I am right there with you -- well almost. I actually don't like little white lies either and always try to find an alternative to lying. Sometimes that means deflecting. I believe in Meaning What you Say and Saying What You Mean and I try to practice radical honestly. And, sometimes I choose to keep my mouth closed.

@BlueWave I have to admit keeping my mouth closed is a definite go to. However when someone asks me "How's my hair?" and they've had a knit cap welded to their head due to the weather? I tend to lie. It might be a New England Thing? Though I believe I did say "Like you have hat head." at least once. I was fairly certain they wanted an honest answer.

@RavenCT LOL!!! That's funny! See, I just don't think people should ask stuff like that. Just my opinion.

@BlueWave Does this make me look fat? OMG! Why? Why ask that! The horror! lol - But I also don't wear hats - well except for a few hattery hats - but not in a while. I have too damn much hair now to wear hats. It became curly after radiation and it just doesn't fit! Have never in my life asked "Does this make me look fat?". I might ask - "Is this straining at the seams?" but that's pertinent info.! lol And I can't see my own arse. Had a really embarrassing situation in third grade when someone dropped me a from a piggy back and my rear seam on my corduroy bell bottoms just let go, Frankly I'm pretty clear on what makes me look bad? lol

@RavenCT LOL!! Yup -- all that!

Yikes! How embarrassing!

I thought guys liked implants.

Ok is painted hair - hair dye? Or chalking or? Any of the above. lol Never thought I'd dye my hair until it came in like a dudes. With the grey side wings. Just can't do it. Will go grey when I have more of grey or more precisely - white!

@HippieChick58 its a sign of insecurity. Like a guy walking around with super big arms. So what..

@RavenCT. Pink hair . Green hair. Different multi colors. ...

@HippieChick58. It's a visual eye catcher... it's also trailer park guys that like that. I like an all natural lady. Natural beauty is awesome. Not all that make-up. Class turns me on.

@BucketlistBob Good clarification. Most guys can't pick out a good dye job.

@HippieChick58 You know I think that might be a porn industry myth? I was offered an implant after Breast Cancer surgery - but I'm kind of content with my A and my D sides? Maybe it's the feminist in me. Or my older cousin saying "Now I have one that points forward and one that points at my belt". Every women of this generation in my family got hit with it so I have some word of mouth to go on. Or it could be that I could really notch an arrow now unless I have my prosthetic on? lol

@RavenCT. I've seen this in ladies I had to help out. Some in nursing homes. To me it's a badge of honor when you could save yourself by removing a breast. It sucks dealing with prosthetic. My ex Sunday school teacher across the street from me had to have both of hers removed and she and he have radiation treatments. He just retired. What a kick in the ball's. All the money they have spent. Geeze!

@BucketlistBob Oh I still have two! The A and D reference is about sizes! My mom had a total though so I am not put off by that at all. And yes trying to erase the experience is not my goal. I feel for your friends! Breast cancer risk increases exponentially in age. And radiation suxs.

I totally agree about bad posture. Ick, ick, and more ick! Stand up straight.

Bare fingernails? As in unpainted?

I agree with you on implants. My personal preference. I've had small breasts my whole life and I like them just fine -- and they are still in almost the EXACT position they were 30 years ago! Yay! My exception to my dislike of implants is for women whose breasts have been completely transformed by age, weight loss or illness. Then I support it. But, to simply have bigger ta-tas....ugh.... Just my opinion. There are still plenty of women I know and love who have them though.

@HippieChick58 I actually know plenty of men who do not like implants more or better than natural. Many.

Quote: @HippieChick58. It's a visual eye catcher... it's also trailer park guys that like that. I like an all natural lady. Natural beauty is awesome. Not all that make-up. Class turns me on.

@BucketlistBob I wear make-up -- but I strive for it to not be excessive. And, I think I'm pretty classy. Not fem-fem classy. But tomboy classy.

Lmao @ within the last year.

IMO there are worse crimes than murder....genocide, environmental irreperable destruction, animal extinction, colonisation, rape, governmental dereliction of duty in health, housing for all, etc.

@FrayedBear oh yah. I would never date a corporate politician or dictator

@Rudy1962 Still leaves a few million undesirables you have not excluded.

Lol

there are standards and then there are standards.

Good to know! rofl

@RavenCT well there are laws!

@HippieChick58 you have to draw a line somewhere.

I'd never meet anyone if I had those standards...
"So is your sepulcher spruced up or wha'?"

@HippieChick58 And Never Lower Them. Never.

I feel obligated to tell my younger friends that don't have kids that they don't have to have kids.

What if they had no ambition because they won at their career already?

All those -- but I'm okay if the kids are self-sufficient adults.

@Atheistman I'm cool with that.

@ChrisCamper I suppose that would be OK as long as they have something else they are passionate about or at least interested in.

ya like what ya like.

I would have agreed but I have dated a girl who had a condition that required removal, it was hard, and sympathy ruled, so it wasn't a deal breaker,but I think having a penis would be.

@Rugglesby dealbreaker for me is either penis intact or removed.

Dude. What. The. Hell. Happened.

@ChrisCamper @FrayedBear It was a precancerous condition called vulval intra-epithelial neoplasia and it is a most terrible thing for a woman to go through, the surgery is extreme and even if possible sex is unlikely as both parties would be put off. And yes, it all gets removed quite often.

@Rugglesby Oh my gosh......how sad.

@josh_karpf I won't have a TV in my bedroom. I don't keep a computer in the bedroom either, except for the cell phone. I usually read a chapter or two before sleep, or three, or... well if it is a weekend.

@HippieChick58 I hope the phone is at least 8 feet from your head.

@FrayedBear Well, sadly it isn't. It is also my alarm clock so it is within arm's reach. And yes I know it should be,

Yup, yup, and yup! Every single one of yours would be on my list that I don't have to make now! Thanks @hippiechick58!

@BlueWave Glad to help out!

I don't think those are shallow.

@BlueWave

I just meant I’m sure I have deal-breakers that are more shallow than the ones I listed, lol. Like I probably wouldn’t look twice at a guy my age who still uses a chain wallet.

SO not callous. Those are all fair expectations in a potential partner.

Agree with all of it except for the fingernails comment. Am a bus mechanic and it's almost impossible to keep my fingernails clean.

I would make an exception in the case of someone who performed a job that required them to get dirty. The fingernail remark was more of a hygiene issue, not manual labor. I cooked at a restaurant a million years ago. It was impossible to get the smell of onions off my hands.

Trumpanzee - LOL

Thanks for Trumpanzee.

Oh my figurative god Trumpanzee is an absolute gift

there are many really

@jeffy OMG I will so use Trumpanzee!

@FrayedBear thanks mate, I am not used to auto correct.

Thank you!! So many people don't answer their own questions -- I love it when people do!!

When I was young, I remember having the very common "Ewwwww" reaction to even the idea of an uncircumcised penis. But, as I got older and wiser, I find nothing at all to dislike about it.

In fact, were I to have a male child today, he would not get circumcised. I just believe the science -- no medical reason to do so, so why mutilate it. (Just my opinion.)

Not sure if my first message reply went through, but I will again state: the only thing I want to peel and eat is a banana.

Yeah, you don’t have to LOVE cats but you have to be ok with mine!

@SKDeitch I actually DO make my preference known WAY before I'm in bed with someone.

@SKDeitch I actually DO make my preference known WAY before I'm in bed with someone.

@SKDeitch Differences are what the make world go 'round. I appreciate honesty and openness, so I am always honest and open. To a fault, maybe, but I yam what I yam.

I'd go out with almost anyone; dinner is different than sleeping with someone.