny & only 36, give it time. Oh & you don't like Trump, Sold!?