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Was sex more fun when you still believed in original sin?

To all former believers: was sex more fun when you still feared an all seeing, all knowing, wrathful God? For me, agnostic sex is still awesome, but without the fear of eternal damnation, it's not as risky or exciting. I also got a kinky thrill thinking the old guy in the sky was floating on a cloud, judging me. Thoughts?

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I had a girlfriend in high school, who liked to 'do it' in unusual locales. One day, she took me into a Catholic Shrine her family attended. She led me up a winding staircase, that led to the bell tower. Then, she seduced me on a landing, right under a picture of Jesus. All the while, I couldn't help but feel it was inappropriate to be doin that in a Catholic Shrine, beneath a picture of Jesus. I felt downright sacrilegious!

davknight Level 7 Mar 11, 2019

I once had sex on the grass behind the church of my childhood. I knew the pastor had his own home so the place would be deserted. Great location, for outdoor summer loving!

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Well I know it was more fun when I had more of it. ...I assume atheist sex is when you only believe it's good if you have evidence that it is, but agnostic sex you can never know if it good or not because it's unknowable. smile001.gif (Sorry, couldn't resist).

David1955 Level 7 Jan 26, 2018

Lol! Good points!

,,,nailed it brother

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The worst part about being an atheist, you have nobody to talk to during an orgasm.

Yes, crying out "Oh Universe!!!" at the end doesn't quite cut it, does it.

Oh, theorical God! Oh, theoretical God!

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I'm a gay man, sex came with a lot more baggage under the religious umbrella than just original sin. I think it is better now that I am free of religion, and only care what my partner thinks of my performance, not some pervy 'old guy in the sky'.

icolan Level 7 Jan 26, 2018
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o boy that took me back in my mind even praying to god ....while having sex..i know i was fucked up. smile009.gif

so much more relaxed now.....and yes i still can groan oh god.....

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No it's MUCH better without the idea of religion in the mix.

Cabsmom Level 8 Jan 15, 2019
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Sex was more fun when I was doing it with someone else. Boo hoo

I keep telling my foster son (22) it doesn't count as sex when there is no-one else in the room.

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There is much to be said about enjoying being a human without guilt for being a human.

"Religion is not always in sex, but sex is always in religion."
David La Deau AKA Compelledunbeliever

There is much to be said about forbidden fruit being sweeter as well.

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Nope. At age 13, I realized the Bible is just a book of stories written by men. I was too young for sex.

As an atheist, sex is thrilling and euphoric. The mind is the best sex organ.

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Nope, Free sex is a lot more exciting knowing that you and your partner can do what the hell feels good that you both agree to do.

AlexRam Level 7 Jan 15, 2019
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I never actually thought about it during the act, and if I gave it any thought at all, it was kinda creepy that a guy in an imaginary place was watching me get it on.

However, the very best sex of my life was with my married neighbor, who was also a Jehovah's Witness, and I guess by her standards we were sinning left, right, center, front, back, and sideways (and on one occasion sort of upside down). (I know, I know... TMI smile002.gif) So, depending on how you look at it, I guess when she was sinning, sex was the most fun?

If I had it all to do over, though... much as I loved and wanted her, I would tell her to get herself free first and then be with me. Because that's the straightforward moral choice. I should never have got in the middle of their marriage.

Paul4747 Level 7 Jan 4, 2019

Dam. Where were the JW girls like that when I was in?

@Jerry8472 They were sinning with the atheists and agnostics like me smile002.gif

@Paul4747 I've ok only known a dozen or so JWs throughout my life, but they all had either cheated on or been cheated on by their spouses. ?

@miked3003 .... Interesting. I wonder of it's something about the religion?

I know mine was very frustrated because her husband viewed sex as mainly for making kids, and they had done that, so except on the rare occasions he was super-horny, he wasn't interested. If their church indoctrinates people that way, then those who aren't good at suppressing a normal sex drive are going to seek outlets outside of marriage...

@Paul4747 I think their religion played a role, but I'm not saying that I think all JWs are like that. The people I knew were all pretty wild and partied hard, but when they were with their other JW friends, they acted and dressed way more conservatively. It seemed that they felt repressed in general by their religion and let loose when they were with normal people, and that carried over into their sex lives. I never understood why these people practiced that religion in the first place since they broke all the rules whenever they got a chance.

@miked3003 Probably raised that way, then.
My best man was a gay Mormon who drank and went to the strip club with us (for academic interest only on his part).

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NO! The burden of guilt has been lifted! So I can enjoy it more and feel free to experiment.

BeeHappy Level 9 Nov 29, 2018
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I have never been religious so I would not know. Though sex is still fun as it was always. Seems to me like you need to find a new kink to keep it exciting. Or maybe you are doing it wrong? smile009.gif hehe

Sacha Level 7 Jan 26, 2018

Do we ever learn to do it right?

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I could never make myself believe in original sin. So I gave all religion up : ))

freeofgod Level 8 Jan 16, 2019
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There was no time when I was having sex and believed in original sin (if I ever did).

Same here. My parents taught us that we deserved sexual pleasure.

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Didn’t ever believe in sin, so no.

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Are you kidding? I never believed for one minute about any nonsense about sin and sex (or maybe I was one of those who didn't want to believe). It became more pleasurable with practice and learning new ideas.

Well I did! Santa and the Easter Bunny were also tramatic lessons.

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To me, sex is better without fear, because it opens up the possibility of relaxation and an easy, comfortable psyche, so it will make sex with someone who we like much more pleasurable.
But since in my experience hook-ups depend mostly on there being some element of danger or thrill to overcome boredom (since there is no built up element of trust or affection in a hook-up), then it makes sense to me that the absence of belief would make sex seem less great.

Birch77 Level 1 Jan 1, 2019
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Never believed in original sin. Sex was always great for me, but as I got older it became even better! Been single for years so good men are harder to find.

rubster Level 2 Nov 29, 2018
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Maybe you think too much. Just fuck and enjoy it.

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I was raised atheist when atheism wasn't in the menu , and in a country that pope is the man ? I guess I was lucky !

Pralina1 Level 8 Nov 15, 2018
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I’ve never believed in God, but I do recall the all seeing, all knowing wrathful Mom catching me in the act once, and that was no fun LOL... Sounds like you need to try some more risqué public interactions. smile009.gif

Jenelle Level 6 Jan 26, 2018

Don't we all!

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Just a different brain I guess, but that didn't make it more fun. It terrified me. I took eternal damnation very seriously. Way more fun with only two people in the room judging me.

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As an atheist since age 13, I am free of guilt and inhibitions.

Sex is wonderful without mental roadblocks.

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Nope.. Wasn't even a thought in my head..the only time I feared the wrath of some god was as a child. I was as an adult more afraid of cops catching us..that's another subject

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i wasn't a believer from around 10. but i almost had a come to jesus moment when i woke up in a bed, with a lady, to shouting & my eyes focused on a little man pointing a big gun at me from about 5 ft away.
that was many decades ago & i haven't touched tequila since.

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