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Is it harder for non-believers to find love?

Ronaldo 3 Nov 19
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The dating pool is smaller so in my opinion, yes

not everyone finds love via dating (much less a dating site). i didn't. i found it quite by accident!

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Nobody sends me love letters through this website

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It depends on how tolerant you are to theists. If you choose to date non believers, the pool is smaller. I meet many people but they end being theists and/or trumpsters. I’m not going down either of those paths.

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Yes. I believe it is. Our culture is so mired in religiosity that even those who identify as Christian but do not consider themselves religious distrust us heathens.

So true. I am shocked by many people who call themselves "Christians" or religious. And they are shocked that I am not!

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Absolutely! In my experience believers tend to begin relationships that they might not be fully confident in simply because they believe it is a "good match" i.e. pleasing to their church community or to god. Also, their dating pool is considerably larger to behind with. So we have fewer people to work with and higher standards; which has to translate to diminished opportunity.

Ambir Level 3 Nov 19, 2018

Unfortunately true

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Married life, Buried life.

I'm in a relationship with a freethinker lady now for 29 years. No state recognition needed. Works for us.

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I have never had a problem finding love due to my atheism.

Today nearly three-quarters of adult American men are obese or overweight (and 60 percent of women.) I want a fit, active man who shares my healthy lifestyle.

I am told that i am too skinny. I'm 60 and look 50. 40 and looking 60 seems to be the physical ideal here...LOL

@twill

All my life, I have been mocked for being "too skinny."

My middle finger is twitching.

As a caption for this photo, I wrote:

"Fit is the new sexy," Shape magazine says. I'm finally "in." Sept. 2017

@twill

You look great!

@LiterateHiker Thank you LH! I feel good too! And btw....you look great yourself. U R in shape, not too skinny at all.

@twill

Thank you! Hugs.

Your gorgeous. Keep being yourself!

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it has always been hard for me to find love -- until i did, that is! but religion or lack thereof was never a issue at all. i suppose it depends on your life situation, where you live, what if any religious background you have, all that. i couldn't generalize. i doubt anyone is in a position to answer this question accurately other than for themselves.

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For me as mature lady is difficult to find a romance with a mature man. Because of my expectations of a romantic relationship. Religious men approached to me but I don't have the patience to deal with their religion. So I'm still searching for that special human being.

How true

Hang on in there, girl! Don’t sell yourself short. It’s not worth it. Better to be alone on your own than alone with someone else!

After many years of searching I found that perfect love, the love of me!!!
This is what was missing in my search, Not knowing who I really am allowed me to compromise on some very bad decisions. Now I know what it is and perhaps will find it.

Ditto!

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Well, nonbelivers are less likely to delude themselves about things that aren't real. I am nto sayign love is nto real, because love is real. I am sayign that a lot of peopel delude themselves about the person they want to love, giving them (in their minds) attributes which are not real.

So, yes love is harder to find for nonbelievers, but when it is found, it is based more on realities than self delucions.

Agreed

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From what I hear about the religious, I gather they have a much easier time to get married. Real love, though, that's different.

The best couple I know are unbelievers. Met as teens, never got married, two kids, happily growing old together.
A natural, beautiful connection between equals - unstained by superstitious nonsense and archaic gender-role brainrot.

Usually the church will help find a spouse for marriage. They rarely have to be unmarried for long

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The love part is just like for everyone else. Depending on where you are, however, sometimes just finding each other can be a challenge.

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I've always been a nonbeliever, from the very beginning, and I've never had trouble with the ladies 🙂 Now that I'm married, they still want me. Seriously. If I were single, I know I'd have several dates lined up easily.

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No...why would it be ?

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Yes. I can vouche for that.

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Well yeah dating can be hard as a non believer , it all depends on where you are really. Smaller towns have less freethinkers I assume , bigger town will probably lead to better results.

I agree. I live in a small town. Majority of Life revolves around church and the local school

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Real love or the type of love that last until we find the truth? AS an atheist a real love is one where we share our lives and have very similar values. Falling in love with a spiritual ideology is just temporary

EMC2 Level 8 Nov 28, 2018
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Can’t imagine why!

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One thing usually follows another. I find religious men are also rather conservative / traditional men that would be turned off by a free thinker/ atheist or agnostic.

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In my life, I have had a loving relationship with 7 men. Only 1 of them shared my view regarding religion. I think overcoming serious political differences would prove more difficult. I have never found myself falling for someone with a conservative point of view - no foundation for friendship there...

ledj Level 4 Dec 6, 2018
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It's hard to imagine that the things that we call love, are somehow easier to find if you believe in God. But I do think that people who believe in God are more open to relationships that don't meet the over idealized criteria that this site seems to attract.

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It depends on where you live. I live in a large, liberal, urban city with a large state university, so it's more unusual to find someone who is a practicing believer than it is to find someone who isn't. Or, if you meet someone here who says that they are Baptist, Catholic, whatever, they 1) haven't actually gone to church since they were kids; 2) only go to church on holidays to appease their families.

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If your stuck on finding another non believer I’d say definitely yes especially here in Oklahoma as open atheist people are very rare.

I'm in Central Florida for the winter and I just don't even bother! I'll be back in Chicago in the spring where every other vehicle on the road isn't a pickup truck with a "Jesus loves the NRA" bumpersticker.

@DeStijl I’ve never saw a Jesus loves the NRA bumper sticker and I’m a life member of the NRA and also an atheist.

@Trajan61 It's called sarcasm.

@DeStijl ??? Ok

@Trajan61 I am surrounded by Evangelical Christians for whom the most important things in their lives are Jesus and their guns. And probably their extremely jacked-up pickup trucks.

@DeStijl Not all of us pickup drivers and gun owners are religous nuts. Most of the religous people I know are not the pushy type, however the ones who are, are a pain in the ass.

@Trajan61 I saw this recently in Port Orange Florida and I deemed it a pickup truck unicorn---

@DeStijl ??? Yes I supposed you could call it that.

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It probably depends upon where you live.

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