To all former believers: was sex more fun when you still feared an all seeing, all knowing, wrathful God? For me, agnostic sex is still awesome, but without the fear of eternal damnation, it's not as risky or exciting. I also got a kinky thrill thinking the old guy in the sky was floating on a cloud, judging me. Thoughts?
I had a girlfriend in high school, who liked to 'do it' in unusual locales. One day, she took me into a Catholic Shrine her family attended. She led me up a winding staircase, that led to the bell tower. Then, she seduced me on a landing, right under a picture of Jesus. All the while, I couldn't help but feel it was inappropriate to be doin that in a Catholic Shrine, beneath a picture of Jesus. I felt downright sacrilegious!
I didn't believe by the time I had sex but I have heard that before. Comedian Pete Holmes grew up really religious until his 20s and talks a lot about how religious people sex is the hottest because nothing could feel naughtier than if you think you're going to hell for this and still can't stop yourself. There's no greater expression of lust than that lol. I don't think it's worth staying under the thumb of religion for but I am strangely extra turned on by sacriligious porn sometimes lol, a little blasphemy goes a long way even if you don't believe in it's consequences.
But I'm sure it's hot in the same sense that autoerotic asphyxiation or tantric edging is hot. Denying yourself something always amplifies the reward center when you actually get it, it's why people become masochists but I'm all about that hedonism now lol. I'll take it guilt free when I can get it, I don't need any extra religious help in denying myself anything. The objective universe has that pretty well covered so far.
i have been an atheist since i was 15. i was a virgin. but i never believed in original sin anyway, and the god in which i kind of loosely believed was not wrathful. i was raised a secular jew. we don't have any of that. all-seeing, that was the cool part as i was a lonely child.
Honestly no? The Bible teaches that it's something to be ashamed of. I felt free letting go of false pretenses of religion and had better sexual experiences after learning to not feel bad that I was having sex with multiple partners before I was married.
nah...I mean most of my sex has been as a non-believer and is a big reason why I am one.
So I think the opposite is more true for me. I enjoyed sex and thought religion had dumb rules about it...people do too sometimes but sex is awesome and always thrilling.
I don't get a great thrill out of "taboo"...maybe once upon a time but because I try not judging or imposing limits "taboo" for many is not for me.
Really? I never was burdened with that. I barely had a clue about sex when I started dating and both of us were virgins and without the idea of sin - his sister had medical training and we read thru her medical books and figured out how not to get pregnant. We had great fun learning and exploring. I guess our thrill came from outdoor sex since we both were still living at home with our parents so sneaking out of the house undetected had it's own adrenaline rush.
Absolutely not!! Fear was not supposed to be part of the picture!!
Oh I see what you mean Eric. But you see, the thing for me is that sex in itself is exiting, and I don’t need the element of risk to make it more exiting. It looks like the excitement of the risky part has more to do with the thrill of the risk seeking behavior than with the sex itself.
I've been an atheist for some years now. I didn't feel ashamed or anything.
Have had all out fucking sucking sex in too many Catholic, Baptist, Unitarian, Methodist, evangelistic’s churches church of Satan in different states and countries, any were in the sanctuaries on alters, pews, organs, and rails also in Mormon temples and where the Mormon tabernacle choir sings, Jewish Temples an Buddha’s temples before I was seventeen, not with the same lady in every place or state!! If was fun not being caught,. There sure are a lot of ladies who have kinky ideas about their religious houses of worship! I worshipped the flesh what a way to be in tune with the universe!!!
Maybe you should try it with an old dude in the room dressed in a puritan's outfit thumbing through his bible in a rocking chair spouting out scriptures about abstinence and hell in the King's English.
A good friend never enjoyed sex (EVER) because she kept thinking of god looking down and watching her. Something very kinky about that. Luckily...it never bothered me.
It didn't matter...always good!
I wouldn't know I never believed that crazy bullshit...
I once had sex on the grass behind the church of my childhood. I knew the pastor had his own home so the place would be deserted. Great location, for outdoor summer loving!